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January 23, 2019 Anniversary Wishes For Parents 5 comments

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If I could spend the rest of my life with my people, I would do it over and over again. Leave it up to them to fill up their steeple, leave it up to us to fill up on our.

Life is an Investment, You Need to Figure Out How to Spend Your Time

i could spend my life

"Spend My Life" lyrics

Slaughter Lyrics

"Spend My Life"

I've been livin' in this lonely world
Wishin' I could find someone to love
Hopin' someone would come from above
Change my life

Yeah

Then I noticed you there
You were my angel sent from my despair
I know that you are the lady who cares
Whoa yeah yeah

I want to spend my life with you
Yeah yeah
I want to spend my life with you yeah yeah, with you

I think of all of those sleepless nights
Its like the earth was standing still
You know I hardly had the will
To survive

Yeah

Then I noticed you there
You were my angel sent from my despair
I know that you are the lady who cares
Whoa yeah yeah

I want to spend my life with you
Yeah yeah
I want to spend my life with you, baby
My lady
You're true

Whoa yeah yeah

I want to spend my life with you
Yeah yeah yeah
I wanna spend my life with you yeah yeah
Only with you baby
I want to spend my life with you
You know you're my little angel
I want to spend my life with you

Oh don't you know
I want to spend
All of my life with you babe
'Cause you gave me all your lovin'
And baby I know its true
Yeah
'Cause you're the only one for me
Baby I'm the one for you



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Writer(s): Mark Allen Slaughter, Dana Strum

album: "Stick It To Ya" (1990)

Eye To Eye
Burnin' Bridges
Up All Night
Spend My Life
She Wants More
Fly To The Angels
Mad About You
That's Not Enough
You Are The One
Gave Me Your Heart
Desperately
Loaded Gun
Fly To The Angels (Acoustic Version)

WATCH THE VIDEO ON THEME: I Just Wanna Spend My Life With You (With Lyrics)
i blessed the day i found you
Memo closing statement
thanks for invitation to meeting
Employee termination letter sample format
thanks for your prompt answer
Farewell wishes for retirement
employee welcome note
Thanks for the follow up

Spend My Life with You

i could spend my life

Origins Lyrics

Natural


Will you hold the line, when every one of them has given up and given in, tell me
In this house of mine
Nothing ever comes without a consequence or cost tell me
Will the stars align
Will heaven step in will it save us from our sin, will it?
‘Cause this house of mine stands strong

That's the price you pay
Leave behind your heart and cast away
Just another product of today
Rather be the hunter than the prey

And you are standing on the edge face up
‘Cause you’re a natural
A beating heart of stone
You gotta be so cold
To make it in this world
Yeah you’re a natural
Living your life cutthroat
You gotta be so cold
Yeah you’re a natural

Will somebody let me see the light within the dark trees shadowing
What’s happenin?
Looking through the glass find the wrong within the past knowing
We are youth
Cut until it bleeds inside a world without the peace, face it.

A bit of the truth, the truth

That's the price you pay
Leave behind your heart and cast away

Just another product of today
Rather be the hunter than the prey

And you are standing on the edge face up
‘Cause you’re a natural
A beating heart of stone
You gotta be so cold
To make it in this world
Yeah you’re a natural
Living your life cutthroat
You gotta be so cold
Yeah you’re a natural

Deep inside me
I’m fading to black I’m fading
Took an oath by the blood of my hand, won’t break it
I can taste it the end is upon us I swear
gonna make it
I’m gonna make it

Natural
A beating heart of stone
You gotta be so cold
To make it in this world
Yeah you’re a natural
Living your life cutthroat
You gotta be so cold
Yeah you’re a natural


Boomerang


How many lies do we have to tell?
To keep from saying that I wish you well

How many times I said I’m moving on
How many times that false alarm goes off, goes off
I know I’ll see you tomorrow

‘Cause I’m bad at letting you go, letting you go, letting you go, letting you go
Moving on, moving on, moving on, moving on
I’m ready to go, ready to go
Ready to throw, ready to throw
You’re my boomerang, boomerang
You’re my boomerang, boomerang

How many tears do we have to cry?
How many sleepless lonely nights?
To work it out is it worth it now

Should we go ahead or should we turn around
I know I’ll see you tomorrow

‘Cause I’m bad at letting you go, letting you go, letting you go, letting you go
Moving on, moving on, moving on, moving on
I’m ready to go, ready to go
Ready to throw, ready to throw
You’re my boomerang, boomerang
You’re my boomerang, boomerang

Just because it isn’t easy doesn't mean that it is wrong
Everything that we have been working on, working on so long

You’re my boomerang, boomerang
You’re my boomerang, boomerang
You’re my boomerang, boomerang
You’re my boomerang, boomerang

