Sample letters to offer sympathy for the death of a person who has been ill. I am sorry to hear that after a valiant battle with cancer your father has passed on.
Looking for inspirational Buddha quotes and sayings about life?
Siddhartha Gautama, more commonly known as Buddha (which means “enlightened one” or “the awakened”), is a spiritual leader and teacher during the 6th century B.C.
While the events of his life are still debated by scholars to this day, it cannot be doubted that his teachings have had a tremendous influence on a lot of people.
Personal note: Ever since moving [Update: “moved”, after 2 amazing years in India, I’m back in NYC] to India to live and teach, quotes from Buddha have taken on a whole new meaning.
Having the privilege to travel through India, Sri Lanka, Thailand, and Myanmar have allowed me to witness these powerful words in action.
I hope you enjoy our latest collection of uplifting Buddha quotes!
1.) “Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it.” – Buddha
2.) “Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship.” – Buddha
3.) “Let us rise up and be thankful. For if we didn’t learn a lot at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.” – Buddha
4.) “Those who attempt to conquer hatred by hatred are like warriors who take weapons to overcome others who bear arms. This does not end hatred, but gives it room to grow. But, ancient wisdom has advocated a different timeless strategy to overcome hatred.
This eternal wisdom is to meet hatred with non-hatred. The method of trying to conquer hatred through hatred never succeeds in overcoming hatred. But, the method of overcoming hatred through non-hatred is eternally effective. That is why that method is described as eternal wisdom.” – Buddha
5.) “To be angry is to let others’ mistakes punish yourself.” – Buddha
6.) “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” – Buddha
7.) “Those who consider the unessential to be essential, and see the essential as unessential, don’t reach the essential, living in the field of wrong intention.” – Buddha
8.) “Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” – Buddha
9.) “The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.” – Buddha
10.) “To keep the body in good health is a duty; otherwise, we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.” – Buddha
11.) “What we think, we become.” – Buddha
12.) “Our theories of the eternal are as valuable as are those that a chick which has not broken its way through its shell might form of the outside world.” – Buddha
13.) “Generosity brings happiness at every stage of its expression. We experience joy in forming the intention to be generous. We experience joy in the actual act of giving something. And we experience joy in remembering the fact that we have given.” – Buddha
14.) “Be vigilant; guard your mind against negative thoughts.” – Buddha
15.) “There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.” – Buddha
16.) “Better than a thousand hollow words, is one word that brings peace.” – Buddha
17.) “To live a pure unselfish life, one must count nothing as one’s own in the midst of abundance.” – Buddha
18.) “When you like a flower, you just pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it daily.” – Buddha
19.) “All wrong-doing arises because of mind. If the mind is transformed can wrong-doing remain?” – Buddha
20.) “Just as treasures are uncovered from the earth, so virtue appears from good deeds, and wisdom appears from a pure and peaceful mind. To walk safely through the maze of human life, one needs the light of wisdom and the guidance of virtue.” – Buddha
21.) “Meditation brings wisdom; lack of meditation leaves ignorance. Know well what leads you forward and what hold you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom.” – Buddha
22.) “Inward calm cannot be maintained unless physical strength is constantly and intelligently replenished.”- Buddha
23.) “What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: Our life is the creation of our mind.” – Buddha
24.) “Neither fire, nor wind, birth, nor death, can erase our good deeds.” – Buddha
25.) “The foot feels the foot when it feels the ground.” – Buddha
26.) “The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows.” – Buddha
27.) “There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills.” – Buddha
28.) “To conquer oneself is a greater task than conquering others.” – Buddha
29.) “Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.” – Buddha
30.) “Believe nothing, merely because you have been told it. Do not believe what your teacher tells you merely out of respect for the teacher. But whatsoever, after due examination and analysis, you find to be kind, conducive to the good, the benefit, the welfare of all beings that doctrine believe and cling to, and take it as your guide.” – Buddha
