You've just received a super positive compliment after all your hard work! Well, I have good news for you: saying thank you is a perfectly acceptable way to.
We all know how great it is to receive a compliment. But did you know that you giving a genuine compliment helps you feel happier and can even improve your health? Research has shown that when we do something kind, our brains release oxytocin, the "hug hormone" that makes us feel really good. And giving someone a genuine compliment is one of the easiest ways to practice kindness!
So here's a hundred ready-made compliments to try out yourself:
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Since childhood, we are often taught by our parents to say “Thank You” whenever some give us a compliment, praises us for our doings or shower us with gifts. In fact, the teaching of parents to a child to say “Thank you” is so common that in public places you often hear this term. Moreover, the utterance of the word- “Thank you” is very common at school, colleges, and workplace or party gatherings. Usually a quick or humble “Thank you” is uttered by the child and the parents are usually satisfied. The art of saying “Thank you” must be taught at a young age so that you can have this habit even when you grow up. Being thankful to those people who have often appreciated our work is very important for us to lead a happy and peaceful life.
You must believe in accepting compliments since this important in your life. You must accept the good and bad compliment at the same time so that you can improve yourself even better. Every day, in our life we receive compliments from our relatives, friends, and co-workers. When we receive good compliments, it meant that they admire us, love us, respect us or they have liked our work or achievements.
Getting compliments inspires us to perform better and also be a humble person in human nature. A lot of hard work is done while doing a certain job. When you successfully complete that job and get the nice compliments from your admirers, parents, boss, or loved ones when you feel very happy and cheerful. Moreover, these compliments will diminish all the pains you have endured while completing that job or task. Hence, it will also give you the inspiration to concentrate more on your work and goals. However, those compliments which have inspired you and praised your hard work will stay in your memory forever. These compliments will continue to inspire you more. Moreover, when a known person does something great, then it is also your duty to appraise them, compliment them and encourage them.
Suppose, you receive great compliments from your social circle in form of e-mail and messages on social networking sites like FaceBook. Then, won’t it feel great if you accept that compliment and respond then with a humble “Thank you”? You can also respond them by saying “Thank you for your compliment”, “thank you for your kind words” or “thank you for your appreciation or I really love it” and so on. Moreover, your way of saying “Thank you” should be more ornamental so that it gives a good impression to that person who has complimented you. You can add some beautiful and heart touching responses and words to make your way of saying “Thank You” for a compliment more special. Giving a compliment in exchange for another compliment helps in building good relationships and effectively nurtures the relationship or associations for the future too. Saying a “Thank You” is easy. But if that term is expressed with feelings and emotions then it will feel very special to the compliment giver.
Here are few tips to write a decent Thank you note which truly connect your genuine appreciation towards the people who have complimented you.
I just love the huggable baby cap you gave me at my baby shower. This is the most adorable gift I have ever received. I can’t wait to see my baby wearing that cap. I know she will love it. Thank you for making my baby shower a special one.
Team-mates like you make it easy to achieve the tough milestone because of your tremendous support. Thank you for the sweet compliments in your greetings letter which has been presented to me.
We are a family and there is no need to say thanks to me. Whatever I have done was my duty. Thank you for your concern.
Uncle, I was pleased when you’re supporting and encouraging me on the sports ground. Thank you for supporting me all the way. You have given me the inspiration to work harder and achieve my goals. Please accept my heartiest thanks and keep on encouraging me further.
Thank you for your heartfelt generous words and appreciating my project and hard work. Your kind words have inspired me to take more projects in future and complete them successfully.
It was your constant attention and good teachings for what I have achieved in my school exams. Thank you for your support and for your blessings I will work even harder and do well in my studies.
Research has shown that receiving praise, a compliment, or a positive work review can have the same effect on someone as receiving a cash award. But if this is really the case, then why don’t we find the whole experience more, well, pleasant? Oftentimes, receiving a compliment can feel pretty awkward.
