Want to craft a love letter that will make the recipient cry (tears of joy)? a sample love letter near the end to check out) the end result of your love letter has to be calibrated to “I love how you encourage the best parts of me.
Rumor has it that the first love letter was inadvertently “written” by two young lovers enjoying a picnic. After eating a juicy pomegranate, the man pressed his lips to a white cloth and noticed that an impression of his mouth remained. In a romantic gesture, he handed it to his lover saying, “With the stain from my lips, I officially pass my love to you.” The woman was genuinely moved because he had put evidence of his love in print.
Love letters are cherished by the recipient and are the most meaningful gift one lover can give to the other. Not only does the billet-doux make you feel loved, it allows you to re-live that feeling each time you read the letter. Although few romantic offerings carry this much weight, love letters are rarely given – not because we live in the age of tweets and texts, but because writing a tender missive has become a lost art.
Whether you wish to use many words or few, use this primer to communicate your affection to your beloved. You can be sure that your letter will create a treasured memory for your lover that will last a lifetime.
A simple framework
Writing a love letter is easier than you might think – you don’t have to be a good writer to turn out beautiful love letters. All you need is a simple framework to guide you through the process. There are three elements to a love letter:
The opening of your letter sets the tone for that which follows, so it’s important to carefully choose your words. For instance, a letter that begins with, “My dearest love” is certainly going to elicit more feeling from your partner than an opening that reads, “Hi.” This is the time to use pet names, affectionate greetings, or a loving phrase. If you get stuck, try one of these:
State your feelings
Creating the body of your love letter needn’t be difficult. Reflect upon the emotions that you feel when you think of your lover, or the feelings that come up when you’re together, and write them down. Use your own words to describe the exquisite evening you shared. Share the vision you have of your future as a couple. Recollect why you fell in love in the first place, and why you continue to treasure your beloved.
To simplify this, you can quote others who describe your feelings in a way that you can’t. A thoughtful, romantic citation is sure to bowl over your lover. Here are several quotes from famous love letters for you to use in your own communications:
The final word
You should choose your last words as carefully as you chose your salutation. A standard closing will leave your lover with an anticlimactic feeling. For example, a letter that ends with “Sincerely” will not make as much of an impression on your partner as “Yours for eternity.” To help ease you through this final step, here are plenty to choose from:
There you have it – the recipe for writing a simple love letter. Write your letter on a beautiful card, scented stationery, or even on the back of a paper napkin you picked up while you and your lover were together. You can be sure that your beloved will cherish your love letter forever.
If you want to add a little je ne sais quoi to your love letter, say “I love you” in another language. Here are some examples to get you started:
Bulgarian: Obicham te
Cambodian: Bon sor lanh oon
Danish: Jeg elsker dig
Gaelic: Tha gradh agam ort
Indonesian: Saja kasih saudari
Russian: Ya vas lyublyu
Spanish: Te amo
Welsh: ‘Rwy”n dy garu di
Yiddish: Ich libe dich
Zuni: Tom ho’ ichema
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A good starting point is to reflect on why it is that you've decided to write. Are you and your boyfriend celebrating an anniversary? Is this letter the pre-cursor to you proposing to you girlfriend? Or are you just looking to surprise your wife with a cute note? Your reason for writing will dictate whether you end up writing several paragraphs or keep it short and sweet instead.
1. Begin by telling your loved one why you're writing
Although you have the best intentions with this love letter, you don't want your lover to freak out and think they're getting dumped! You can begin with something like “I wanted to sit down today to write you this letter because I need to tell you how deeply I love you"
2. Reflect on a romantic memory you both share
Your shared memories are what makes you both so special as a couple, so the next logical step is to recall a fond moment from your history together. This will hopefully stir up deep emotions (all positive ones of course!)
3. Start writing about all the beautiful things you love about this person
Depending on whether you want to make her laugh or make her cry, this section can be serious or funny. This part is all about moving from your cherished memories to the present day, and you can bring up anything about your partner that has you so smitten by them.