31.) “Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.” – Buddha
32.) “If we could see the miracle of a single flower clearly, our whole life would change.” – Buddha
33.) “In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.” – Buddha
34.) “Happiness comes when your work and words are of benefit to yourself and others.” – Buddha
35.) “What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create.” – Buddha
36.) “If you are quiet enough, you will hear the flow of the universe. You will feel its rhythm. Go with this flow. Happiness lies ahead. Meditation is key.” – Buddha
37.) “Purity or impurity depends on oneself. No one can purify another.” – Buddha
38.) “There is no path to happiness: happiness is the path.” – Buddha
39.) “Meditate. Live purely. Be quiet. Do your work with mastery. Like the moon, come out from behind the clouds! Shine.” – Buddha
40.) “Happiness is a journey, not a destination.” – Buddha
41.) “Everything is changeable, everything appears and disappears; there is no blissful peace until one passes beyond the agony of life and death.” – Buddha
42.) “Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.” – Buddha
43.) “Many do not realize that we here must die. For those who realize this, quarrels end.” – Buddha
44.) “The world is afflicted by death and decay. But the wise do not grieve, having realized the nature of the world.” The Buddha
45.) “Good health is simply the slowest way a human being can die,” – Buddha
46.) “Perhaps the deepest reason why we are afraid of death is because we do not know who we are.”- Buddha
47.) “This world is shrouded in darkness. Here, only a few can see their way free. These few birds escape from the net, and fly away to the heavens.” – Buddha
48.) “Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.” – Buddha
49.) “If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.” – Buddha
50.) “One moment can change a day, one day can change a life and one life can change the world.” – Buddha
51.) “Everything changes, nothing remains without change.” – Buddha
52.) “The universe itself is change and life itself is but what you deem it” – Buddha
53.) “Resolutely train yourself to attain peace.” – Buddha
54.) “Those who have failed to work toward the truth have missed the purpose of living.” – Buddha
55.) “Three things cannot hide for long: the Moon, the Sun and the Truth.” – Buddha
56.) “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” – Buddha
57.) “We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” – Buddha
58.) “You can only make two mistakes when traveling on the road to truth: not starting, and not going all the way.” – Buddha
59.) “Better to conquer yourself than a thousand battles. Only then can the victory truly be yours. No one can take it away from you – not heaven, hell, demons or angels.” – Buddha
60.) “Never envy others or take what you have for granted. Those who envy others will never find peace of mind.” – Buddha
Buddha’s sayings are a great source of inspiration and motivation, especially to entrepreneurs, dreamers, and innovators.
It doesn’t matter where you are in life, you can surely find a quote or two that you can relate with your current situation today.
What other Buddha quotes would you add to the list? Tell us in the comment section below!
I'll be praying for you and your family. Expect me to check in with you in the coming weeks." These sympathy messages can be used at a time of loss to express.
For a second you were flying
Like you always wanted to
Now you’ll fly forever
In skies of azure blue
We’ll see your smile in every ray
Of sunshine after rain
And hear the echo of your laughter
Over all the pain
The world’s a little quieter now
The colours have lost their hue
The birds are singing softly
And our hearts are missing you
Each time we see a little cloud
Or a rainbow soaring high
We’ll think of you and gently
Wipe a tear from our eye
By: Victoria Bruce
The life that I have
Is all that I have
And the life that I have
The love that I have
Of the life that I have
Is yours and yours and yours.
A sleep I shall have
A rest I shall have
Yet death will be but a pause
For the peace of my years
In the long green grass
Will be yours and yours and yours.
A limb has fallen from the family tree.
I keep hearing a voice that says, “Grieve not for me”.
Remember the best times, the laughter, the song.
The good life I lived while I was strong.
Continue my heritage, I’m counting on you.
Keep smiling and surely the sun will shine through.
My mind is at ease, my soul is at rest.
Remembering all, how I truly was blessed.
Continue traditions, no matter how small.
Go on with your life, don’t worry about falls
I miss you all dearly, so keep up your chin.
Until the day comes we’re together again.
God looked around his garden
And He found an empty place.
He then looked down upon this earth,
And saw your tired face.
He put his arms around you
And lifted you to rest.