Letting you go, letting you go, letting you go, letting you go
Moving on, moving on, moving on, moving on
I’m ready to go, ready to go
Ready to throw, ready to throw

You’re my boomerang, boomerang
You’re my boomerang, boomerang

Letting you go, letting you go, letting you go, letting you go
Moving on, moving on, moving on, moving on
I’m ready to go, ready to go
Ready to throw, ready to throw
You’re my boomerang, boomerang
You’re my boomerang, boomerang


Machine


All of my life
I’ve been sitting at the table
Watching them kids their living in a fable Looks, luck, money and never left a’wishin
But now it’s about time to raise up and petition

All of my life
I’ve been sitting at the table
Watching them kids living in a fable
Looks, luck, money and never left a’wishin
But now it’s about time to stand up and petition

Cause I’ve been wondering
When you’re gonna see I’m not for sale
I’ve been questioning
When you’re gonna see I’m not a part of your machine
Not a part of your machine

I’m not scared of what you’re gonna tell me
No I’m not scared of the beast in the belly
Fill my cup with endless ambition
And paint this town with my very own vision

I’m not scared of what you’re gonna tell me
And I’m not scared of the beast in the belly
Fill my cup with endless ambition
And paint this town with my very own vision

Cause I’ve been wondering
When you’re gonna see I’m not for sale
I’ve been questioning
When you’re gonna see I’m not a part of your machine
Not a part of your machine

I am the machine
I am the machine

Cause I’ve been wondering
When you gonna see I’m not for sale
I’ve been questioning
When you’re gonna see I’m not a part of your machine
Not a part of your machine

Cause I’ve been wondering
When you’re gonna see I’m not for sale
I’ve been questioning
When you’re gonna see I’m not a part of your machine
Not a part of your machine

I am the machine


Cool Out


Just before I go
Yes I know that I’m losing control and
I want to take things slow, put my mind in cruise control I know I’m always pacing
And I blame it on the pressure I’m facing
I want to take things slow, put my mind in cruise control

Standing on your front porch saying don't go
You were looking at me wild saying just go home and
Cool out, baby I don't think I’m the one for you
So just, cool out, baby I don't think I’m the one for you
So cool out, stay high, stay fresh, play nice
And just, cool out, baby I don't think I’m the one for you
So cool out

You’re always saying that you read my sign and,
Always wishing that I take the time but,
You know that's not my speed
Only believe what I can see
I live my life in black and white
I know that's not what you would like
That's all I know, I put my mind in cruise control

Standing on your front porch saying don't go
You were looking at me wild saying just go home
Cool out, baby I don't think I’m the one for you
So just cool out, baby I don't think I’m the one for you
So cool out, stay high, stay fresh, play nice
And just, cool out, baby I don't think I’m the one for you
So cool out
So cool out

All the things that you detest in me
They keep you coming back for more you see
We make each other get a bit crazy
But you will always be a part of me

Cool out, baby I don't think I’m the one for you
So just, cool out, baby I don't think I’m the one for you
So cool out, stay high, stay fresh, play nice
And just, cool out, baby I don't think I’m the one for you
So cool out
So cool out
Cool out
So cool out


Bad Liar


Oh hush my dear, it’s been a difficult year And terrors don’t prey on innocent victims Trust me darlin’, trust me darlin’
It’s been a loveless year
I’m a man of three fears
Integrity, faith and crocodile tears
Trust me darlin’, trust me darlin’
So look me in the eyes Tell me what you see Perfect paradise Tearing at the seams
I wish I could escape it I don’t want to fake it I wish I could erase it
Make your heart believe

But I’m a bad liar Bad liar
Now you know
Now you know
I’m a bad liar
Bad liar
Now you know
You’re free to go

Did all my dreams never mean one thing
Does happiness lie in a diamond ring
Oh I’ve been asking, for
Oh I’ve been asking, for problems, problems, problems

I wage my war, on the world inside
I take my gun to the enemy's side
Oh I’ve been asking for (trust me darlin’)
Oh I’ve been asking (trust me darlin’), for problems, problems, problems

So look me in the eyes
Tell me what you see
Perfect paradise
Tearing at the seams
I wish I could escape it
I don’t want to fake it
I wish I could erase it
Make your heart believe

But I’m a bad liar
Bad liar
Now you know
Now you know
I’m a bad liar
Bad liar
Now you know
You’re free to go

I can’t breathe
I can’t be
I can’t be what you want me to be
Believe me this one time, believe me

I’m a bad liar
Bad liar
Now you know
Now you know
I’m a bad liar
Bad liar
Now you know
You’re free to go

Please believe me
Please believe me


West Coast


One more day we’ll spend together
Let your eyes look up upon me for the better
Oh I know I’m worse for weather
But my love I won’t give up
Spend my days cursing my soul
Wishing I could paint my scars and make me whole
Oh I know I could be better
Oh my love I won’t give up

