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August 24, 2019 1st Anniversary Wishes 2 comments

Love Letters are a time old tradition that expresses feelings for another person while containing your most inner feelings. It may be a forum to.

Perhaps you can place the letter in his or her car along with a rose, or place the letter somewhere in his or her home when you are visiting.

You could leave a heart shaped balloon trail in their yard starting at the door and ending with the letter and a token, then ring the doorbell and disappear for your loved one to search the trail. Although anyone will welcome a love letter, even in the mail, the extra effort will add a special touch and treasured memory.

Romantic gestures add depth and commitment to a relationship. By expressing the way you feel in a romantic love letter, you are willing to risk yourself to express your feelings of love. Enjoy creating your romantic love letter and delivering it to your special person. It will be a special moment for both of you.

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How To Write A Love Letter That Won’t Make You Cringe

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Writing a letter for your lover but not sure what to say? We’ve compiled a list of tips and tricks on how to pen the perfect note for your mate.

Do you and your lover have an anniversary looming, or do they have a landmark special occasion or birthday coming up? Whatever the reason, the fact is this: everyone loves getting letters. So what could be more perfect to spoil your girlfriend or boyfriend with, on her special day than a hand written love note?

With the age of the Internet destroying, or at the very least making physical communications with others somewhat scary, a hand written note is a rare find and marks the ultimate sign of romance in the digital age.

Yet, as much as you love your partner and as well as you may know them, many still get stumped on what to say or how to express their feelings when sitting down to write their note. Tutorials abound throughout the internet on step-by-step instructions on how to write something sweet for your sweetie. Seems a little impersonal, doesn’t it?

Tips on writing a love letter for your partner

Lucky for you, we’ve readied some great tips on how to write the perfect love letter for your beau.

#1 Compliments will get you everywhere. You heard me. It doesn’t matter the gender. Men and women love to be adored, so make sure you mention something *or several things!* you absolutely adore about your lover. [Read: 25 compliments your guy will never forget]

#2 Speak from the heart, not from a pre-written outline. Speaking from the heart is easier said than done, isn’t it? Strangely enough, expressing yourself to your partner may be one of the hardest parts of writing your letter.  Sure, you can say that you love your mate, appreciate them, never want to live without them, tell them they’re pretty and that they make you laugh… but then what? Those compliments aren’t exactly going to fill up an entire page’s worth of cursive.

This is why people commonly search the Internet for a template for letter writing. While this may work for wedding thank-you cards, or sympathy notes, looking for a pre-written love letter is a big romance no-no!

#3 Mention a specific experience. One of the best ways to connect in your letter is to mention a specific experience you’ve gone through together and how it made you stronger, made you laugh, or moved your heart. Not only will this give your partner something fond to look back on, but it’ll show that you wrote a letter that’s not just full of sweet yet generic niceties, but filled with things specifically about them. [Read: What to write in a love letter – The perfect examples to write about]

#4 Use a fantastic quote. Quotes are the perfect romantic addition to any letter. It’s a lovely little way of throwing some poetry into your letter, without giving up what makes it personal.

Famous 1920s writer F. Scott Fitzgerald is highly quoteable. His romantic gems such as: “They slipped briskly into an intimacy from which they never recovered” or “You are the finest, loveliest, tenderest, and most beautiful person I have ever known – and even that is an understatement,” is sure to have your lover swooning.

If old writers aren’t your thing, use funny or romantic quotes from shows or movies you both enjoy, like Woody Allen’s lighthearted narrative: “I was nauseous and tingly all over. I was either in love, or I had smallpox.” [Read: 55 funny quotes that are all about love]

#5 Talk about their achievements. Make sure you mention at least one of their achievements in your letter. If your letter is congratulating them on a new job, talk about all the hard work they put into getting to where they are now in their professional life.

If the letter or card is for their birthday, throw in something funny like: “I can’t believe you’re still kicking around after *hilarious inside-joke.*” If you are writing a letter or card because of an anniversary, talk about anything they’ve sacrificed, be it family relationships, fights with friends, putting up with your bad habits or serious conditions. Mention key things they’ve done for your relationship and be sure to tell them how much you appreciate it.