Unfortunately, most of us aren't born with social graces. Some people (think politicians, salespeople, and many extroverts for example) easily respond to compliments with quick, appreciative gesture; the rest of us, however, often become flustered and stammer out the first response we can think of — which often isn't the best choice and doesn't convey the actual gratitude we feel. Ideally, your response should leave the complimenter feeling appreciated and validated.
The same way you respond in person: with a thank you!
A short note is acceptable — what you want to convey is that you've seen the praise. While not responding may seem like a good idea, especially if you're trying to avoid clogging up their inbox, trust me, you'll want to acknowledge you received the message.
The reasons are varied, ranging from not wanting to appear big-headed or vain to not wanting to be seen as taking the credit for something we may not have been totally responsible for. Perhaps you may struggle with Imposter Syndrome and feel that the work you’ve done doesn’t deserve praise for that reason, or maybe you’re just suspicious of flattery.
Add to all this the fact that in some cultures, humility is often heavily prized, and accepting a compliment could be perceived as having an overly superior sense of self or feeling better than others. I’ve certainly seen instances of this firsthand throughout my career, as well as noting the differences in people’s comfort levels when giving and receiving compliments across cultures and nationalities.
When you receive a compliment, the most important thing to remember is that someone has taken the time and effort to provide this positive feedback to you. So despite your feeling the urge to deflect or downplay it, the simplest and easiest response is to say a genuine and sincere “thank you” to the person who complimented you.
If you are given a compliment in person, it’s always important that you first and foremost communicate gratitude by saying “thank you” to the other party directly, ideally accompanied with eye contact, a positive demeanor, and a friendly smile. Depending on the nature of your relationship with this person, you may even choose to say, “Thank you, I really appreciate you taking the time to say this.” This way, it shows that you really do acknowledge the compliment and aren’t just shrugging it off with an “oh, thanks.”
One area that has been known to cause especial discomfort is when someone compliments an individual of the opposite gender, especially at work. Certainly, not all supposed “compliments” are warranted — some are even flat-out inappropriate. You need to use your own personal judgment based on the relationship you have with an individual before complimenting them, but of course, positive feedback and genuine merit-based compliments should only bring happiness to the workplace.
It’s always important to remember that the person who paid the compliment needs recognition, too, for taking the time to pay it to you. However, that doesn’t necessarily mean you then need to throw a compliment straight back at them! Should you find an opportunity to provide praise or a compliment back, then do take it. Be sure to be specific about why are you complimenting them, though, so that it doesn’t seem disingenuous.
This is especially the case if the compliment you’d be giving in return isn’t totally unwarranted. You’ll seem insincere, and the other person will likely wind up having to share in your awkwardness.
For those of us who have grown up in or worked in a company culture where giving praise or paying compliments is rare, we naturally assume we don’t really deserve it and surely the other person must be “after something” from us in saying it.
First and foremost, resist your urge to just “shrug it off” and use those immortal words of “Oh, it was nothing.” You may think you are being modest in saying that, but in reality you are potentially diminishing the feedback the person has just provided you. Worse still, it may be seen as a sign that you are actually “fishing” for more compliments (yikes!).
Think of a time when someone complimented you on an item of clothing. I suspect your first response was along the lines of: “Oh what, this old thing?” That could be seen as a way of you eliciting further compliments about your clothes or style when it was never your intention, but instead the result of your quick response. Besides, we should all be the practice of learning how best to take credit for the awesome work we do; therefore, undermining our work and achievements isn't in our best interest.
In the same way that it’s useful to always be specific when providing feedback, know that you don’t need to ask for a detailed explanation of what warranted the compliment. Just accept it for what it is. However, if you genuinely want to understand what specifically drove the person to call it out, you can always do that in a way that doesn’t make them feel like they are being interrogated by you, or like they shouldn’t direct praise toward you.