4. Tell them how your life has changed for the better since they've been in it
You've mentioned aspects of their personality that you love, now let them know what a positive impact they've had on you, and how your life is infinitely better with them in it.
5. End by summing up how much they mean to you.
You could either try searching romantic love quotes and end with a famous line of poetry, like a sample from E.E Cummins iconic work 'I Carry Your Heart With Me (I Carry It In)', or if you have a copy of 'Love Letters of Great Men' handy (yes, the book from Sex And The City!) you could take one of the best love quotes from that. Alternatively, you could just end by telling them that you truly love them and can't wait to grow old with them. After all, this is you writing love letters for her, not some famed dead poet!
Ideally your love letter will remain a private possession to be enjoyed solely by your significant other, but it doesn't always work out that way. Celebrity love letters are frequently published in autobiographies or put up for auction because their adoring public are fascinated with the ways our idols choose to to express their most intimate thoughts. Here are 10 of our favourite famous love letters.
Author: Iconic artist Frida Kahlo
Addressee: Her husband, Diego Rivera
Written: Between 1928-1954, between their first meeting and Frida's death
Why We Love It: Frida's art has touched countless people around the world, and she was clearly an intensely passionate person. Swipe to reveal the letter itself, our favourite line is -
"My Diego. Mirror of the night. Your eyes green swords inside my flesh. waves between our hands.All of you in a space full of sounds — in the shade and in the light. You were called AUXOCHROME the one who captures color. I CHROMOPHORE — the one who gives color."
How To Channel This Energy: Take some time to look at artwork or listen to music that inspires you before beginning to write love letters for him or her.
Author: Irish poet and playwright Oscar Wilde
Addressee: Oscar's muse, Lord Alfred 'Bosie' Douglas
Written: January, 1983
"My Own Boy,
Your sonnet is quite lovely, and it is a marvel that those red rose-leaf lips of yours should be made no less for the madness of music and song than for the madness of kissing. Your slim gilt soul walks between passion and poetry. I know Hyacinthus, whom Apollo loved so madly, was you in Greek days.
Why are you alone in London, and when do you go to Salisbury? Do go there to cool your hands in the grey twilight of Gothic things, and come here whenever you like. It is a lovely place and lacks only you; but go to Salisbury first.
Always, with undying love, yours,
Why We Love It: It was exceedingly brave for Oscar Wilde and Lord Alfred to correspond this way, since homosexuality was considered both a criminal offence and a sickness during their lifetimes.
How To Channel This Energy: If you have something you need to say, now's the time to be brave and bear your heart on your sleeve.
Author: English poet Vita Sackville-West
Addressee: Famed English author Virginia Woolf
Written: 21 January 1927
"…I am reduced to a thing that wants Virginia. I composed a beautiful letter to you in the sleepless nightmare hours of the night, and it has all gone: I just miss you, in a quite simple desperate human way. You, with all your undumb letters, would never write so elementary a phrase as that; perhaps you wouldn’t even feel it. And yet I believe you’ll be sensible of a little gap. But you’d clothe it in so exquisite a phrase that it should lose a little of its reality. Whereas with me it is quite stark: I miss you even more than I could have believed; and I was prepared to miss you a good deal.
So this letter is really just a squeal of pain. It is incredible how essential to me you have become. I suppose you are accustomed to people saying these things. Damn you, spoilt creature; I shan’t make you love me any more by giving myself away like this — But oh my dear, I can’t be clever and stand-offish with you: I love you too much for that. Too truly. You have no idea how stand-offish I can be with people I don’t love. I have brought it to a fine art. But you have broken down my defenses. And I don’t really resent it."
Why We Love It: Vita's letter to Virginia captures the very essence of being hopelessly in love with someone. She makes no efforts to down play the strength of her feelings - instead she is completely honest about how besotted she is with Virginia.
How To Channel This Energy: If you're sending a love letter to someone, now isn't the time to be a shrinking violet. Lay it all on the line, what have you got to lose?
Author: Academy Award winner Richard Burton
Addressee: Dame Elizabeth Taylor
"My blind eyes are desperately waiting for the sight of you...