God’s garden must be beautiful
He always takes the best.
He knew that you were suffering
He knew you were in pain
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.
He saw that the road was getting rough.
And the hills are hard to climb,
So He closed your weary eyelids
And whispered “Peace be thine”.
It broke our hearts to lose you
But you didn’t go alone
For part of us went with you
That day that God called you home
You think I’ve gone, that I am dead, and life has lost its will,
But look around, I am right there, living with you still
I watch your tears, I feel your pain – I see the things you do
I weep as well, each time you cry, my soul, it lives with you
It gives such joy to hear you laugh, and do the things you do
And when you smile o’er by gone days, I smile right with you too
For we’re still one, just you and me, one mind, one soul, one being
Walking forward into life, though only you are seen
And in the stillness of the night, when the pain it really starts
Stretch out a little with your mind and draw me to your heart
For I am always right in there, always by your side
For you have been, all my life’s days, my joy, my love my pride.
I wrote your name in the sand,
but the waves washed it away.
I wrote your name in the sky,
but the wind blew it away.
So I wrote your name in my heart,
and that’s where it will stay, always”
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.
By: Mary Frye
Don’t grieve for me, for now I’m free,
I’m following paths God made for me
I took his hand, I heard him call
Then turned, and bid farewell to all
I could not stay another day
To laugh, to love, to sing, to play
Tasks left undone must stay that way
I found my peace … at close of play
And if my parting left a void
Then fill it with remembered joy
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss
Ah yes, these things I too will miss.
Be not burdened… deep with sorrow
I wish you sunshine of tomorrow
My life’s been full I’ve savoured much
Good friends, good times
A loved one’s touch
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief,
Don’t lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your hearts and peace to thee
God wanted me now
He set me free.
Death is nothing at all. It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner.
All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!
by Henry Scott Holland (1847 – 1918)
Oh! I have slipped the surly bonds of Earth
And danced the skies on laughter-silvered wings;
Sunward I’ve climbed, and joined the tumbling mirth
Of sun-split clouds, — and done a hundred things
You have not dreamed of — wheeled and soared and swung
High in the sunlit silence. Hov’ring there,
I’ve chased the shouting wind along, and flung
My eager craft through footless halls of air. . . .
Up, up the long, delirious burning blue
I’ve topped the wind-swept heights with easy grace
Where never lark, or ever eagle flew —
And, while with silent, lifting mind I’ve trod
The high untrespassed sanctity of space,
Put out my hand, and touched the face of God.
Written by a pilot — John Gillespie Magee, Jr
three months before he died in a plane crash on 11 Dec 1941
A stone I died and rose again a plant;
A plant I died and rose an animal;
I died an animal and was born a man.
Why should I fear? What have I lost by death?
My secret and sacred bird now flies
To meet the Spirit’s vacancy.
All chaos of life today dissolved;
In me a surge of ecstasy.
Gold flames within my longing heart
Invoke the cosmos’ Parent-Sun.
A tapestry of Truth unseen
Bursts forth within; the Play is begun.
Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.
Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He is Dead.
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.
He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong.
The stars are not wanted now; put out every one,
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun,
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the woods;
For nothing now can ever come to any good.
May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of His hand.
May the road rise up to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the warm rays of sun fall upon your home
And may the hand of a friend always be near.
May green be the grass you walk on,
May blue be the skies above you,
May pure be the joys that surround you,
May true be the hearts that love you.
“When I die
Give what’s left of me away
And old men that wait to die.
And if you need to cry,
Cry for your brother
Walking the street beside you
And when you need me,
Put your arms
And give to them
What you need to give to me.
I want to leave you something,
Look for me
In the people I’ve known
And if you cannot give me away,
At least let me live in your eyes
And not on your mind.
You can love me most
Hands touch hands
Bodies touch bodies
And by letting go
That need to be free.
