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January 31, 2019 1st Anniversary Wishes No comments

And that we would never have a second chance. Honestly, I'm still hoping for a second chance, that maybe you will realize and look looking.

Dear Meredith,

I'm 38 and my ex is 28. I have a good income and savings, whereas he is just at the beginning of his career, not earning much and has no savings. We were together for seven months. In the last two months of the relationship, he started nitpicking and criticizing me for every little thing I do, to the point where we would often fight. I expressed that I didn't like it. He said he was subconsciously angry with me and that I sometimes make him feel small.

I think he felt pressured to find a better job and earn more money, even though I never asked him to. He was also having a lot of stress at work and hated his job. I broke it off because despite discussions, things were getting worse.

Since the breakup, we've been seeing each other once a week. He apologized for what happened, and attributes it to realizing that he has unresolved insecurities because of his ex. He said he was behaving the way he did to to push me away. He said he doesn't want it to happen again.

I know I still like him a lot. The last few dates we went on felt as great as our first dates. I want to give him a chance again, but I'm afraid that if the same thing happens, I'll be even more devastated. I also don't know if it's a waste of time to wait for him to "grow up" and learn to better control his emotions. Maybe I should look for someone else, given my age and desire to have children. I'd appreciate your advice on whether people like this can ever change. Should I give him a chance again or just move on?

– Trying Again

People do change and learn from their mistakes. I can't tell you whether this particular man is capable; all I know is that you chose to keep seeing him after the breakup. You were clear in your letter that you "want to give him a chance again." Isn't that your answer? It sounds like you need to know if this can be more.

You say you fear that if it doesn't work out, you'll be even more devastated, but that might not be the case. This time around, you'll be quick to recognize old patterns for what they are. If the nitpicking starts up again, you'll know it's not random – and that you won't put up with it. Instead of feeling devastated at that point, you might be more confident about your decision to walk away for good.

Please know that even if your second try continues to go well, he'll still be the person he is now. If you can't imagine having children with him when he's at the current version of his best, you should ask yourself what you're really looking for.

– Meredith

Readers? Try again?

An open letter to the second chance I keep on giving. Every time I start to give you another chance- first, second, third,- I remember why I ended things in the first.

An open letter to the second chance I keep on giving

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If you've been dismissed from college for poor academic performance, your college will most likely give you an opportunity to appeal that decision. The best approach is to appeal in person, but if the school doesn't allow face-to-face appeals or if the travel costs are prohibitive, you should plan to write the best appeal letter possible. (In some cases, you might be asked to do both—the appeals committee will ask for a letter in advance of the in-person meeting.)

Qualities of a Successful Appeal Letter

  • Demonstrates an understanding of what went wrong
  • Takes responsibility for academic failures
  • Outlines a clear plan for future academic success
  • Conveys points in an honest tone

In the sample letter below, Emma was dismissed after she ran into academic trouble because of difficulties at home. She uses her letter to explain the extenuating circumstances that caused her to perform below her potential. After reading the letter, be sure to read the discussion of the letter so that you understand what Emma does well in her appeal and what could use a little more work. 

Emma's Appeal Letter

Dear Dean Smith and Members of the Scholastic Standards Committee:

I am writing to appeal my academic dismissal from Ivy University. I was not surprised, but very upset to receive a letter earlier this week informing me of my dismissal. I'm writing with the hope that you will reinstate me for next semester. Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to explain my circumstances.

I admit I had a very difficult time last semester, and my grades suffered as a result. I don't mean to make excuses for my poor academic performance, but I would like to explain the circumstances. I knew that registering for 18 credit hours in the spring would require a lot of me, but I needed to earn the hours so that I was on track to graduate on time. I thought I could handle the workload, and I still think I could have, except that my father became very ill in February. While he was home sick and unable to work, I had to drive home every weekend and some weeknights to help out with household duties and to care for my little sister. Needless to say, the hour-long drive each way cut into my study time, as did the chores I had to do at home. Even when I was at school, I was very distracted with the home situation and was unable to focus on my schoolwork. I understand now that I should have communicated with my professors (instead of avoiding them), or even taken a leave of absence. I thought I could handle all of these burdens, and I tried my best, but I was wrong.

I love Ivy University, and it would mean so much to me to graduate with a degree from this school, which would make me the first person in my family to complete a college degree. If I am reinstated, I will focus much better on my schoolwork, take fewer hours, and manage my time more wisely. Fortunately, my father is recovering and has returned to work, so I should not need to travel home nearly as often. Also, I have met with my advisor, and I will follow her advice about communicating better with my professors from now on.