I ain’t no superman, I ain’t no holy ghost
I’m just the one that keeps you up at night you love the most
I’ll be your strong man, I’ll be your west coast
I’ll be the sun, I’ll be the waves, I’ll be the one you love the most

I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be your west coast honey
I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be your west coast honey

I’ll change my ways if you would stay
And all your tears you have cried will go away
Oh just grant me one more day
Oh my love please don't give up
I see the devil at my door
I see the future of the ones I’ve ignored
I guess I was born to be at war
And my love I won’t give up
So my love please don't give up

I ain’t no superman, I ain’t no holy ghost
I’m just the one that keeps you up at night you love the most
I’ll be your strong man, I’ll be your west coast
I’ll be the sun, I’ll be the waves, I’ll be the one you love the most

I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be your west coast honey
I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be your west coast honey
I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be your west coast honey
I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be I’ll be your west coast honey

Gonna give you that feeling Gonna give you that feeling


Zero


I find it hard to say the things I want to say the most
Find a little bit of steady as I get close
Find a balance in the middle of the chaos
Send me low send me high send me never demigod
I remember walking in the cold of November
Hoping that I make it to the end of December
27 years and the end on my mind
But holding to the thought of another time
But looking to the ways of the ones before me
Looking for the path of the young and lonely
I don’t want to hear about what to do
I don’t want to do it just to do it for you

Hello, hello let me tell what it’s like to be a zero, zero
Let me show you what it’s like to always feel, feel
Like I’m empty and there’s nothing really real, real
I’m looking for a way out

Hello, hello let me tell what it’s like to be a zero, zero
Let me show you what it’s like to never feel, feel
Like I’m good enough for anything that’s real, real
I’m looking for a way out

I find it hard to tell you how I want to run away
I understand it always makes you feel a certain way
I find a balance in the middle of the chaos
Send me up send me down
Send me never demigod

I remember walking in the heat of the summer
Wide eyed one with a mind full of wonder
27 years and I’ve nothing to show
Falling from the dove to the dark of the crow
Looking to the ways of the ones before me
Looking for a path of the young and lonely
I don’t want to hear about what to do
I don’t want to do it just to do it for you

Hello, hello let me tell what it’s like to be a zero, zero
Let me show you what it’s like to always feel, feel
Like I’m empty and there’s nothing really real, real
I’m looking for a way out

Hello, hello let me tell what it’s like to be a zero, zero
Let me show you what it’s like to never feel, feel
Like I’m good enough for anything that’s real, real
I’m looking for a way out
Let me tell you bout it
Let me tell you bout it

Maybe you’re the same as me

Let me tell you bout it
Let me tell you bout it

They say the truth will set you free

Hello, hello let me tell what it’s like to be a zero, zero
Let me show you what it’s like to always feel, feel
Like I’m empty and there’s nothing really real, real
I’m looking for a way out

Hello, hello let me tell what it’s like to be a zero, zero
Let me show you what it’s like to never feel, feel
Like I’m good enough for anything that’s real, real
I’m looking for a way out


Bullet in a Gun


The roman king, the Romulus, the precipice born to change
The final days, the last embrace Augustus, Nero taking names
I’m high then I’m low, low stop then
I go, go bipolar
Oh, oh yes then I’m no, no
My time will come
I promise that
Pull the trigger back, back

Bullet in a gun
But in the end my time will come
Like a bullet in a gun
Blood, sweat, and tears to be the one
Bullet in a gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun
Bullet in a gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun
Bullet in a gun

To make a name you pay the price
You give your life no other way
The devils deal it comes around
To wear the crown
Rise up from the ground

I’m high then I’m low, low stop then
I go, go bipolar
Oh, oh yes then I’m no, no
My time will come
I promise that
Pull the trigger back, back

Bullet in a gun
but in the end my time will come
Like a bullet in a gun
Blood, sweat, and tears to be the one
Bullet in a gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun
Bullet in a gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun
Bullet in a

How many voices go unheard
How many lessons never learned
How many artists fear the light, fear the pain, go insane, lose your mind, lose yourself
(You only care about fame and wealth)
Sellout, sellout, sellout

Bullet in a gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun
But in the end my time will come
Like a Bullet in a gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun
Blood, sweat, and tears to be the one
Bullet in a gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun
Bullet in a gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun, gun
Bullet in a


Digital


You know how we do

I want a new world
Without the order
I wanna resurrect and live a little shorter

I want it heavy
I want the fury
I wanna beat it out the judge and the jury

From the outside everything looks right, from the outside, from the outside

From the outside everything looks right, from the outside, from the outside

We are we are the face of the future
We are we are the digital heartbeat
We are we are the face of the future
We don’t wanna change we just wanna change everything

Aye aye aye aye digital digital
Aye aye aye aye digital heartbeat
Aye aye aye aye digital digital
We don’t wanna change we just wanna change everything

I want a new world without the order
I wanna resurrect and live a little shorter

I want it heavy
I want the fury
I wanna beat it out the judge and the jury

From the outside everything looks right, from the outside, from the outside .....

