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September 22, 2018 1st Anniversary Wishes 1 comment

Romance is the key to a long-lasting and healthy relationship. Expressing your love to the woman in your life doesn't mean you have to labor to find the right.

You can be romantic when you profess your love, you can be poetic, and you can be cute. But what is the best way to do what should be the easiest thing: to express your love simply and directly, other than most basic approach: "I love you"?

Here are some quotes attempting to find that simplicity. It's difficult to be sure who wrote some of them, but the thought is what's important, not the pedigree. It's always best to put your declaration of love in your own words, but maybe one of these will work for you, or maybe they will inspire you to come up with your own combination of words. As Plato probably said, "“At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.”

Leo Christopher, "The Wisest Man on Instagram"

“I swear I couldn’t love you more than I do right now, and yet I know I will tomorrow.”

Roy Croft, American poet (possibly a pseudonym)

“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.”

“If raindrops were kisses, I’d send you showers. If hugs were seas, I’d send you oceans. And if love was a person I’d send you me.”

Atticus, Greek or Roman philosopher

"I will never be perfect for you, but I will always imperfectly try to be.”

R.M. Drake (Robert Macias), self-published poet

“It was the way you laughed; I knew I wanted that in my life.”

"You carry away with you a reflection of me, a part of me. I dreamed you; I wished for your existence. You will always be a part of my life. If I love you, it must be because we shared, at some moment, the same imaginings, the same madness, the same stage."

Franz Kafka, Austro-Hungarian writer

“I know of no greater happiness than to be with you all the time, without interruption, without end.”

A.A. Milne, British author, created Winnie-the-Pooh

“If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”

J.R.R. Tolkien, British author

“I would rather spend one lifetime with you, than face all the ages of this world alone.”

Charlotte Brontë, English novelist, "Jane Eyre"

"I have for the first time found what I can truly love—I have found you. You are my sympathy—my better self—my good angel—I am bound to you with a strong attachment. I think you good, gifted, lovely: a fervent, a solemn passion is conceived in my heart; it leans to you, draws you to my centre and spring of life, wrap my existence about you—and, kindling in pure, powerful flame, fuses you and me in one."

Honore de Balzac, French novelist and playwright

“Tonight I can only say that I love you too well for my peace of mind, and that absence from you is death to me.”

Hermann Hesse, German novelist and poet

"f I know what love is, it is because of you.”

Angelita Lim, probably a poet

"I saw that you were perfect, and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect and I loved you even more." 

Nicholas Sparks, American romance novelist and screenwriter

"You are the answer to every prayer I’ve offered. You are a song, a dream, a whisper, and I don’t know how I could have lived without you for as long as I have."

"When I follow my heart, it leads me to you."

Saying 'I love you' is not the words I want to hear from you. Kokuhaku. So much more than a simple word, this two-kanji phrase has the power.

How To Write A Love Letter That Will Make Them Cry

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How do I begin to profess my love for you? The love that I possess in my heart can only be felt--never really explained. Words are lacking and language is inadequate when it comes to the affairs of the heart. There are no songs as beautiful as the music that has filled my soul since the day you came into my life. You changed me forever.

We were created for each other. You and I have been together since the beginning of time--souls entwined, loving each other among the stars. I will love you until the stars no longer shine. You are my reason for living, and I exist only for you. My every heartbeat throbs the melody of your name.

You have given me a new version of myself. You have healed a scarred heart and brought into the sunshine a love that I never knew resided in me. My eyes, that have only known tears of pain, now know tears of happiness. I will feel no rain because you are my shelter, and I will feel no cold, because you are my warmth. In you, I know I am finally home.

Some people wait their whole lives, never finding the one they love, never finding the one kiss that sets their spirits free. They feel the touch that reaches beyond the surface, straight into their hearts and souls. Surely, I am blessed because now I have found that special one in you. I found everything I ever wanted in everything that you are.

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How to Confess your Love to a Girl and Not Get Rejected

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When it coms to love, falling into it is a lot easier than maintaining it. There’s a reason, after all, that it's called "falling" in love, because it's mostly out of your control — the heart just takes over. Because those emotions come so easily and naturally at first, it may feel strange later on when it actually takes a little work to maintain and support those feelings. But here's the deal: It really isn't that complicated to keep those loving feelings alive so long as you do the small things to maintain it, like knowing what to say to your partner every day to create the emotional feedback loop that keeps your connection strong and passionate.

While showing your partner your love verbally is not that complicated, it does take some actual effort on your part — and even some uncomfortable emotional honesty sometimes. But hey, isn't love worth the effort? Of course it is. There's nothing better than loving someone and feeling that in return. But in order to receive it, you have to give it, too. It's kind of amazing how powerful your words can be in your relationship, so use them to strengthen your bond by always making the effort to tell your partner these things every day.