If you happen to receive the compliment via email or over social media, still take the time to thank and acknowledge the person in a timely fashion. Don’t just assume you shouldn’t say “thank you” for receiving it just because it wasn’t in-person. A genuine compliment via any form of medium still carries the same importance, and therefore a response is always appreciated.
If you truly feel that the compliment doesn’t solely belong to you, take the time to acknowledge any others who may also deserve the recognition or praise. Make sure all contributions are acknowledged.
You may choose to say something like, “[Name teammates] also contributed on that piece of work — it was a true team effort! Thank you so much for taking the time to acknowledge our hard work.”
Try naming the others involved and giving the person the opportunity of also thanking them directly. Alternatively, if they feel more comfortable this way, you can always say that you’ll pass it on and again thank them for taking the time to provide the feedback.
If a person’s achievements and/or contributions deserve a call-out, always be honest and specific. Simply saying, “hey, that was a great job,” doesn’t allow the person to know exactly what they did that warranted such a compliment.
All of us are, in actuality, eager to receive praise and have our hard work recognized by our peers. So getting the chance to hear exactly what the specific skill or task we demonstrated was can be valuable in ensuring we’re able to repeat it again in the future.
Go on — go give a compliment to someone who deserves it!
Lis Brown is a People Leader with more than 25 years experience in the Management Consulting and Technology Industries. She has spent most of her career working around the globe and has truly embraced operating across different cultures and working styles, often being the only woman leader in the room. Lis is a passionate supporter of all aspects of Diversity and more importantly in ensuring inclusive and supportive environments for all. She is known for her strong moral compass and has no fear in speaking out and doing the right thing.
Even if it us hard for you to accept compliments, try to say thank you, A good rule of thumb: don't take all the credit if you didn't do all the work.
After last week’s post How to Pay a Compliment, I received many comments and emails asking for a follow-up post on how to graciously receive a compliment. Many readers told me they had a hard time accepting praise.
I empathize with them, because I’ve been there. When I used to receive compliments, I would deny, deflect, explain away, apologize or otherwise stick my foot in my mouth before it ever occurred to me to gracefully say “thank you.” But that’s all it takes.
You’re being praised. You don’t need to wow your complimenter, make them laugh or tell them they’re wrong. If the compliment is sincerely meant, you can’t go wrong with a simple, sincere “thank you.” If you have a history of putting your foot in your mouth at moments like these, stick to this fail-safe strategy: say your thanks and bite your tongue!
1. Say “thank you,” and then add a bit of personal information. This one’s my favorite. “Those are really beautiful earrings.” “Thank you, they were a gift from my grandmother.”
2. Say “thank you,” and share your feelings about the subject. “That dress you made for Sarah turned out really well. “Thank you, I really enjoyed making it.”
3. Say “thank you,” and reflect some glory back to the complimenter.“That fundraiser you worked so hard on turned out really well.” “Thank you. That means a lot, coming from you.”
People say the strangest things. If someone gives you a strange compliment, try a gentle (and vague) answer. “Thank you, that’s the nicest thing I’ve heard all day.” “What a kind thing to say.”
Sadly, this happens–and there are two ways to go here. You can give a vague response (“How kind”), or a simple “thank you.” If that seems inappropriate, you can take a tip from Anne of Green Gables, and say “Why, that almost sounds like a compliment.” If you’re going to go this direction, it is essential to use a light, funny tone.
Remember, when you’re receiving a compliment, you’re receiving the opinion of another person. Honor that opinion. (If being praised makes you uncomfortable, stick to a simple “thank you” and your complimenter will never know.)
Sometimes we deny and deflect praise out of a sense of modesty, but what we’re really doing is telling the complimenter that their opinion is wrong. Don’t make this mistake! Don’t shut yourself off to praise–acknowledge it. You and your complimenter will both be the better for it.
*** This subject makes me want to re-readHave You Filled a Bucket Today? which discusses kindness using the metaphor of a bucket. It’s a kids’ book, but that doesn’t mean grown-ups won’t enjoy it.
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