Love doesn’t die,
So, when all that’s left of me
Give me away”
By: Merrit Malloy
Don’t carry me off in a brass-handled coffin
With a wreath on my chest I won’t be ‘at rest’
There’s nothing much worse than a ride in a hearse
To a hole in the ground with just strangers around
No! bury me deep in the compost heap
Or pop me right under a nice floribunda
Its really much wiser to become fertiliser
Then I can grow roses as I decomposes.
by Joyce Fothergill
Death is at once
The end of the body’s
And the beginning of the soul’s
“Life is a journey.
Death is the continuation of the journey.
Heaven is a temporary rest.
For the commencement and fulfillment
Of a new life, a new hope
And a new promise”
Then Almitra spoke, saying, “We would ask now of Death.”
And he said: You would know the secret of death.
But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life?
The owl whose night-bound eyes are blind unto the day cannot unveil the mystery of light.
If you would indeed behold the spirit of death, open your heart wide unto the body of life.
For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.
In the depth of your hopes and desires lies your silent knowledge of the beyond;
And like seeds dreaming beneath the snow your heart dreams of spring.
Trust the dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.
Your fear of death is but the trembling of the shepherd when he stands before the king whose hand is to be laid upon him in honour.
Is the shepherd not joyful beneath his trembling, that he shall wear the mark of the king?
Yet is he not more mindful of his trembling?
For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?
And what is to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?
Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.
And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.
And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.
I sit on the bench by a cherry tree
I wait for death
I have sat here all my life
This spring morning
I am so still the birds hop up to me or light on my arm
And the breeze blows through me
There’s no hidden self, no secret self
Inside me lies the planet that was my life,
The playgrounds and battlegrounds,
The love bed and the deathbed
It is I who painted the mountains with glory
And the sky with flame
It is I who wears the pink blossoms in my hair
For a moment, I am flush with forgiveness
Hush, I am trying to forget.
I will stand in a moment and leave this place
To its absolute loneliness and charm.
I will hobble through the gate and down the road built by strangers
In the perfect symmetry of a life willingly left behind.
by: Barry Klassel
Death is not the end.
Death can never be the end.
Death is the road.
Life is the traveler.
The soul is the guide.
I know I will love death.
Because death too
Is God’s creation
And because death reminds me
Of the existence of her sister:
Infinity’s Life immortal.
The body has death, but not the soul.
The body sleeps, the soul flies.
The soul-stirring words on death and the soul in this chapter of the Gita, let us recollect.
“Even as man discards old clothes for the new ones, so the dweller in the body, the soul,
leaving aside the worn-out bodies, enters into new bodies.
The soul migrates from body to body.
Weapons cannot cleave it, nor fire consume it, nor water drench it, nor wind dry it.
This is the soul and this is what is meant by the existence of the soul.
above three poems from: Sri Chinmoy Library
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If you’re not careful, your well-meaning condolences can make you sound like a total ass. The trick to offering your sincere sympathy to the bereaved is knowing what to avoid while you show your support. These are the seven big no-no’s.
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You’ve probably experienced loss in your own life, or at least know someone else who has, but don’t ever make comparisons to your own experiences. April Masini, an etiquette and relationship expert, explains to the New York Times that it’s vital you don’t make it about you. Don’t ever say something like “I know how you feel.” It’s an earnest attempt at empathy, but it plays down their feelings, which are far more important right now. Also, you don’t know how they feel. Your experience with loss doesn’t mean you know all the intricacies of their relationship and with the deceased. It’s not the same, so don’t pretend it is.
You are not the creator of the universe, nor are you privy to the grand scheme of the future, so don’t imply the death was for the best or that it’s some kind of “blessing.” How could you know that? You can’t. Even if the deceased was suffering, this is still in bad taste. As Diane Gottsman, the founder of The Protocol School Texas, puts it, these types of comments come across as trite and uncaring. You’re essentially saying their death is a “good thing,” which is flat out disrespectful. Let them come to their own conclusion about the event.
Keep your positive religious outlook to yourself, unless you know they share the same perspective, says grief counselor Amy Olshever. You may mean well by saying something like, “They’re in heaven now,” or “They’re in a better place,” but that’s only true if the grieving person believes in that stuff. This goes the other way too. If you know the bereaved is religious, but you’re not, there’s no need to say something you don’t believe in. It’s disingenuous and might be seen as rude.