#6 Don’t force yourself to write a novel. If you want to write your partner a letter, but you aren’t a man of many words, then by all means keep it short. Even if you simply tell her you love her and the last “X-many-years” have been the happiest of your life, she’s sure to love it, so long as it’s from your heart.

Don’t feel the need to write an expansive letter just to prove your love. Odds are if you’re forcing it, she’ll be able to tell. Keep it short and sweet if that’s your style.

Little gimmicks to make letter writing easier

Gimmicks may seem impersonal at first, but trust me, they work. Have you been with your partner for years now? If so, they’ve probably received dozens of cards from you and after a while, a simple love note unfortunately doesn’t contain that “wow” factor anymore. Instead of sprouting out a plain and simple “Happy Anniversary!” on a note card, try something a little different this year such as:

#1 I love you in every language card. Celebrating your two year anniversary? That’s 24 blissful months of love and togetherness. Instead of a card, why not write a love letter displaying the phrase: “I Love You” in 24 different languages.

At the end of the card write something personal, and then say “I love you in every language.” Obviously feel free to bump up or down the months or languages, depending on how long you’ve actually been together. [Read: 25 super sweet gestures to make your partner swoon]

#2 Scrapbook letter writing. Girls love scrapbooking, and what’s not to love? Simply grab some card stock with a pretty pattern and glue your notebook paper over top of it so that it takes up only a small portion of the page. After that’s set, start gluing personal trinkets onto the page, such as photos of the two of you, the receipt from your first date, ticket stubs or anything sentimental between the two of you.

#3 “52 reasons I love you” deck of cards. Take a standard deck of playing cards and grab a sharpie. On each card, write a different reason why you love your partner. After all your reasons are done, start gluing different pictures, stickers, and trinkets to the card.

For example: “I love it when you call me Pooh-Bear!” and on goes an adorable picture of Winnie the Pooh. It’s cute, sweet, and though it can be a little embarrassing to show other people, your partner will definitely look back at the cards when he or she is feeling down.

#4 Puzzle piece letter. This is a simple spin on a regular letter. Once you’ve finished your love letter, glue it to some card stock. Once dried, draw out a series of puzzle pieces on the back of it as a guide, and start cutting out your letter. When your lover gets the note she’ll be able to piece it together like her own special jigsaw puzzle.

[Read: 10 adorable ways to say “I love you” to someone special]

Still not sure what to write in your letter to your lover? You don’t have to write the next great American novel to your loved one, so if all you have to say is a short and sweet “You’re awesome, I love you” at the end of a card, then so be it. Just remember with whatever you come up with, write it from your heart and she’s sure to love it.

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Writing a Love Letter: Ideas, Tips, and Inspiration

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Few things leave a person feeling warmer and more in touch with their partner than receiving a love letter.

What goes into a love letter is important. It must be honest, sincere, unguarded, and allow the light of day to show your soul, because that’s what they fell in love with in the first place.

But how do you go about writing a love letter? One that will strike the right chord and leave your girlfriend, boyfriend, or partner weeping with happiness.

Let’s explore this in more detail.

1. How To Start A Love Letter

Many of us aren’t used to writing letters, much less love letters. It’s a communicative exercise far different from a text, instant message, emoji string, or extended chat session.

Love letters require more patience with ourselves than we’re generally told is worthwhile.

Starting one needn’t be difficult. A good way is to talk about when you first met.

“Dear X, When I met you I…”

You can keep this factual: “…was working two jobs and felt the weight of the world on my shoulders.”

Actual: “It was dark and raining and you silently leaned your umbrella over both of us at that dirty bus stop.”

Poetic: “…was flesh and hard bone; now I am spirit, never alone.”

Flowery: “…knew, for the first time, that angels were real, because either you were one or one had guided me to you.”

Then the letter must expand your personal universe. You must bring them, your love, into the equation.

“You entered my life and eased my burdens.”

“You became my best friend and the person I know I can turn to for love and moral support.”

“You showed me the joys of a deep and lasting love that I never thought possible.”

“You… [insert honest words of meaning from your heart]”

Or, you could begin your letter with a short explanation of why you are writing it.

“We’re about to be apart for a whole week, and I’m sure it’ll feel like an eternity, so I wanted to write you a letter to tell you just how much you mean to me.”