You don’t realise of course, EB, how fascinatingly beautiful you have always been, and how strangely you have acquired an added and special and dangerous loveliness.”
Why We Love It: Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor were famously married twice and their turbulent love story still fascinates fans of the Golden Era of film today.
How To Channel This Energy: This is classic 'Step 3' in action - make sure you take a moment to focus on all of your lover's unique traits.
Author: Country music legend Johnny Cash
Addressee: June Carter-Cash, his wife and musical partner
Written: In 1994 on June's 65th birthday.
"Happy Birthday Princess,
We get old and get used to each other. We think alike. We read each others minds. We know what the other wants without asking. Sometimes we irritate each other a little bit. Maybe sometimes take each other for granted.
But once in awhile, like today, I meditate on it and realize how lucky I am to share my life with the greatest woman I ever met. You still fascinate and inspire me. You influence me for the better. You’re the object of my desire, the #1 Earthly reason for my existence. I love you very much.
Happy Birthday Princess.
Why We Love It: This letter could be a love note between a nearly married couple, but the fact that this was Johnny Cash's message to his wife on her 65th birthday is so touching. It's a true testament to a love that lasted a lifetime.
How To Channel This Energy: Why not turn your partner's next birthday card into a love letter?
Why We Love It:
How To Channel This Energy:
Author: Rapper and activist Tupac Shakur
Addressee: His girlfriend at the time, legendary singer Madonna
Written: 15 January 1995
"I offer my friendship once again this time much stronger and focused. If you are still interested I would like to further discuss this with you but some of it just couldn't wait. I feel compelled to tell you, just in case anything happened to me...
...I don't know how you feel about visiting me but if you could find it in your heart I would love to speak face to face with you. It's funny but this experience has taught me not to take time 4 granted"
Why We Love It: We do love this letter but it a bittersweet way. This is a break-up letter that Tupac sent to Madonna from prison, during what would be the last year of his life. It's a heartfelt goodbye to their romantic relationship, but it is filled with so much respect and optimism.
How To Channel This Energy: We hope you never have the occasion to write a break-up letter, but if you do, try to do it with as much dignity as Tupac.
Author: Lead singer of the Arctic Monkeys, Alex Turner
Addressee: Fashion guru Alexa Chung
Written: Late 2000's, in a Valentine's Day Card
"My mouth hasn't shut up about you since you kissed it. The idea that you may kiss it again is stuck in my brain, which hasn't stopped thinking about you since well before any kiss. And now the prospect of those kisses seems to wind me like when you slip on the stairs and one of the stairs hits you in the middle of the back. The notion of them continuing for what is traditionally terrifyingly forever excites me to an unfamiliar degree."
Why We Love It: Alexa accidentally left this Valentine's Day card from her then-boyfriend Alex in a bar - the staff snapped it up and sold it to the tabloids who published it the next day. Recalling the incident, Alexa said "He [Alex] was really cool with it. ... He said, 'I'm not upset that everyone saw it because that's the truth and I couldn't give a s**t.'"
How To Channel This Energy: Tell the truth. Don't give a s**t.
Author: Playwright Arthur Miller
Addressee: Marilyn Monroe
Written: 17 May 1956
"Wife, Dear, Dear Woman—I have been thinking crazy thoughts. For instance, a wedding with maybe fifty people. Maybe in Roxbury, maybe somewhere else in a big house. And Bob and Jane there. And just a little bit of ceremony. Not fancy, but maybe my old friend Reverend Melish, a courageous and wonderful fighter for fine causes; or a Rabbi of similar background—I know one. Or maybe just somebody who can marry people. I want to dress up, and I want you dressed up; I want all my past looking on, even back to Moses.
I want the kids to see us married, and to feel the seriousness and honorableness of our marriage, so that nothing Mary can say to them will ever make them believe we have sneaked away to do this, or that I have hidden myself and what I wanted to do. And I want this for their sakes as much as for my own pride and my joy; so that they will see their Grandma and Grandpa full of happiness—and crying too, of course. (Isn’t it strange?—I didn’t have my parents to my first marriage, which was in Cleveland. It could have been arranged, but I felt better not to have them there. That time I felt untrue, you see? This time I feel true, and if the world wanted to come I would embrace them all.)"
