When you want to tell a girl you like her, you need to make sure you DO NOT kiss her butt and put her up on a princess pedestal. All that does is.
Okay...if I give u an answer like this..
Call that guy..ask him if they can meet and then create some heat in the moment ask him how he feels about u..BLAH!BLAH!BLAH..
U WILL SURELY FREAK OUT and will say to urself that I already had these things in mind..right?
I wud like to share my personal case..it will surely help u..
She was my father's colleague's daughter ..we used to meet often in parties and all..
Over the last yr we had started to talk more and more..(she lives in Mumbai and I in NCR)
so one day when we were talking via facetime ..
She out of no where asked what are ur feelings about me..
I was like oh girl..u r an awesome person..
She with the most straightforward looked asked me...
Will u like to be wid me as in I wanna get into a relationship with u..
I told her u know I am preparing for JEE 2017..it wud be really difficult for us to be together.but from inside I knew that I really wanted her..
Always think that even the guy u r proposing also feels for u the same way u feel for him...this will boost ur confidence..
She and I talked for some more time consulted our parents and got into a relationship... It's been 6 months since we r together...I can proudly say that if I am on the right track in my jee prep a lot of credit goes to her..
I know I bored u guys gr8 if u have reached till here..
So here a more particular answer comes...
What a girl needs to do na is just be genuine I am sure every guy mind u every guy will love to have a girl who really present herself as she is..or in other words doesn't fake around..
So summing up what I wanted to say is try to tell how significantly u can bring a positive change in his life..
Be genuine..be confident...go for it..
And and pls handle rejection maturely..pls..I hope u dont have to face it but don't pls don't feel bad about it because thing happen the way they are meant to...ALL THE BEST
In most cases, the best way to tell a girl you like her is to simply man up and do it – accepting whatever outcome occurs. That being said, there are a few things.
In most cases, the best way to tell a girl you like her is to simply man up and do it – accepting whatever outcome occurs. That being said, there are a few things you can do in leading up to telling a girl you like her that will help you get the positive response you want. So before you make your move, check out these tips on how to tell a girl you like her.
Body language and attraction
One way to show a girl you’re that interested in her is to give off signals of attraction through your body language. Show a woman the right body language and she’ll begin to assume you’re interested in her without you having to say a word.
The key to showing a girl you like her in this way is to give her positive body language throughout your interactions. Make eye contact with the woman regularly, listen actively to what she says, and face her so both your chest and feet are pointing her direction during your interactions. This kind of attention will get her to start thinking that you just might be interested in her.
Just be careful not to overdo it as too much positive body language with women can make a guy look needy.
Showing a girl interest while creating sexual attraction
An even more effective way to subtly show a girl you’re interested in her is through touch. Not only will touching her show the girl you’re interested, but it will simultaneously escalate the sexual tension between the two of you.
So if you’re interested in a girl and want to get the girl to like you, it is critical that you touch her more. You may want to start with light, playful taps on the elbows during conversation – and build from there. For example you could: gently touch her arm/shoulder/back/knee throughout your conversation, guide the small of her back as she walks through a doorway, or mix side-hugs into the interaction.
The trick in using touch to attract women is to gradually increase the duration and intimacy of the touch (moving from elbow to shoulder to neck, etc. while making contact for progressively longer periods of time). As she becomes more and more comfortable being physical with you at deeper and deeper levels, the sexual attraction the woman feels towards you will gradually strengthen.
(For more on how to escalate with women and get women turned on through touch, check out the Pickup Podcast toolbox episode on touch)
How to tell a girl you like her: Weave it into the conversation
Dropping the “I like you” bomb out of nowhere can sometimes be a lot for a girl to handle. If her mind is focused on other things and she’s not expecting it, then it may throw her through a bit of a loop. So before telling a girl you like her, you may want to first steer the conversation in that direction.