From the outside everything looks right, From the outside, from the outside .....

We are we are the face of the future
We are we are the digital heartbeat
We are we are the face of the future
We don’t wanna change we just wanna change everything

Aye aye aye aye digital digital
Aye aye aye aye digital heartbeat
Aye aye aye aye digital digital
We don’t wanna change we just wanna change everything

And they been saying, they been saying the same thing
And they, they been saying they been saying the same thing
And they, they been saying they been saying the same thing
And- they been saying they been saying the same thing
And they, they been saying they been saying the same thing
And they they been saying they been saying the same thing
They they been saying they been saying the same thing
And they they been saying they been saying the same thing

We are we are the face of the future
We are we are the digital heartbeat
We are we are the face of the future
We don’t wanna change we just wanna change everything

Aye aye aye aye digital digital
Aye aye aye aye digital heartbeat
Aye aye aye aye digital digital
We don’t wanna change we just wanna change everything

Aye aye aye aye digital digital
Aye aye aye aye digital heartbeat
Aye aye aye aye digital digital
We don’t wanna change we just wanna change everything


Only


Oh pretty baby, you're my motivator
Got me changing my words and my behavior
Pretty lady, you're my operator, got me dialing your number just to hear ya

Tell me the things that you want
I give you all that I’ve got
Open your eyes then you will see

It’s just you and me, only
Throwing at the keys
Just living in a dream
It’s just you and me, only
Listen to you breathe, just, living in a dream
It’s just you and me

My disaster you’re my only answer
Got me thinking that I could be a master
Pretty baby you’re my heavy ocean
Weigh me down and give me your devotion

Tell me the things that you want
I give you all that I’ve got
Open your eyes then you will see

It’s just you and me, only
Throwing out the keys
Just living in a dream
It’s just you and me, only
Listen to you breathe, just, living in a dream
It’s just you and me

Take, take me over
Oh take me over I don't want to wake up
Take, take me over
Oh take me over I don't want to wake up
It’s just you and me

Dream dream dream dream Dreamworld
(Take, take me over, oh take me over, I don't want to wake up, wake up, wake up, wake up)

It’s just you and me, only
Listen to you breathe just living in a dream
It’s just you and me, only
Throwing at the keys just living in a dream
It’s just you and me, only
Listen to you breathe just living in a dream
It’s just you and me


Stuck


Time goes by and still I am stuck on you
Yeah time goes by and still I am stuck on you, you

I’ve been afraid don’t wanna fade out of my body
I’ve been astray, barely awake, floating above me
Covered in grey what can I say, I’ve been a zombie
I’m feeling like I’ve been locked in a grave

You were the laugh, you were the life, you were the party
You were the brave, I was the weak, you were the army
You were the faith, you were the truth, I was the sorry
I’m feeling like you’ve been taken away

You were my one, you were my one
When all has been said, all has been done
You were my one, you were my one
Now I am left reaching above me

Time goes by and still I am stuck on you, you
Time goes by and still I am stuck on you, you

Why did you leave, why did you go leaving me lonely?
Didn’t you know you were the home, you were the only
Where did you go, where did you go, where did you go?
Come back to me

You were my one, you were my one When all has been said, all has been done You were my one, you were my one Now I am left reaching above me
Time goes by and still I am stuck on you, you Yeah time goes by and still I am stuck on you, you
Time goes by and still I am stuck on you, you
Yeah time goes by and still I am stuck on you, stuck on you
As time goes by, as time goes by
Time goes by and still I am stuck on you, you Time goes by and still I am stuck on you, you


Love


It’s been a long time coming, coming
Seeming like we’ve all been running, running
Feeling like the wild west gunnin’ gunnin’
Listen to our elders shunning shunning
Flipping on the news beat talking talking
All about the problems, shocking, shocking
We put on our headphones, walking, walking
We put on our headphones

Where did we all go wrong?
Love, love, love
La la la love, love, love
La la la love, love, love
La la la love, love, love
Where did we all,
Where did we all go wrong?

All we see is faces color, color
All the other races other, other
Why can’t you just be my brother, brother
We don’t have to kill one another
Kill one another

All around the world
We are one
We are one
All around the world
We are one

So where did we all go wrong?
Love, love, love
La la la love, love, love
La la la love, love, love
La la la love, love, love Where did we all,
Where did we all go wrong?

Love, love, love
It’s darkest before the dawn
Love is our only hope
Where did we all,
Where did we all go wrong?

We got the same blood, blood
We got the same blood
But will it be enough, ‘nough
Will it be enough?