Please understand that my low GPA that led to my dismissal does not indicate that I am a bad student. Really, I'm a good student who had one very, very bad semester. I hope you will give me a second chance. Thank you for considering this appeal.

Sincerely,

Emma Undergrad

A quick word of warning before we discuss the details of Emma's letter: Do not copy this letter or parts of this letter in your own appeal! Many students have made this mistake, and academic standards committees are familiar with this letter and recognize its language. Nothing will torpedo your appeal efforts faster than a plagiarized appeal letter. The letter needs to be your own.

Critique of Sample Appeal Letter

Any student who has been dismissed from college has an uphill battle to fight. The college has indicated that it lacks confidence in your ability to succeed academically, so the appeal letter must re-instill that confidence. 

A successful appeal must demonstrate that you understand what went wrong, take responsibility for the academic failures, outline a clear plan for future academic success, and demonstrate that you are being honest with yourself and the committee.

Many students who appeal an academic dismissal make the mistake of attempting to place the blame for their problems on someone else. Certainly external factors can contribute to academic failure, and it is fair to describe extenuating circumstances. However, it is important to own up to your own mistakes. In fact, acknowledging mistakes is a major sign of maturity. Remember that the appeals committee does not expect college students to be perfect; instead, they want to see that you recognize your mistakes and have learned from them.

Emma's appeal succeeds fairly well in all of the above areas. First of all, she does not try to blame anyone but herself. She has extenuating circumstances—her father's illness—and she is wise to explain them, but she doesn't make excuses. Instead, she acknowledges that she did not handle her situation well. She owns up to the fact that she should have been in contact with her professors when she was struggling, and ultimately should have withdrawn from classes and taken a leave of absence when her father's illness started to dominate her life.

The overall tone of Emma's letter is sincere. The committee now knows why Emma had such bad grades, and the reasons seem both plausible and pardonable. Assuming she did earn solid grades in her earlier semesters, the committee is likely to believe Emma's claim that she is a "good student who had one very, very bad semester."

Emma also presents a plan for her future success. The committee will be pleased to hear that she is communicating with her advisor. In fact, Emma would be wise to have her advisor write a letter of support to go with her appeal.

A few elements of Emma's future plan could use a little more detail. She says that she "will focus much better on [her] schoolwork" and "manage [her] time more wisely." The committee is likely to want to hear more on these points. If another family crisis arises, what will Emma do to ensure that she is able to stay focused on schoolwork? What is her time management plan? She won't become a better time manager simply be saying she will do so. How exactly is she going to learn and develop more effective time management strategies? Are there services at her school to help with her time management strategies? If so, she should mention those services and describe how she will utilize them.

On the whole, Emma comes across as a student who deserves a second chance. Her letter is polite and respectful, and she is honest with the committee about what went wrong. A severe appeals committee may reject the appeal because of the mistakes Emma made, but many colleges would be willing to give her a second chance.

More on Academic Dismissals

Emma's letter provides a good example of a strong appeal letter, and these six tips for appealing an academic dismissal can help guide you as you craft your own letter. Also, there are many less sympathetic reasons for being kicked out of college than we see in Emma's situation. Jason's appeal letter takes on a more difficult task, for he was dismissed because alcohol took over his life and led to academic failure. Finally, if you want to see some common mistakes students make when appealing, check out Brett's weak appeal letter. 

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Second Chance Love Letter

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Mistakes do happen on the job, and you might need to convince your boss that you deserve a second chance when you mess up. When it happens, it's best to take responsibility for your actions and express regret for your error. If it was a bad judgment call or a poor decision, you can explain that you learned a hard lesson and assure your boss it won't happen again. For offenses against co-workers or clients, you may need to issue a formal apology for your actions.

Express Regret

When you've made a mistake at work that could cost you your job, it's best to honestly and openly express regret for the error. It may be tempting, but don't blame co-workers for problems that resulted from your own poor decisions, personal misconduct, misrepresentation of facts or technical errors. Supervisors are more likely to give you a second chance if you take responsibility for your job failures. When you express regret, try to avoid displaying intense emotions or crying. Act professionally, humbly admit your mistakes and earnestly explain to your boss why you believe you deserve another chance.