Facebook makes it easy to offer condolences to someone, but it’s not ideal for all situations. For one, these types of comments can often be seen as self-serving. It’s not so much about comforting the grieving person as it is about being seen comforting the grieving person. If you’re going to go the social media route, at least follow up with something more personal, like a phone call or letter. Also, be absolutely sure the bereaved has publicly posted about the death before you say anything! Otherwise you might be breaking the news with your message or forcing someone to talk about something they didn’t want to share.
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Look, most communication between family and friends is done through text messages or email these days. But some events still warrant an actual phone call or—gasp—a chat in person. Call first. If they don’t answer, leave them a message. Hearing someone’s voice is infinitely more comforting than reading a text. You can leave a follow-up text to offer support at that point if you feel the need.
Better yet, send them a written note or condolence card. It feels more personal and sincere, and it lets them read and respond to messages at their own pace. They’ll be barraged by calls and text messages, so give them something tangible to hold and read whenever they need to know people care about them.
It’s hard to avoid some cliches when offering condolences, but at the very least avoid ones that are flowery ways of stating the obvious. Phrases like, “They’re at peace now,” or “It was their time,” or “I know this is hard for you” aren’t very helpful or supportive. If you don’t know what to say, Olshever recommends you keep it simple. Something honest and straightforward like “I’m sorry for your loss” is better than trying too hard and going too far. If possible, draw on your positive memories of the deceased. It lets them know you cared about them too, and that they aren’t alone in their grief.
Offering help is always a kind thing to do, but you need to do it right. Don’t put the onus on them by saying “Let me know if you need anything.” You need to offer legitimate examples of ways you can help. Tell them you’ll bring them dinner, take care of a pet, do some house chores, run some errands, buy groceries, anything that can actually help them.
Most importantly: don’t hesitate to reach out. It might feel like you’re bothering them during a troubling time, but they need support, comfort, and even a good distraction if you can go visit them.
I'll be praying for you and your family. Expect me to check in with you in the coming weeks." These sympathy messages can be used at a time of loss to express.
Who knows what to say when someone passes away? After hearing the news, many of us want to reach out with condolences, but aren’t sure exactly what to say. Often, some have no clue where to begin or what the right words are. However, in the face of loss, sadness, and shock it’s vital that friends and family reach out to those grieving and let them know how much they’re cared for. So if you’re looking for the right sympathy messages or what to write in a sympathy card, look to our guide below.
It’s no easy task to sign a heartfelt sympathy card, but it is the right thing to do. You may sit and ponder things like what you would want those close to you to say in a moment like this. You may begin to write and then worry you might say the wrong things. It’s important to remember that in darkness sometimes all you need to be reminded of is a little light. Even though writing a card that says, ‘Sorry for your loss,’ isn’t easy, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t important. And your condolence messages may be just the light that person needs.
The following sympathy messages are meant to give you a guideline to follow for bringing warmth to a grieving heart. Use them as they are, combine them or customize them to express your feelings.
Whether you want to express your own feelings, acknowledge the feelings of others, share a memory or offer ongoing support, you’re going to need to put all of these sentiments into the right words. Remember that you can be brief and still come off as warm and comforting. Let your own judgment as well as these examples guide you in drafting your sympathy messages with a serious and sincere tone.
Examples of Sympathy Card Wording:
They say that a father’s guiding hand always sits on the shoulder of his children. And, although he may be in a better place, losing such a strong figure in life is one of the hardest things many of us will go through. Think about retelling how this person’s father lived, how he smiled and how he loved when drafting a sympathy card messages for the loss of a father. Additionally, consider visiting our additional resource on Miss You Dad Quotes and Messages.
Just as with the loss of a father, losing your mother is profound. It can be of great comfort for a grieving person to hear how much you admired and cared for their mother. Extend your caring thoughts, admiration, and words of condolences with these examples.
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