We got the same heart beat
We’re living for the same dream
We got the same blood stream
Where did we all go wrong?

Where did we all,
Where did we all go wrong?
Love, love, love
It’s darkest before the dawn
Love, love, love
Love is our only hope
Where did we all,
Where did we all go wrong?

Where did we all, where did we all
Where did we all, where did we all
Where did we all, where did we all
Where did we all,
Where did we all go wrong?

Where did we all, where did we all
Where did we all, where did we all
Where did we all, where did we all
Where did we all,
Where did we all go wrong?


Birds


Two hearts
One valve,
Pumping the blood, we were the flood, we were the body and
Two lives
One life
Sticking it out, letting you down, making it right

Seasons they will change, life will make you grow, dreams will make you cry, cry, cry
Everything is temporary, everything will slide, love will never die, die, die

I know that birds fly in different directions
I hope to see you again

Sunsets,
Sunrises,
Living the dream, watching the leaves, changing the seasons
Some nights
I think of you
Reliving the past, wishing it’d last, wishing and dreaming
Seasons they will change, life will make you grow, death can make you hard, hard, hard
Everything is temporary, everything will slide, love will never die, die, die

I know that birds fly in different directions
I hope to see you again
Birds fly in different directions
So fly high, so fly high

When the moon is looking down
Shining light upon your ground
I’m flying up to let you see
That the shadow cast is me

I know that birds fly in different directions
I hope to see you again
Birds fly in different directions
So fly high, so fly high
So fly high, so fly high
So fly high, so fly high


Burn Out


Patience’s only gets you so far
Blood will get you further
Pain will only make your heart hard, tossed in fury’s weather
Innocence is beautiful to see won’t you box it up for me, for me

Oh, give me strength and give me peace
If anyone’s out there won't you hear me?
Its just another downpour don't let it get the best of you
It’s only up from the floor light everything inside of you
Don't burn out don't burn out on me
Don't burn out don't burn out on me

Sadness is my enemy I fear time will age him gently
Walking by my side for all these years seems that we’ve grown friendly
Happiness is beautiful to see won’t you box it up for me, for me

Oh, give me strength and give me peace
If anyone’s out there won’t you hear me?
Its just another downpour don't let it get the best of you
It’s only up from the floor light everything inside of you
Don't burn out don't burn out on me
Don't burn out don't burn out on me

It’s just another downpour
It’s just another downpour

I wont give up

Its just another downpour don't let it get the best of you
It’s only up from the floor light everything inside of you
I don't wanna let you go
I don't wanna let you go
Don't burn out don't burn out on me
I don't wanna let you go
I don't wanna let you go
Don't burn out don't burn out on me


Real Life


She says that the world is a broken mess
And it’s always on her mind
She cries at the news when the shots ring out
Every single time

And no, I cannot fix it
No I cannot make it stop

So I said hey, turn your phone off
Won’t you look me in my eye
Can’t we live that real life, real life
Hey turn your phone off
Won’t you look me in my eye
Can’t we live that real life, real life

She prays on her knees as the towers fall
To a god she does not know
She’s begging him to stop the mess
As the Boston bombs will blow

She says how can I ever believe
In something that would step aside and watch
And I got no words to say
‘Cause I think I lost my faith
But I fake it for the day, oh everything will be okay

And no, I cannot fix it
No I cannot make it stop

So I said hey, turn your phone off
Won’t you look me in my eye
Can’t we live that real life, real life
Hey, turn your phone off
Won’t you look me in my eye
Can’t we live that real life, real life

I wish I had the answers
Something you could hold to
The only thing that’s real to me
Is you

Turn your phone off
Won’t you look me in my eye
Can’t we live that real life, real life
Hey, turn your phone off
Won’t you look me in my eye
Can’t we live that real life, real life

Real life, real life
Real life, real life

While most “investment advice” you will find online talks about how to save and spend your money, this post is going to talk about how you can.

I Want to Spend the Rest of My Life With You. (My Love Is Real and So Is My Commitment!)

i could spend my life

The theme for today’s post is going to be a little different than what you might be expecting. In between writing posts on photography, travel and running a business…and working a full time day job…I have a tendency to think about life and how I want to spend it.

In the pursuit of having a photography career – which has been extremely challenging and rewarding – I’ve also spent a good deal of my life working towards this goal. For the past 3 years, my wife and I worked tirelessly, often around the clock, to do something we really love.

Looking back, there is no denying that I had to actively choose this life for myself. And my choices came with consequences – both good ones and bad ones.

While most “investment advice” you will find online talks about how to save and spend your money, this post is going to talk about how you can save and spend your time.


What do you want out of life?

The best investors know what they want to get out of their investment.

Most people do not have the luxury of being able to just throw money into a bunch of different stocks and hope for the best. This approach will probably just lead to money being wasted.