“As we embark on this trip of a lifetime, I felt like now would be a good time to remind you of how much I care for and appreciate you. So here goes…”

“This letter is just my way of showing you what an amazing person you are.”

Next, reflect on how love is a journey. Where has it taken the two of you? Where is it taking you next? Write about this.

“These past X years have been the best of my life and I can’t wait to see where life takes us next.”

“We’ve been on some epic adventures together and you’ve pushed me to become a better person. I hope I’ve done the same for you.”

“The times we’ve shared, the travels we’ve been on, the experiences we’ve had – I couldn’t have asked for more. If the future brings us even half as much as the past has, I’ll be a very happy and content person.”

“What a journey we’ve been on. From those first dates to making a home together, to having our wonderful children; I’ve loved every second of it. I’m sure the path ahead of us will be equally as joyous and rewarding.

Get as specific as you can. Mention the paddle boarding you did in Australia, that time you put the flat-pack wardrobe together backwards and had to start from scratch, the moment your first child was born, the skinny dipping you did at a nearby lake at sunset.

The journey you’ve been on is intensely personal, so make your love letter reflect this. Recall stories from the past and speak about your dreams for the future.

Don’t worry about rambling on; if it means something to you, it will mean something to them.

2. Turn Your Attention Toward The Recipient

Once you’ve found your flow, your next words should be those that show just how much you appreciate and value them as a person.

You might focus on how your beloved not only changes you, but the world around them too:

“I have never known a more generous, giving person.”

“The way you bring people together in peace and harmony is a true gift.”

“The care and attention you pay to all of nature’s creatures is simply beautiful.”

You might write about what makes them so unique and special to you:

“You fascinate me every single day, from talking about UFOs to knowing which plants in wild fields are medicinal.”

“Your passion for crafingt is a joy to behold and I love your creativity and determination to make each piece as good as it can be.”

“When you play the piano, it’s like I can feel what your heart is feeling.”

You can acknowledge the journeys they have been on or are still on:

“I have never seen anybody honestly try to teach themselves quantum physics, and even though I’ve no clue what 90% of what you’re saying means, I hope you never ever stop explaining these fascinations to me.”

“Watching you pour your heart and soul into your business has been incredible. Through those tough early years to the challenges you face now, I stand in awe at how you’ve made it such a success.”

“From the moment you first decided to train for a marathon, I knew you’d put your all into it. And now you’re about to tackle marathon number five which is an incredible feat. I’ll always cheer you on and be waiting for you at the finish line.”

(Note: ‘though these examples focus on romantic love, all of them work for familial or platonic love as well. Unless and until one gets to the inclusion of saucy bits.)

You can and should speak of things other than love.

Personal things.

Talk about how they make you laugh. Or how nobody but them has ever gotten you to try, let alone appreciate, brussels sprouts.

Speak of your admiration for them or their ability to bring the best out of you and everyone they touch.

You’ll know best what you value most in the person you love, but if the ideas don’t come straight away, try to brainstorm a list of all the things – big and small – that matter.

If time is on your side, keep adding to this list as and when you notice or remember something about them that makes your heart melt a little. Then, when you do come to write your love letter, you’ll have plenty of material to work with.

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3. Bring It Back To You

Now that you’ve spent a little time putting them in the limelight, you can bring the focus back to you, but specifically on how they have made you into a better person.

Talk about the ways they have helped you grow:

“I know I could be a bit of a closed book when we first met, but you’ve shown me how beautiful it can be to share more of myself and be vulnerable. I truly thank you for that.

“I was a bit of an anxious mess when you showed up in my life, but with your help and support, I’m now much calmer and more confident. That’s all down to how you believed in me and taught me to believe in myself. I can’t ever thank you enough.”

“When I faced challenges and obstacles in my life, you kept encouraging me to overcome them. You told me to stand tall and do my best to get through the hard times, and I did… because I knew you were there beside me the entire time.”

You’ve probably changed in many ways since you first met your beloved, so think about how they have played a role in those positive changes.

By telling them how they have improved you and your life, it shows them that you really appreciate their presence in it.

4. Ending The Letter

To finish off your letter, return to the feelings you have for the recipient and make it clear that these feelings are as strong as ever.