For example, when talking to the girl you like you may want to bring up the subject of dating. Ask her about her dating life – see what she’s looking for in a man/relationship and if there’s anyone she’s currently interested in. After she explains this, it’s your turn to talk about your dating life. Now that she’s focused on you and hearing what you have to say, she’s less likely to be taken off-guard when you tell her you like her.
What to say when asking a girl out
One of the best ways to let a girl know you like her is to simply ask her out on a date. Of course when it comes to how to ask a girl out, some ways are better than others.
For example, saying “hey let’s meet up Friday” can leave her unsure of what you’re intention is and what you want. She may just assume you want to meet up as friends. Further, you also don’t want to use a line like “will you go out with me?” as that can come across as weak and needy.
The best way to ask a girl out then, involves being clear in your intention while asking in a confident manner. Saying something like “I want to take you on a date, are you free Friday?” can work great. It shows a woman confidence as you own up to the fact that you’re interested in her. It also shows the clear intention that you want to date her.
How to ask girl out
Now, the words you use when asking a girl out are not going to be nearly as important as the way you deliver them. So here are three tips for asking a girl out that will help you do it effectively
Does she like me?
It’s a question that has no doubt entered almost every man’s mind at some point in his life.
After all, what better way to avoid rejection than by figuring out how a girl feels before signalling your romantic interest?
Yet women can sometimes be quite hard to figure out, even when we think we’re making things blatantly obvious to the guy we’re into.
And let’s be honest, you men aren’t all that great at reading the signs much of the time.
Especially when your judgement is clouded by little hearts swimming in front of your eyes when you look at someone you really fancy.
Whether you like her and aren’t sure whether she’d say yes if you asked her out, or you’ve already been out, but you’re not sure whether she’s keen to carry things on, reading a girl can be a bit of a minefield.
The key is to watch for particular behaviors and other cues that indicate her mutual attraction to you. Or, at the very least, her willingness to engage with you and explore things further.
Some might be subtle, while others border on flirting, but here are some telltale signs that she’s into you.
When we like a guy, we’ll end up watching him a lot whether we like it or not, and we probably won’t be that good at hiding it. If you look at her and catch her staring, that’s a good sign.
If she smiles at you when your eyes meet, or if she responds to your smile by smiling back, that’s even more positive. Especially if it’s one of those sweet, shy smiles that comes when you’ve been caught staring.
After all, it’s hard to hide your true feelings in the moment when you’re not prepared for it.
On the other hand, and because we’re nothing if not contrary, another sign (especially if nothing has happened between you yet) is that she literally never looks at you.
She’ll studiously avoid your gaze because she doesn’t want to be too obvious.
If she comes into a room and knows you’re going to be there, watch to see if her eyes seek you out when she arrives.
Even if she doesn’t come over to you and goes to her friends instead, the fact she’s checking to see if you’re there is a very good sign, as it means you’ve been on her mind.
Those little glances signal that she is preparing herself mentally for an interaction with you later on.
If you’ve known her for a while as a friend and she’s suddenly developed feelings for you, she’d have to be an incredible actor to stop her behavior toward you from changing.
If you had quite a close, affectionate relationship before and she suddenly stops touching you or starts treating you differently to the way she does other guys you both know, something’s probably up.
She may no longer feel as comfortable being that friendly because in her heart she wants more. She may want to be your girlfriend, but there’s a good chance she’s also worried about being rejected or ruining a perfectly good friendship.
Again, this will vary from girl to girl, but generally, if we like someone, we’ll message them back pretty quickly.
That’s unless you’ve got into the dreaded ‘game’ of only replying after three days and feigning disinterest, in which case she’ll stick to that because most girls don’t want to seem like the ‘keen’ one.
Although some people thrive off these games, most girls don’t have time for them. If you keep playing, she’ll probably lose interest pretty quickly, so for the love of god stop messing around and text her back.
When you first meet up, does she get a little tongue-tied? Does she struggle to come up with topics of conversation?