In the context of life, people often make the same mistake.

They don’t set good goals.

They don’t even really think about what they actually want to do with their lives.

Some people just fall into a job and stay there.

Others just go with the flow and let other people dictate where their life will go.

The key to living a good life and enjoying your time here is to clearly define the things you want to do, and the things you don’t want to do.


Shape your own goals for happiness

Let me preface this by saying…I’m not an aspiring self-help guru or anything of the sort.

I am simply motivated to share a story of “success-in-progress” because I have also experienced the bad parts of life in spades at times. I hope these details help you if you are aspiring to reach a goal (be it starting a photography business or anything else).

I have personally struggled with overwhelming anxiety and crippling depression at points in my own life. I could rant and rave about things that have happened in my life that serve as triggers, and how my own interpretation of simple things often lead me down the same path.

It’s only in more recent years that I’ve started to have more clarity over what I really want out of my life: happiness.

On the surface, everyone on the planet aspires to just be happy. The things we enjoy that bring us happiness is the biggest variable.

While my personal definition of “happiness” has changed with time, these days it boils down in a very simple way:

I want…

  • To be able to do what I want, when I want
  • To love and feel loved
  • To spend more time with friends and family
  • To travel the world

I don’t want…

  • To waste my time doing things I don’t want to do
  • To feel stressed out about things out of my control
  • To be a “cog in the machine”

To fulfill these (honestly simple) desires – it has required some planning, self-care, patience, motivation, intense passion that allows for a certain level of risk to be taken, and acceptance of whatever outcome.

Let me talk about these 6 key things and why they matter to reach “happiness”:


Planning

Friends & family could make the argument that I, sometimes, over plan things.

I prepped for a 10 day trip to Iceland starting 1 year before I even got on the airplane. This preparation was not just in the form of reading forums and books, but went so far as to layout a Google Map fully pinpointing key areas around the country I wanted to visit. I literally felt like I learned a whole lot about that country in the process – and even today recognize small places there by name.

In the context of achieving happiness, a good plan helps – but it is in no way the only determining factor.

Some people do happen to stumble into the good things in life. Other people are sincerely happy by just doing the same old thing again-and-again. Both of these scenarios don’t require much of a plan – but moreso a little luck and the right personality quirks.

If you are like me, you don’t have the natural luck for success – instead you have to really work for it.

If you are like me, you don’t have the innate personality to just accept the status quo – instead you need to make a real concerted effort to change it.

How to Make a Good Plan

Whether you are a planner like me or totally adverse to it and just prefer to “go with the flow” – let me say this: my plans have never been complicated.

When trying to figure out “life”, we can often get stuck in the mindset that there needs to be some grand solution to it all. In Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy it’s discovered that the “Answer to the Ultimate Question of Life, the Universe, and Everything” is…42…and your plan will only need a little more detail.

With the idea of what makes you happy in mind, you can start to identify ways to achieve the things you want.

Looking back at my list from earlier, let me break a few down:

I want…

To be able to do what I want, when I want

How do I achieve this?

  • I only do things I want to do outside of my working schedule (this is the start).
  • I started my own business with the intent of it giving me more of an ability to do “what I want, when I want” over time as I am not satisfied with only being able to call the shots after my 9-5.

I want…

To travel the world

How do I achieve this?

  • The first time I left the country as an adult was for my honeymoon in Mexico. The experiences I had with my new wife both relaxing on the beaches there as well as exploring really interesting and beautiful places inspired me to want to travel more.
  • I save money and rarely spend on myself outside of my travels – this has led to a major decrease in needless spending on things I once spent too much on (like video games and DVDs).
  • I make an effort to travel (via airplane) at least 1x a year. In the past few years, I’ve visited Iceland, Arizona, California, Oregon…a great mix…
  • I wrote out a list of many places I want to visit someday – and I’m beginning to make plans for how I can get to those places. For myself, I’ve decided to intertwine it with my photography business goals – aspiring to help fund my traveling adventures in this way.
  • It should also be mentioned, this goal is also severely tied to the other goal of doing “what I want, when I want” because, even if I have the money to travel, my time is extremely limited due to the amount of work I have and limited time off through my day job.

If it sounds from these results that I’m not quite fully where I want to be, then you’re reading correctly. I firmly believe that “happiness” is not some overnight sensation – and that working towards these goals brings happiness in small doses.

Ultimately, we all want to achieve our overarching goals – and the next 2 things I’m going to talk about tie into this point.


Self-Care

In the pursuit of happiness, it can be natural for some people (like me at times) to abandon themselves in the process.

It’s an ironic thing – and maybe a symptom of the virtual workaholic syndrome many of us are forced by nature to adopt.