Thank them again and reiterate that you are looking forward to whatever the future may bring.

Though it’s not necessary, a P.S. after you’ve signed off with your name can be a good place to add something funny or mushy to top things off and get their tears flowing.

Something like…

“P.S. you can always have the last spoonful of ice cream from the tub.”

“P.S. I’ll bring you a cup of coffee in the morning until we’re both old and wrinkly.”

“P.S. you still owe me for the huge bite you took of my burger on our first date! :)”

Going Beyond A Love Letter

Perhaps you’re feeling creative, or maybe this is not your first love letter and you want to do something a bit special. Your letter doesn’t have to be a letter. It can be a poem. It can be a story. A vignette. A song if you’re musically inclined.

You could do a visual collage about milestones and turning points in your relationship growth; create a candle full of symbolism and meaning for the two of you; record observations during a solitary walk where the unseen but felt presence of your loved one remained beside you the entire way.

Whatever you do at this point, realize that the output is likely to be so unique, potent, and private between the communal you, that ugly-crying may ensue. On both your parts.

What A Love Letter Needs To Communicate

By now you realize a good love letter is not a laundry list of someone’s glowing qualities. It is an intimate detailing of who you are under the influence of another person’s life.

It can be as brief and surprising as “I need you” written on a napkin and slid to their side of the table after they’ve excused themselves to a restaurant’s bathroom, or as long as two Sundays strung end to end waiting for them to return from a trip away.

Whatever the length or form, it should contain YOU laid so bare as to turn the paper itself into a sensual artifact.

Remember, sometimes it is not what you say or how you say it, it’s that you said it at all.

So think of a loved one.

Think of the way you smile at random, passing thoughts of that time during church service they made you laugh.

Think of how your day – no matter if it’s going splendidly perfectly – gets immeasurably better the moment they’re home.

Consider their expression when they’re contemplative; be blessed in how protected and loved you feel.

If you can fill yourself near to bursting with all this, dear beloveds, you can write a love letter that will have them crying happy tears.

You don’t need to have a way with words. You just need to know that you love someone for who they are, and write.

Because if you ever get to a point in your life where you’re compelled to capture the sentiment “I love you, have loved you since the stars caught fire, will love you when we’re sweeping their coals aside” – you, my friend, are in a good place indeed.

An Example Love Letter

To my one and only Penny,

We’re about to move in together and I’m so excited. I wanted to share that excitement with you and so I wrote you this letter.

The night we met really did seem to be written in the stars. I was meant to be somewhere else and you had planned on a night in until your friend persuaded you otherwise. On any other night, we wouldn’t have bumped into each other.

But bump into each other we did. And though it was over a year ago, I still remember the moment my eyes met yours as you and your friends sat down at the table next to mine.

A lot has happened since that fateful night and it’s been a whirlwind of fun and excitement. I don’t think I’ve ever smiled and laughed as much as when I’m with you. You showed me just what life can be when you have a true partner in crime to spend it with.

If this next adventure of ours is anywhere near as good, we’ve got a lot to look forward to. And I truly do look forward to getting to know you even better than I do now.

There are so many things about you that make my heart glow. Too many to put into words really. I love your optimistic outlook on life and the energy you bring to each new day. I love your determination to see things through even if it’s not always easy. I love the way you want to learn new things and push your boundaries.

Even in the short space of time I’ve known you, I’ve seen you do some amazing things. You took on the challenge of moving to a completely different field of work because it was something you felt passionately about. And you made it look effortless, even though I know how much you had to put into it.

But that’s just who you are… a hard working, strong-willed, positive human being who looks at life as an opportunity not to be squandered.

And this way of living has rubbed off on me too. Your sheer presence in my life and the enthusiasm you show for the things I tell you has made me more motivated to follow my dreams and tackle the obstacles that stand in my way.

I would not be the person I am today had I never met you and I have to thank you for that. You even got me to appreciate the magic of the Broadway musicals, despite my initial reservations. When are we going to see Les Mis again? Seriously!

So as we get our hands on the keys to our new place, I want you to know that you’ve got the key to my heart. Sheesh, that sounds cheesy, but it’s true. I really do love you and I can’t wait to see what the future brings.