Is she not quite sure how to greet you? Should it be a handshake? A hug? A kiss on the cheek? A kiss on both cheeks? Or does she just stand there awkwardly?
If a woman likes you, she’ll have butterflies in her stomach when she first sees you, and that might mean her brain takes a short holiday.
She should soon relax into your company, but initial nerves are a sure sign she’s interested.
Some girls are uncomfortable with contact in public, so this doesn’t always apply, but generally, if she’s into you, she’ll find ways to touch you, even if they’re only small gestures.
Touching your arm is definitely a good clue, as it’s deliberate and surprisingly intimate. Or she might flirt in another physical way such as playfully hitting you or even being more direct if she’s confident and highly attracted to you.
There’s nothing more infuriating than parting ways with a guy you like without any clear idea of when you’re seeing each other next.
If she’s not bothered about seeing you again, she’ll probably keep things vague, but if she’s interested in you, she might suggest certain days or times she’s free for another date.
Make sure you take her up on one of them if you can and pin down a plan, or she might think you’re not interested in meeting up again and go off the boil.
Having set plans gives her the reassurance she’s going to see you again, and means she doesn’t have to wait around for you to make a suggestion, which can get extremely tedious.
If she likes you, chances are her friends know all about it and will react in ways that reflect this. Perhaps they leave you two alone when you approach her or maybe they drop little hints when they talk to you.
Either way, friends are often less subtle about things to the point where they give very good clues as to the feelings of the girl herself. They may even tell you outright that she likes you – if you’re lucky!
If you know your jokes are bad and she’s still laughing at them, that’s an excellent sign that’s she’s got a crush on you.
Being around a guy we like generally puts us in a good mood and can make us very giggly, so smiles and laughter are excellent.
Look for big toothy grins that make her eyes sparkle too, and you know you’re in with a chance.
In western culture, we’re generally pretty terrible about making eye contact, so if we do meet someone’s eyes, it’s usually done very deliberately.
Eye contact is surprisingly intimate, so if she meets your eyes and holds your gaze, that’s a very good sign.
What’s more, if you spot that her pupils dilate when speaking to you, it’s a further indication that she is interested in you.
Licking of the lips is an unconscious signal that you like what you see. And we’re not talking about grand lip licking gestures of extreme flirtatiousness…
…we’re talking about those little, snake-like tongue flicks that moisten our lips in readiness to talk or perhaps even to kiss.
Sometimes you might say or do something that makes her cheeks go pink or even bright red. This blushing is less to do with embarrassment and more to do with excitement and nervousness.
If you flirt with her and see those scarlet tones hit her cheeks, it’s a sign that she may be hiding real feelings for you.
If a girl likes you, she will want to look her most attractive whenever you are around. So she will check her hair, touch up her makeup, and adjust her clothes to their rightful positions.
She may regularly tuck her hair behind her ear whilst you talk or reapply lip gloss during a bathroom break. These signs can be subtle, but if you are observant you will be able to spot them.
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When we’re really interested in what someone has to say, we don’t just focus on them with our eyes, we turn our whole body toward them.
If her shoulders are square on to you, she’s really focusing her attention on you. Though, it’s also important to watch her feet because if these remain pointed away from you, she’s might be hesitant to fully engage.
She’ll have open body language that is inviting and warm. She certainly won’t have crossed arms. She might also stand a little taller and push her shoulders back to expose more of her neck.
If a girl is into you, she will probably lean in when you are talking or even take half a step toward you so as to fully engage with you.
Since this effectively pushes the boundaries of your personal space, it’s quite an intimate thing to do. But it shows interest in what you are saying and her high level of comfort around you.
Another thing she might do without even realizing it is to tilt her head to one side slightly when you are talking. This expresses interest and shows that she is receptive to what you are saying.