Personally, I’ve been guilty of going the Steve Jobs route from time to time and not even bothering to shower since it’s just a thing getting in the way…

While having goals and a good plan in place are key as you aspire to do things that make you happy, so to is realizing how important the day-to-day is & taking good care of yourself.

It turns out – eating healthy and working out are some of the most common things successful people tend to have in common.

When you think about it – it makes sense!!

While in the short-term you may be able to get some extra work done, any good approach to achieving “success” and “happiness” will be designed with the long-term in mind.

How to Take Care of Yourself

Actually taking care of yourself, especially when faced with either extremes of being excessively driven and a workaholic or depressed and lazy, is easy in paper.

For many people, putting the ideas of how we should take care of ourselves into action is tough.

Even tougher is learning to apply them consistently, day-in-and-day-out, until these elements of self-care become a natural extension of us. IE: it means you take on a new lifestyle.

A few things I’ve done to maintain a level of self-care (even during really stressful times and busy seasons):

  • Wake up a little early to eat some breakfast
  • Find little things to enjoy during my commute. IE: mixing up my music, changing the radio station, listen to an audiobook, etc.
  • Start (and commit to) a workout routine. I’ve done Stronglifts 5×5 and PHUL over the years for regular training.
  • Eat healthy (but don’t make it too extreme if you don’t want to). This is an area where people can get carried away, but the reality is that people tend to be happier when they can eat a mixture of things that are good for them and things that make them feel good. So yeah – I’ll eat a salad, but I’ll also have pizza & beer sometimes too.
  • Have a hobby (or two). Growing up, photography was always a great hobby for me. I still enjoy it – but my relationship with photography changed as I became a professional. Over the years I’ve taken on a number of other things like music production and home renovation projects.
  • Make time to relax. I am often driven so much by my ambitions that I forget to take a break. Today, I make an effort every day to relax…at least at the end of the day.

The key is to find things that help you stay mentally and physically alert.

The side effect of all of these things is a little dopamine rush – in other words – a dose of happiness for the short term.


Patience

Of all the things required to reach a state of happiness as you define it, patience is the most difficult virtue.

The challenge with learning patience as it applies to someone who is very driven to achieve goals as they aspire to better themselves is that it can feel like it gets in the way. Who wants to slow down and be patient when it’s so much more natural for us to want to run as quickly as possible to our goal?

For myself, I have always been a patient person. At times, my patience has bordered on laziness & apathy – but most of the time it’s productive patience. 🙂

As I have worked extremely hard towards my business goals, I have done this over the course of several years. I’ve grown my business at a slow and steady pace – allowing me to adapt to changes and pressures over time. Some of this was forced on me – as a result of working as a wedding photographer where I may get a booking today for a wedding a year or 2 from now. This means I never get to fulfill jobs until that later point in time.

A lot of my personal and professional success is hinged on the performance of my business. While I do have a day job, I do not judge my successes based on how I do there (though I perform well) – it simply does not have the motivational edge that having my own “thing” does.

How to Learn the Right Kind of Patience

There are different forms of patience.

On one hand, patience could refer to the ability to achieve a meditative state of stillness, and be slow to react unnecessarily to things. These areas are great personal attributes, but not exactly the type of patience I have in mind.

Instead of helping you find some innate sense of patience tied to doing the right thing and living at peace with yourself and your surroundings, the kind of patience that impacts you in the context of growing a business (or otherwise achieving a goal) is grounded in goal-oriented patience.

What is “goal-oriented patience”?

Well – it’s the awareness that patience is a necessity to achieve your goals and the action taken to consciously be patient.

By understanding and accepting this, it forces you to slow down and realize that not all success is overnight. Some goals, like those I work towards, are built over seemingly long periods of time.


Motivation

There was a time in my life when I felt a lack of motivation – and this was the result of a life without purpose.

I talk a lot about my pursuit into photography as a professional was it was inspired by an intrinsic motivation to work for myself, be with my wife more, and experience a life I want to have on my own terms. And sure, there were other experiences that really pushed me in this direction – like being let down again-and-again by the workplaces I inhabited.

For myself, and others like me who have been fortunate enough to find a “calling” in life, motivation is easy.

It’s easy to wake up at 5AM and go to work when you get something out of what you do. Even when it’s not always easy (I die inside every time I have to open up Quickbooks to do my accounting).

For those who feel aimless and without purpose, I get it – and I know first-hand that motivation can be really hard.

It’s like you need some motivation just to feel motivated.

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The Keys to Finding Motivation (Even When It’s Hard)

Motivation is something that can be worked for when it’s not naturally occurring, and it can be found on its own when it is.

It’s a lot like finding water while hiking through the woods (one of my favorite things to do). Sometimes, you can follow the trail until you run into a stream – that’s easy and pure water for you. Other times, there might be no water in sight, and a freak rainstorm might be able to provide (granted – you’ll have to set up some contraption to catch the water and purify it).