Your love,


P.S. I call dibs on at least 50% of the wardrobe…ok, 40%…let’s be realistic and make that 25% shall we? 😉

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9 Steps To Writing the Perfect Love Letter

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Some things are just better done the old-school way.

Don't believe me? Take the preparation of mac and cheese. No matter how quickly you can whip up the stuff from the box, nothing tops real cheese slowly melting over perfectly al dente pasta, right? Similarly, handwriting a love letter—stringing together all the reasons your significant other is the mac to your cheese—is totally worth it.

Sure, composing a letter requires some heavy lifting: careful consideration of paper, thoughtful planning, and writing with intention (since, you know, there's no delete button). But the virtual alternative—because it looks identical to the text you sent about needing toilet paper the day before—simply can't be appreciated in the same way.

So, when you want to surprise your SO with something special, take pen to paper. And don’t worry about getting stumped because Jane Greer, Ph.D., relationship expert, and author ofWhat About Me?, is here to train you on this old school art step by step.

1. Take your time.

Consider how long your partner will hold onto this token of your love. Since it’s unlike most of your digital exchanges, there’s a good chance they’ll cherish your love letter for a long time, so give them a reason to keep coming back to it years later. Put thought into the stock and color of your stationary, says Greer. More than anything, the paper should be durable (so they can reread it at every anniversary, duh).

But before you put pen to paper, take some time to figure out what you actually want to say. On a piece of scrap paper, jot down the key things you want to share with your partner. This will help you keep the actual love letter organized and easy to follow. (And if you’re not proud of it the first time around, try again—there’s no harm in a few drafts.)

2. Include specific reasons you're crazy about your SO.

First, address your letter with your partner's nickname (if they have one). Then, "focus on one truly unique quality you love with an example," says Greer. For example, mention your appreciation for your partner's openness and willingness to share. Then, explain why you appreciate this about them (maybe because it taught you to find confidence in your own vulnerabilities) and how it continues to impact you.

Focusing on specifics will help you resist the urge to rehash the entire timeline of your relationship in the letter and describe how every moment made you feel. You don’t need to start at the beginning, since your partner knows how the story goes… they were there, after all.

Avoid statements such as "your eyes sparkle like…" they’re generic and cliché, and you’re better than that, says Greer. If you reread your sentences and realize the letter would still hold up if it were addressed to someone else, you need to dig deeper.

3. Say something you wouldn't say IRL.

Once you’ve covered what you love most about your partner, take this opportunity to share something with them that you may not have had the guts to verbalize otherwise, says Greer. Because it’s a letter, you’ll be saved from the stress of stumbling on your words, or the insecurity that typically comes with watching someone react in person. Pen and paper give you the security to be honest about what you want—exactly the way you want.

Telling your partner that you’ve never forgotten that seemingly insignificant thing they did for you that one time, or that you still get butterflies when you see them, will make them feel valued and appreciated. This is especially significant after the honeymoon phase has ended, you’ve fallen into a routine (which is a good thing), and your partner might feel like they know all there is to know about you.

4. Celebrate your relationship.

Dedicate a few lines to telling your SO about how much you love what you’re able to bring into their life, like home-cooked meals or a shoulder to cry on, says Greer.

This is also the place to make actionable and realistic promises about anything you hope to do for your partner, like planning more date nights. Tell them how you intend to continue enhancing their life, just like they’ve enhanced yours.

5. Don’t shy away from bringing up the future.

Okay, so... if you don’t see a future with this person, you might just want to stick to text messages. Oh, you do? Good. In that case, bring it up.

Leave some room to tell your significant other about future plans you've mapped out and hopes you have for the two of you."The future is always a great idea because the future conjures security," says Greer. Visions of time together and of the relationship continuing will reassure your partner that you're not going anywhere. While this letter is mainly a sign of appreciation, Greer is all about using the opportunity to include a vow, too. Give your partner a reason to look forward to the creation of more memories.

6. Reaffirm your commitment.

"A letter should end with something that speaks to duration," says Greer. She suggests, after writing about your vision of a joint future, sign off with something like "always," or "forever."

And if that’s a little too much for you, ending with "love" is always a good move. It's a love letter, after all.

Aryelle SiclaitAssistant EditorAryelle Siclait is an assistant editor at Women's Health.

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