1. “I Love You.”

OK, this one might seem pretty obvious, or maybe you think it's enough to show it in your actions, but we all need to hear it sometimes, too. Just make sure that when you are expressing how you feel, it’s not just an empty call and response. Be present in the words and say it like you mean it. Because you do!

2. “I Like You.”

Love may be the big emotion, but “like,” in some ways, is even more gratifying. It means you dig them as a person, that they are special and fun, and you want to be around them. You're not just lovers, you're friends. In other words, to you, they are the whole package. Tell them that.

3. “Thank You.”

Always take the time to show your partner that you appreciate them. Nothing kills love faster than feeling taken for granted. Big gestures are wonderful and romantic, but love is really made of all the little things we do for another, simply because we love them. Don't let those little moments get swept by. Acknowledge them.

4. “How Are You?”

One of the most loving things you can do is to simply check in with your partner emotionally, making sure you know how they are feeling and offering support when they need it. We feel the most loved when someone takes an interest in our wellbeing, so make an effort to be that person for each other by simply asking how they are and giving them an invitation to share the highs and the lows of what's going on in their life.

5. “You Make Me Happy.”

It just feels good to know we're making the people we love happy. It also reinforces all the good things they are doing for you. Knowing what they're doing is working will encourage them to do it even more. A win-win for everyone.

6. “Here’s What I Need.”

Now, I’m not talking about a laundry list of to-dos. No, this is all about having a straightforward conversation about your needs with your partner, rather than bottling up your feelings until you explode or start being passive aggressive. Sometimes, it can be hard to just come out about what we need in a relationship, because it feels very vulnerable. However, it’s the only way to make sure both of your needs are being addressed without resentment or frustration.

7. “I Hear You.”

Sometimes, it feels like a real struggle to truly be "heard," in the figurative sense, so when your partner makes an effort to hear you and acknowledge what you are saying, it is powerful.

8. “You Are So Hot.”

Feeling desired is a big plus for a lot of people, especially over time, when things in the bedroom inevitably slow down a bit. So reinforcing that you love, like, and want your partner, both emotionally and physically, is a great way to keep the love burning bright.

9. “I Believe In You.”

If your partner doesn't believe in you, what is the point of even being together? If you are planning to be together long-term (or even short-term, really), you always want to encourage each other to reach for more and achieve more. One of the ways you do that is by simply letting them know that you believe they can achieve it.

10. “I’ve Got Your Back.”

Along with knowing your partner knowing you believe in them, it also helps them to know that, should they fail, you'll be right there supporting them when they need it most and helping them to get back up if they fall.

See? It's not too hard to show them the love in your words. While it may seem like a bit of work at first, over time, it becomes a habit — a heathy one that helps you both feel love, supported, and heard. And who couldn’t use more of that in their everyday lives?

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What To Say To Your Partner Every Day To Keep The Love Alive

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Whether you want to profess your love to someone special, or you want to re-affirm your love to your significant other, words are a massively powerful tool.

The problem is that most people aren’t as eloquent as they would like to be when it comes to putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard).

If you effectively write a love letter to your significant other, you can make them cry tears of joy, you will deepen your connection with them, and they will have a keepsake to cherish for eternity that they can come back to whenever they feel like reading it and feeling a bonus burst of love.

Whether it’s a birthday present, Christmas card, anniversary gift, or just a random Tuesday for fun, an expertly written love letter can do amazing things for your relationship. Personally, I don’t believe in letting love letters only come up for major occasions. In fact, I believe in writing some form of a long-form love letter to your partner on (at least) a quarterly basis. If you’re with them, shouldn’t they deserve to know why you love them?

Here are some tips on how to write a powerful love letter that will make your partner cry tears of joy.

Things to Consider Before Writing Your Love Letter

Before I get into the brass tacks structure of how to write your love letter, there are some things that I feel need to be expressed explicitly when in comes to the craft of love letter writing.

1. Calibration

You could deliver the most beautiful piece of stationary with the finest calligraphy on the planet, but if the words on the page sound like a copy and paste job that you took from Hallmark and they didn’t make much sense for your specific relationship then the effect would be ruined.

The content of your love letter needs to make sense. Everything you say has to make the recipient think, “Wow, this is so true, sweet, and thoughtful. They really see me for who I am.”

So as much as I’m going to give you every element you need (and show you a sample love letter near the end to check out) the end result of your love letter has to be calibrated to the person you’re writing it to. It has to come from your heart. I’m giving you the skeleton of the love letter… it’s up to you to put the meat on it and give it added life.

2. Surprise

Love letters on Christmas, Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, and birthdays are no-doubt powerful… but there should be an element of surprise when your love letters are gifted.

Don’t warn them that they’re going to get one in a few days as you’re in the process of writing it… just deliver it. BAM! Instant romance.