Why We Love It: Arthur Miller was Marilyn's third and final husband before her untimely death at the young age of 36. She brought so much joy to others, it's heartwarming to see that someone wanted to bring joy to her.
How To Channel This Energy: Let your letter convey some of your past memories, and also what you want for your future together
Whether you want to profess your love to someone special, or you want to re-affirm your love to your significant other, words are a massively powerful tool.
The problem is that most people aren’t as eloquent as they would like to be when it comes to putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard).
If you effectively write a love letter to your significant other, you can make them cry tears of joy, you will deepen your connection with them, and they will have a keepsake to cherish for eternity that they can come back to whenever they feel like reading it and feeling a bonus burst of love.
Whether it’s a birthday present, Christmas card, anniversary gift, or just a random Tuesday for fun, an expertly written love letter can do amazing things for your relationship. Personally, I don’t believe in letting love letters only come up for major occasions. In fact, I believe in writing some form of a long-form love letter to your partner on (at least) a quarterly basis. If you’re with them, shouldn’t they deserve to know why you love them?
Here are some tips on how to write a powerful love letter that will make your partner cry tears of joy.
Before I get into the brass tacks structure of how to write your love letter, there are some things that I feel need to be expressed explicitly when in comes to the craft of love letter writing.
You could deliver the most beautiful piece of stationary with the finest calligraphy on the planet, but if the words on the page sound like a copy and paste job that you took from Hallmark and they didn’t make much sense for your specific relationship then the effect would be ruined.
The content of your love letter needs to make sense. Everything you say has to make the recipient think, “Wow, this is so true, sweet, and thoughtful. They really see me for who I am.”
So as much as I’m going to give you every element you need (and show you a sample love letter near the end to check out) the end result of your love letter has to be calibrated to the person you’re writing it to. It has to come from your heart. I’m giving you the skeleton of the love letter… it’s up to you to put the meat on it and give it added life.
Love letters on Christmas, Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, and birthdays are no-doubt powerful… but there should be an element of surprise when your love letters are gifted.
Don’t warn them that they’re going to get one in a few days as you’re in the process of writing it… just deliver it. BAM! Instant romance.
Don’t just spend your thousand-word love letter harping on the same thing. Even though it’s a nice gesture, giving someone a love letter exclusively focusing on their external beauty might not be as well received compared to a letter that touches on a multitude of different elements of them as a person.
Variety is key! More on this shortly.
I get it… not all of us are born writers. But don’t think that there is only one way of writing a love letter. It doesn’t have to be lengthy prose, or a rhyming poem, or anything else that society has led us to believe is the way to write a love letter.
While I personally find that un-rhyming words are usually better and connect with the heart more deeply, whether you write a bullet point top ten list, a traditional poem, or twenty paragraphs of free flowing words, it’s the thought and the calibration that counts. The format is irrelevant as long as it genuinely comes from your heart.
Some purists believe that hand written notes are the only way to go when it comes to delivery love letters… and while hand written is totally bad ass and a classic way of doing things, if your hand writing is as bad as mine then you might be better off sending a typed message (via email, Facebook, etc.).
Now, some people would argue that hand written letters stand the test of time more than sending the words via (for exaggerations sake) a Facebook message. But hand written letters can catch on fire… or have coffee spilled on them… or get eaten by the dog. So who is to say that a hand written love letter will necessarily last longer than a digital message will?
Whether you deliver it via beautiful stationary in your finest handwriting, a carefully crafted digital message, or a piece of paper that you commemorate in a photo frame, the delivery medium is largely irrelevant. What’s important is that you write it at all. If you’re better at communicating your innermost thoughts in one medium over the other, go with whatever feels natural.
I will now go into some structural elements of an effective love letter that you can then mix and match and use as you see fit. There is no one correct order for these to appear in in your finished love letter… these are simply elements. Some of them will resonate with you and others won’t mean as much to you. That’s fine. Use whatever it useful for you.