Example:

I take full responsibility for my team's sales report arriving late. I misunderstood Jack to say that he would be submitting it. In retrospect, I realize I should have followed up with Jack to verify the status of the report. In the future, I will listen more carefully, especially when it comes to deadlines.

Offer an Apology

Offering a sincere apology to subordinates, supervisors, staff, clients, customers or patients affected by your mistake or error in judgement is necessary to smooth over a difficult situation. Recognize that some of your co-workers may have made similar mistakes, and they might not hold what happened against you. After you've contacted those affected by the mistake, tell your boss that you offered sincere apologies so she knows you take the mistake seriously. Your contrite attitude toward the situation might be enough to convince your boss that you're worthy of a second chance.

Example:

I am truly sorry for missing the staff meeting today. I was on the phone with an important client and forgot that you had asked me to give an update on the new widget account at our meeting. I would like to apologize to you and the rest of the team for letting you down.

Fix What You Can

When possible, try to fix what you can without making the situation worse. For example, you can offer to stay late, work weekends or compensate your employer. If you carelessly broke a piece of equipment, lost valuable computer files, damaged a vehicle or entered incorrect information, express your willingness to fix the problem without pay or even repay your employer for the loss. Your employer might have insurance to cover large mistakes or physical damage, and you can offer to pay any portion that isn't covered by insurance.

Example:

I am so embarassed that I accidentally deleted the January sales report. I tried everything possible to recover the file. I realize that you must have that report by Tuesday. I still have the raw data and can recreate the report by Monday afternoon if I work on it over the weekend.

Discuss Precautions

Once you've tried to repair the damage, discuss changes you intend to make or fail-safe measures you'll take to ensure similar mistakes don't happen again. You can explain to your boss that to avoid future problems, you will ask a co-worker to review your work before you send it to clients, for example, or back up your computer files every day. For mistakes with equipment, discuss with your boss how you plan to clean your workstation or follow new procedures to ensure proper functionality. When you discuss precautionary efforts you're willing to take to eliminate future mistakes, discuss the timeline for making those improvements so your boss is motivated to give you a second chance.

Example:

Starting today, I will count the cash register twice to prevent a similar financial error in the future. I am disappointed in myself for not catching the error at the time, and I will work at being more vigilant.

About the Author

As curriculum developer and educator, Kristine Tucker has enjoyed the plethora of English assignments she's read (and graded!) over the years. Her experiences as vice-president of an energy consulting firm have given her the opportunity to explore business writing and HR. Tucker has a BA and holds Ohio teaching credentials.

She received a form letter rejecting her request for reconsideration in response. H.G. wrote a final letter to AHRCO asking for a second chance. H.G.'s letter.

If You Give Me A Second Chance, I Promise Not To Waste It

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[Here briefly focus on sample Apology letter to employer for a mistake, for misconduct. Mistake/misconducts are not regularly happened in the workplace. If it happens you should show Apology to your higher authority. You can modify this format as your requirement.]

Date…

Authority name…

Institute/company name…

Institute/Company Address…

Sub: Apology letter for mistake and request for Second Chance

Respected Sir,

With all due respect, I want to apologize for not fulfilling the company rules the other day. As held by the discipline committee I was found guilty of violating the company rules. (show actual problem and situation). However, it was an innocent mistake as I was not aware of such details about obligations.

On the other hand, I am also very ashamed of my behavior and want to rectify it. Please grant me a second chance so I can correct myself and abide by the laws in the future.

I shall be very thankful to you. Thank you very much.

Yours sincerely,

Employee name…

Job Designation…

 

Another format,

Date…

Authority name…

Institute/company name…

Institute/Company Address…

Sub: Apology letter for mistake and request for Second Chance

Dear {Mr./Mrs. Name},

I would like to take this time to make a formal apology to you on the record. I recognize that behavior was not only unprofessional but also harmful to productivity. It was not my intention to be a negative force in the office. (Brief explanation of the reason for the behavior.)

Thank you for addressing this problem so professionally. You have always been an excellent superior and I apologize for any problems this has caused you. (show actual problem and situation).

I know that I have no right to ask you for a second chance, but I promise that I have addressed the source of the problem and that I am taking the following steps to correct it and ensure that it never happens again (official rules and conducts).

Once again, I am deeply sorry for my behavior and I appreciate everything you’ve done for me. If there is anything else I can do to prove to you that I am ready to be part of the team again, please let me know.

Sincerely,

Employee name…

Job Designation…

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