3. Variety

Don’t just spend your thousand-word love letter harping on the same thing. Even though it’s a nice gesture, giving someone a love letter exclusively focusing on their external beauty might not be as well received compared to a letter that touches on a multitude of different elements of them as a person.

Variety is key! More on this shortly.

4. The format is irrelevant

I get it… not all of us are born writers. But don’t think that there is only one way of writing a love letter. It doesn’t have to be lengthy prose, or a rhyming poem, or anything else that society has led us to believe is the way to write a love letter.

While I personally find that un-rhyming words are usually better and connect with the heart more deeply, whether you write a bullet point top ten list, a traditional poem, or twenty paragraphs of free flowing words, it’s the thought and the calibration that counts. The format is irrelevant as long as it genuinely comes from your heart.

5. The medium is irrelevant

Some purists believe that hand written notes are the only way to go when it comes to delivery love letters… and while hand written is totally bad ass and a classic way of doing things, if your hand writing is as bad as mine then you might be better off sending a typed message (via email, Facebook, etc.).

Now, some people would argue that hand written letters stand the test of time more than sending the words via (for exaggerations sake) a Facebook message. But hand written letters can catch on fire… or have coffee spilled on them… or get eaten by the dog. So who is to say that a hand written love letter will necessarily last longer than a digital message will?

Whether you deliver it via beautiful stationary in your finest handwriting, a carefully crafted digital message, or a piece of paper that you commemorate in a photo frame, the delivery medium is largely irrelevant. What’s important is that you write it at all. If you’re better at communicating your innermost thoughts in one medium over the other, go with whatever feels natural.

Important Things To Include In Your Love Letter

I will now go into some structural elements of an effective love letter that you can then mix and match and use as you see fit. There is no one correct order for these to appear in in your finished love letter… these are simply elements. Some of them will resonate with you and others won’t mean as much to you. That’s fine. Use whatever it useful for you.

Here are seven important structural elements that you can include in your love letter.

1. Start with why

Personally, I love starting my love letters with a quick explanation as to why I’m sending it. This can be as short as a few words, or as lengthy as a few paragraphs.

For example you could say any of the following to kick off your love letter:

“This letter is long overdue, and it’s been tumbling around in my mind for weeks now. So I thought it was finally time to put pen to paper and tell you how I feel about you.”

“You do so many little things day to day that only ever elevate my opinion of you. You are such a gift in my life and you deserve to know it… so I decided to write you this letter.”

“I’m not so good with talking about my feelings sometimes, but I didn’t want my thoughts to go unsaid… so I thought a letter would be best.”

Grounding the love letter with a reason can lead people in to the experience of “Get ready for this huge incoming smorgasbord of emotions!” by pacing their reality of “What am I about to be reading here?”

2. What do they bring to your life?

For this point, and the following five points, brainstorm your responses for as long as you need to. Give it it’s own few sheets of paper if you need to.

What exactly does your partner bring to your life? Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, sexually. How do they elevate your life? How do they make your daily existence that much easier or better?

Maybe you’ve told them about certain ways, or maybe you’ve told them almost none of them. This is your chance. Brainstorm out anywhere from 10-50 things that your partner brings to your life and then pick your favourite handful to focus on.

Some examples could be:

“I love how you encourage the best parts of me. I am healthier, more driven, and more emotionally fulfilled than at any other point in my life and that is in large part because of you.”

“Thank you so much for reminding me who I am when I sometimes forget. I am so grateful to have you as a rock in my life.”

“You have helped me turn my dreams into a reality in so many areas of my life. You are an absolute blessing.”

As always, make sure that it’s true for YOU. Calibration is key. And, by all means, if any of the above examples do ring true for you then please feel free to use them verbatim.

3. Allude to memories that you share

As simple as it sounds. Do you have a pre-existing relationship with this person? Then write out a list of all of your favourite memories that you shared and then pick your top couple of memories to reference in your love letter.

Examples:

“That one time that you laughed so hard that chocolate milk came out of your nose? I fell in love with you right then and there.”

“I can’t believe it’s already been two years since we went on that trip to (location) together. I have such fond memories of how we navigated the streets like a team and we went the entire trip without even a small argument. We’ve always worked so well together as a couple and I couldn’t feel happier that we’re together.”

“Our first kiss was so blissful that I thought I might fall over. My legs felt like jelly for the next few days. You certain have always had a powerful effect on me.”

You can either allude to your multiple memories in a rapid fire 1-2 sentence format, or you can really sit with one amazing memory and describe it in vivid detail. The choice is yours.

4. What do you love about them?

A slight variation on point #2, what specifically do you love about the person you’re writing to?

What do you love about their character, their appearance, or what they fill their life with? Brainstorm/jot it down, and then let them know what you consider to be the highlights.