Here are seven important structural elements that you can include in your love letter.
Personally, I love starting my love letters with a quick explanation as to why I’m sending it. This can be as short as a few words, or as lengthy as a few paragraphs.
For example you could say any of the following to kick off your love letter:
“This letter is long overdue, and it’s been tumbling around in my mind for weeks now. So I thought it was finally time to put pen to paper and tell you how I feel about you.”
“You do so many little things day to day that only ever elevate my opinion of you. You are such a gift in my life and you deserve to know it… so I decided to write you this letter.”
“I’m not so good with talking about my feelings sometimes, but I didn’t want my thoughts to go unsaid… so I thought a letter would be best.”
Grounding the love letter with a reason can lead people in to the experience of “Get ready for this huge incoming smorgasbord of emotions!” by pacing their reality of “What am I about to be reading here?”
For this point, and the following five points, brainstorm your responses for as long as you need to. Give it it’s own few sheets of paper if you need to.
What exactly does your partner bring to your life? Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, sexually. How do they elevate your life? How do they make your daily existence that much easier or better?
Maybe you’ve told them about certain ways, or maybe you’ve told them almost none of them. This is your chance. Brainstorm out anywhere from 10-50 things that your partner brings to your life and then pick your favourite handful to focus on.
Some examples could be:
“I love how you encourage the best parts of me. I am healthier, more driven, and more emotionally fulfilled than at any other point in my life and that is in large part because of you.”
“Thank you so much for reminding me who I am when I sometimes forget. I am so grateful to have you as a rock in my life.”
“You have helped me turn my dreams into a reality in so many areas of my life. You are an absolute blessing.”
As always, make sure that it’s true for YOU. Calibration is key. And, by all means, if any of the above examples do ring true for you then please feel free to use them verbatim.
As simple as it sounds. Do you have a pre-existing relationship with this person? Then write out a list of all of your favourite memories that you shared and then pick your top couple of memories to reference in your love letter.
“That one time that you laughed so hard that chocolate milk came out of your nose? I fell in love with you right then and there.”
“I can’t believe it’s already been two years since we went on that trip to (location) together. I have such fond memories of how we navigated the streets like a team and we went the entire trip without even a small argument. We’ve always worked so well together as a couple and I couldn’t feel happier that we’re together.”
“Our first kiss was so blissful that I thought I might fall over. My legs felt like jelly for the next few days. You certain have always had a powerful effect on me.”
You can either allude to your multiple memories in a rapid fire 1-2 sentence format, or you can really sit with one amazing memory and describe it in vivid detail. The choice is yours.
A slight variation on point #2, what specifically do you love about the person you’re writing to?
What do you love about their character, their appearance, or what they fill their life with? Brainstorm/jot it down, and then let them know what you consider to be the highlights.
Examples of what you might love about them:
“I love your drive and ambition. I have endless faith that you’ll achieve anything you put your mind to.”
“You are so amazingly loyal to those you care about. The depth with which you love others is nothing short of inspiring. I love your massive heart.”
“I don’t think I actually had a sex drive before I met you. You are the sexiest thing in the world and I couldn’t be more attracted to everything about you.”
“You are so thoughtful with me. I noticed that you did (X), (Y), and (Z), recently and I want you to know that I notice all of it.”
“Your eyes are so captivating. I could get lost in them forever.”
“You are simply the best person I have ever known. I have endless respect for you and the way that you carry yourself in this world. So thank you for being you.”
I call this the Elusive Obvious effect. Often some of the things that are presented most obviously in plain view are the things that get taken for granted the most.
Also, if you are more prone to complimenting them on just one thing or one area (i.e. only their physical appearance, or only one of the things that they bring to your life) then this can be a good exercise for expanding your awareness of all of the other things that you love about them.
While it’s nice to praise the things hidden in plain view, I find that the most memorable moments in love letters come from finding the super specific details that you love about the love letter recipient and letting them be known. Just imagine… your love letter could be the first thing in the recipients entire life that lets them know that they have some specific gift that they bring to another’s life. And every time they notice that detail about themselves, the thought will be linked back to you and your thoughtful letter.