Motivation is the same – it can be had at all times, but sometimes it’s easy to get, and other times it’s hard.

Here are the things I’ve learned to help keep myself motivated day-in-and-day-out:

  • Remind yourself of your goals constantly. Your goals need to be powerful enough that you can’t fathom a life without achieving them. You would do anything to make them happen – so remember that even when you’re tired and it’s hard.
  • Taking a break is nourishment. I have a bad tendency to get “hangry” (hungry + angry). A lot of times I’ll think I’m just not feeling well, but turns out I just haven’t been eating all that much. Once I eat, everything’s good. I get the same way with working – I’ll work, work, work, and overwork, then end up frustrated. Taking a break (whether 30 minutes or a night off) does a lot to help get back into the game.
  • Chisel away at small goals. While I have large goals like “working for myself”, there are many smaller goals that help make this a reality. Every day I do things like “post on Instagram”, “write a blog post”, “respond to all my emails”, and so on. By fulfilling these little goals, it brings me closer to achieving the bigger ones. It also feels good!

What are things that keep you motivated in life? Share with me in the comments!


Intense Passion

Intense passion is not just the name of my DJ persona – but the fuel that keeps this car running well past it’s prime.

Unlike most of the other key things I’ve highlighted in this post, your passion for something will be difficult to quantify.

It really is that feeling inside that makes you tick.

I’m not sure I can really teach you how to find a passion, it’s something that will come naturally to you. However, when you do find it, you need to take it as far as you possibly can. 

The best thing I can offer you is just some personal experience talking about how I managed to take something I was passionate about and turn it into something life-changing.

As a photographer & blogger, I am enabled to see the world through different perspectives.

I use a variety of tools to shape how other people see the world, too.

I began exploring photography when I was relatively young, back at the start of high school. It was a simple hobby, and a way to communicate despite my pretty introverted self. My interest in writing held up from around that time too (hence the blog you find yourself on!).

As with a lot of things, life got in the way and I went down some more traditional paths. I went to college and got a degree in Psychology, and worked my way through a group home and into corporate environments. I won’t act like it’s been all bad (it hasn’t), but there has always been this empty pit inside. For some people, these types of roles in life are sufficient – they are the goal, motivator, and point of it all – but they weren’t that for me.

Along with my wife, I came to a realization that photography (this extremely simple thing at it’s core that I had no formal education or training in) could be the “thing” that is used as a catalyst to enjoying the rest of my life on my own terms.

Now, I take photos for people 1-2 times a week. Weddings, portraits, commissions – I take a lot of pictures. But, I am happier for it.

As I have learned, a passion for photography spread into other areas of my life – particularly to writing, which led me to creating this blog and sharing experiences with other people. As of the time of this writing, I have 170 articles published here over the course of the past years – talking about topics ranging from simple photography tips for beginners to product reviews and discussions of my travels (here’s one on photographing Icelandic horses – talk about a niche topic!).

When I summarize this experience, it sounds easy. But it wasn’t. Honing my skills, learning how to run a business, and so much more were all driven by this core underpinning passion that really made it possible to achieve what I have. I hope the same for those of you reading who want to get to a point in their life like this where, you can look back and say, “all the hard work was worth it!”


Acceptance of Any Outcome

The hardest part about aspiring to reach a goal is failure.

It is easy to talk about how great things are when things go well. I get excited to talk about my successes. I mean – who doesn’t want to hear a good success story?

While it’s easy for me to be a cynical type, most of the time I strive to be more positive and optimistic (though – my heavy coat of sarcasm makes this difficult for people to realize at times!).

Still – all the positivity in the world doesn’t always equal the good outcome we want. While we have some control over the things that happen to us, we don’t have all of the control. With my photography business, I have had success and very few failures (knock on wood), but I am also realistic and well aware that all the things I’m aspiring for could come crumbling down with an economic recession or illness.

The best we can ever do is be as prepared as possible for the potentially bad outcomes. I work my full time day job in addition to running my business to have money saved for a rainy day. But – we can never be prepared for everything.

At the end of the day – all the big things we do in life in the pursuit of a big dream is a gamble.

We all hedge our bets and hope we put together the option that has a 90% success rate instead of a 20%.

We go as hard as possible – being motivated by a fiery passion to achieve goals and make the things we want to happen in our lives happen.

At the stage I am at, I know full well that, whatever happens, I am satisfied with the effort I’ve put in. The painstaking planning, slow burning movement through life and making an attempt to reach something higher than I would have envisioned for myself even 5 years ago.

In your drive to invest your time, energy, money, etc. – keep this in the back of your mind. It’s not the happy-go-lucky motivational speech you might prefer, but if I’m being honest – it’s the reality that things could go wrong, that failure is a possibility, that life can throw unexpected curveballs – that really make success feel good and well deserved.

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