Examples of what you might love about them:

“I love your drive and ambition. I have endless faith that you’ll achieve anything you put your mind to.”

“You are so amazingly loyal to those you care about. The depth with which you love others is nothing short of inspiring. I love your massive heart.”

“I don’t think I actually had a sex drive before I met you. You are the sexiest thing in the world and I couldn’t be more attracted to everything about you.”

“You are so thoughtful with me. I noticed that you did (X), (Y), and (Z), recently and I want you to know that I notice all of it.”

“Your eyes are so captivating. I could get lost in them forever.”

“You are simply the best person I have ever known. I have endless respect for you and the way that you carry yourself in this world. So thank you for being you.”

5. What do they not get told enough by you (or by anyone)?

I call this the Elusive Obvious effect. Often some of the things that are presented most obviously in plain view are the things that get taken for granted the most.

Also, if you are more prone to complimenting them on just one thing or one area (i.e. only their physical appearance, or only one of the things that they bring to your life) then this can be a good exercise for expanding your awareness of all of the other things that you love about them.

6. The devil’s in the details

While it’s nice to praise the things hidden in plain view, I find that the most memorable moments in love letters come from finding the super specific details that you love about the love letter recipient and letting them be known. Just imagine… your love letter could be the first thing in the recipients entire life that lets them know that they have some specific gift that they bring to another’s life. And every time they notice that detail about themselves, the thought will be linked back to you and your thoughtful letter.

Really sit and brainstorm with this one. What are the teensy tiny, detailed things that your love letter recipient does/is that make your heart light up? It could be the way that they laugh, the way they eat, or the way they tear up when you’re watching a certain movie together. I wish I could give you a laundry list of 200 things for you to pull from but you know your love letter recipient infinitely better than I do. Really give this specific exercise some time. The few nuggets of gold that you mine from your brain will pay dividends in your relationship for years to come if you do this one right.

7. Plans for the future

I like to finish my love letters with this element, but you can put them throughout your letter as you see fit.

Let them know that you’re in the relationship for the long haul by alluding to some imagined future plans that you want to see come to fruition.

Maybe it’s the fact that you’ll have children one day… or a trip to Paris that you want to take in a few years… or kissing each other’s wrinkly old faces. Whatever it is, make it something that you’re authentically excited about for your shared future.

An Example Of An Effective Love Letter

I was going to include some real life love letters that I have sent out to my girlfriend, close friends, and parents in this section… but having read through the dozens of letters that I’ve written over the past few years, I’ve found that they’re all SO highly calibrated that they wouldn’t make much sense to people that didn’t know the letter’s recipient.

So I’m going to just write out a simple sample structure following my own advice just so you can see what a love letter would look like following the above points.

Sample love letter:

My love,

These past few weeks have been relatively challenging for me, as you know, and you have been such a blessing to me. I can’t always express my innermost thoughts as accurately as I want to in the moment and so I wanted to write you this letter to tell you how much you mean to me.

As amazing as I thought my life was before we first crossed paths, I couldn’t have dreamed of how much better my life would become after we first met. Since then I’ve felt healthier, happier, more accomplished, and more love day to day than at any other point in my life. I feel so grateful to be able to wake up next to you every day, and am so happy that yours are the lips that I get to kiss before I nod off every day.

From the craziness of white water rafting in Georgia to the silly fun at the trampoline park in San Francisco… we always seem to make fun situations out of otherwise challenging moments. I couldn’t feel luckier to have you by my side through all of the trials and tribulations of my life.

I don’t tell you often enough but I have such unending respect for you and how you carry yourself throughout your life. Your integrity is admirable. Your heart is so expansive and kind. Your eyes are like pools of green silk that I love getting lost in.

I love how you are with your family. You are so loving and patient with them and they obviously all look to you for advice because they value you and your opinion so much.

I love how considerate you are. You do so many little things for me that only ever add to my already never-ending list of things that I love about you. Whether it’s something as thoughtful as filling up my car’s gas tank, or something as seemingly insignificant as offering to give me a quick shoulder rub while we wait in traffic… you are such an amazing person and I’m so thankful that I get to be yours.

I’m so looking forward to kissing your old wrinkly face one day.

Love,

Me! <3

Spread The Love

Remember, this article is meant to be a guide… a starting point… a skeleton structure that you can now make your own. And even if you copy and paste certain parts of this article to use in your love letter (which you are totally free to do), make sure that you modify the sentence a little bit so that the recipient couldn’t just Google the words and find out that you borrowed them from someone else.

Bottom line… whatever you write and however you deliver it, make sure it’s from your heart. If it’s authentically you, they will love it just as much as they love you.

If you enjoyed this post, you’ll likely love reading:

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Dedicated to your success,

Jordan

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