Really sit and brainstorm with this one. What are the teensy tiny, detailed things that your love letter recipient does/is that make your heart light up? It could be the way that they laugh, the way they eat, or the way they tear up when you’re watching a certain movie together. I wish I could give you a laundry list of 200 things for you to pull from but you know your love letter recipient infinitely better than I do. Really give this specific exercise some time. The few nuggets of gold that you mine from your brain will pay dividends in your relationship for years to come if you do this one right.
I like to finish my love letters with this element, but you can put them throughout your letter as you see fit.
Let them know that you’re in the relationship for the long haul by alluding to some imagined future plans that you want to see come to fruition.
Maybe it’s the fact that you’ll have children one day… or a trip to Paris that you want to take in a few years… or kissing each other’s wrinkly old faces. Whatever it is, make it something that you’re authentically excited about for your shared future.
I was going to include some real life love letters that I have sent out to my girlfriend, close friends, and parents in this section… but having read through the dozens of letters that I’ve written over the past few years, I’ve found that they’re all SO highly calibrated that they wouldn’t make much sense to people that didn’t know the letter’s recipient.
So I’m going to just write out a simple sample structure following my own advice just so you can see what a love letter would look like following the above points.
These past few weeks have been relatively challenging for me, as you know, and you have been such a blessing to me. I can’t always express my innermost thoughts as accurately as I want to in the moment and so I wanted to write you this letter to tell you how much you mean to me.
As amazing as I thought my life was before we first crossed paths, I couldn’t have dreamed of how much better my life would become after we first met. Since then I’ve felt healthier, happier, more accomplished, and more love day to day than at any other point in my life. I feel so grateful to be able to wake up next to you every day, and am so happy that yours are the lips that I get to kiss before I nod off every day.
From the craziness of white water rafting in Georgia to the silly fun at the trampoline park in San Francisco… we always seem to make fun situations out of otherwise challenging moments. I couldn’t feel luckier to have you by my side through all of the trials and tribulations of my life.
I don’t tell you often enough but I have such unending respect for you and how you carry yourself throughout your life. Your integrity is admirable. Your heart is so expansive and kind. Your eyes are like pools of green silk that I love getting lost in.
I love how you are with your family. You are so loving and patient with them and they obviously all look to you for advice because they value you and your opinion so much.
I love how considerate you are. You do so many little things for me that only ever add to my already never-ending list of things that I love about you. Whether it’s something as thoughtful as filling up my car’s gas tank, or something as seemingly insignificant as offering to give me a quick shoulder rub while we wait in traffic… you are such an amazing person and I’m so thankful that I get to be yours.
I’m so looking forward to kissing your old wrinkly face one day.
Remember, this article is meant to be a guide… a starting point… a skeleton structure that you can now make your own. And even if you copy and paste certain parts of this article to use in your love letter (which you are totally free to do), make sure that you modify the sentence a little bit so that the recipient couldn’t just Google the words and find out that you borrowed them from someone else.
Bottom line… whatever you write and however you deliver it, make sure it’s from your heart. If it’s authentically you, they will love it just as much as they love you.
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I would like to ask when and to whom can one write at the end of the letter "love"?
For instance: I wrote to my friend at the end of the letter " best wishes", and he ended his letter "love". Can it indicate that he has romantic feelings towards me? Or is it a common expression used to end letters to friends?
Close friends often use it. It doesn't have to mean there are romantic feelings. It's like "Dear xxxxx" at the beginning of letters. You're not necessarily saying xxxxx is near and dear to you, but rather just indicating that that's who you're addressing this letter to.
In my experience women often use this at the end of letters, men tend to use it less often. I would expect that a man using this at the end of a letter either was a) using it romantically or b) feels very close to the addressee.
You also just have to take into account the personality of the person writing. I've known people who would sign off with "Love" to just about anyone. My best friend and I have known each other for 30 years and write to each other frequently now that we're living on opposite coasts of the US, but she has never once used "Love" at the end of a letter. That's just her way. I think she reserves it for people she's *in love* with.
I can also confirm from experience that many American women use "love" or "hugs" at the end of letters or e-mails, so it may be considered by some as a "feminine" trait (I have hardly ever read letters by men signed like that). However, women in Europe (when writing in English) tend to end their letters like this less often, maybe because they are mostly like Deborah's friend, wanting to reserve their "love" to people who they are intimate with, or because it would indicate that you have an intention of getting intimate with the other person. The more common endings are the more neutral "yours", or, on a more relaxed note, "bye". And it is also more common to start letters with "Hello/Hi [+ name]" than "Dear [+ name]".
Just on a short note: German and Austrian women tend to be an exception, because they usually end even their first letters to foreigners with "Viele liebe GrÃ¼sse" ("many loving greetings"), which seems a little more intimate to me than the "Best wishes" or "Best regards" in English. Either this is because they want to avoid the somewhat formal "Mit freundlichen GrÃ¼ssen" ("with friendly greetings"), or because they don't mind being perceived as friendly or casual even at the first exchange of letters.
In general, if you have to ask if "Love" is appropriate, you don't know the personal well enough to use it. Some people use it for practically all non-business letters, though, and others (including myself) never use it at all. It means what it says: you're sending your love (romantic or platonic) with the letter.
It all depends on what sort of relationship you have with the person you're writing to.....simple as that.
I use it when e-mailing/texting a lot of my girl friends but as I'm a gay guy it does not indicate anything sexual whatsoever....just a token of friendly affection. As I'm gay, I also use it for quite a lot of my male friends as well, naturally....not all of them are gay by any means. You have to know the person. As I say, it all depends on the nature of your friendship/relationship.
Love is a really nice word......it should be used more frequently..and mean something other than sex.
Except for the sending of cards for special occasions like birthdays and stuff nobody actually writes letters, do they?
"Intimacy" is also being used nowadays as an euphemism for a sexual relationship. I definitely meant it in a "platonic" sort of way...
It seems that in continental Europe most people (whether males or females) use more "emotion-neutral" endings when sending letters than native English speakers do, even if the same people probably use less "neutral" endings in their native language. And I've been warned that with Russians, it is better to use "Hello" than "Dear ..." when writing a letter, because "dear" would imply a closer relationship, in other words, it could be taken literally, and that may leave the other person a little embarrassed.
Love actually means love only. So when one says love or writes love or hears love, it conveys love and nothing else. Otherwise what do you write when you desire to express love..i mean would you write .."with best regardes"... or "yours truely"...
Again...it depends on your interpretation of the word "Love".
btw: Regardes = Regards
Truley = Truly
Nobody would use those words in any communication to a close friend and that's for sure! Not here, anyway. I cannae speak for other countries.
"Love" is just a litle bit more than "take care" It can be used by both men and women if they are really close friends. That's all.
Met this guy early this year. He is 55, he lost his wife around May this year and now he ends his letters with "love". I am really confuse about this as i am in love with him but he doesn't know this. Just want to know if he is gradually being in love with me. I really want to make him happy. Although he starts his letters with "sweetheart" and sometimes with "darling".
If he lost his wife it's not so easy to replace her with someone else. Just give him his own time. Do you know that sometimes words as darling sweatheart or love are just polite way to say hello.
Magdallena, it really depends on who you talk to, the problem is that these days, when you take into consideration the amount of people with perverted minds, you can imagine what most people would think of if a letter ends with "love."
There is absolutely nothing wrong with ending your letter with "love" when writing to a friend, I just think perversion is driving it out of vogue. These days you dare not write a letter of devotion to a child, you could be arrested.
Did I hear someone say "what's he talking about?, I write those to my children everytime!." Well, I've got news for you, try it in five years time, I might come to visit you in prison. That is what the world is really coming to.
I wrote to my friend at the end of the letter " best wishes", and he ended his letter "love". I definitely meant it in a "platonic" sort of way.