This head tilt may be accompanied by a slight dropping of her chin toward the ground. The result is that her gaze is turned upward to your face, reducing her jaw line and giving her the classic puppy dog eye look.
This is a slightly submissive pose that shows vulnerability and appeals to the man’s protective nature.
We humans naturally copy what others are doing if we want to appeal to them. This could be among friends or even in business settings, but it is particularly prominent in dating scenarios.
So if you spot her mirroring your gestures, your body language, or the things that you say, it’s her subconscious mind revealing its attraction to you.
If she likes you, she’ll probably be listening to you.
If you’ve mentioned the name of your aunt’s dog or your little brother’s birthday and she remembers, that’s proof she’s hanging on your every word and is genuinely interested in what you’re telling her, rather than zoning out.
Don’t judge us too harshly on this one because some of us have horrendous memories (we’re only human), but if she remembers little things you’ve said, she’s clearly keen.
Not only will she listen to what you have to say, she will dig a little deeper by asking you questions. She wants to get to know the real you to assess whether you are boyfriend material.
She’s trying to figure out whether or not there is a connection there, so be prepared for some flirty banter that focuses mostly on you.
And she’ll want to find out about any common interests you may share and about any skeletons hiding in your closet.
Perhaps not straight away, but as you get to know each other and feel more comfortable talking about things, she may direct the conversation to topics that show a level of intimacy or vulnerability.
This could be your dreams, your fears, your beliefs, your preferences when it comes to children, or even heartache or trauma from her past.
The fact that she is opening up to you reveals that she is taking this blossoming relationship seriously.
When the two of you are talking, she will put away her phone, ignore passing distractions, and focus her energies on you.
This is her way of showing that she is invested in what you have to say and that your words mean something to her.
And she won’t just listen to reply like many people do in casual conversation, her responses will be thoughtful, show interest, and make you feel listened to.
If a woman wants you to have that warm, happy feeling when you’re together, she might give you a compliment or say other nice things about you.
She may speak positively about what you’re wearing or other aspects of your appearance. Or she might remark on something you did that particularly impressed her.
Whatever the context, if she is saying kind things about you, it’s a good sign that she wants you to like her.
If you don’t know a girl and have just met her at a party or bar or through friends, you might be wondering what her relationship status is.
But if she is interested in you on that level after getting to know you a little bit, chances are she will find a way to let slip that she is currently free and single.
If she brings this up, it’s one of the strongest signs that she likes what she sees. If she didn’t, there would be little reason in bringing such a personal detail up.
What’s more, she’ll be very attentive to your reaction to assess whether you are also single and what your underlying emotions about her are.
This one’s a little tricky because a woman holding something in her hands can mean very different things.
The key to figuring it out is to watch how she holds and interacts with it. Does she caress it or does she grip it tight? Does she focus on the object a lot, or are her hands moving subconsciously?
If she is holding a drink, for example, and gently stirring it whilst maintaining eye contact with you, it’s more likely to be a sign that she is relaxed and open to you as a person.
If, on the other hand, she is clutching her handbag across her midriff and looking away from you a lot, she’s trying to maintain a physical barrier between you and her either because she’s not interested, or because she is not yet comfortable enough in your presence.
A lot of the time, girls are very detail-oriented.
Big, showy gestures have their place (we’re never going to complain if a guy sweeps us off to Paris on a mini-break…), but when a girl wants to show that she likes someone, it’ll be through the little details rather than anything grand.
She might cook you dinner; she might buy you something small and silly; she might do something thoughtful for your birthday…
If she does something that requires an investment of time rather than money, she’s definitely into you and trying to show it.
Noticing several of these signs is clearly very helpful when you are trying to figure out if a girl likes you as more than just friends, but the picture grows ever clearer the more you see these things repeated.
In isolation, these signs can be misinterpreted as something more than they are. Yet each time you see them, you can grow in confidence with regards to her true feelings toward you.
If she’s giving you all the right signals, you need to reciprocate to make sure she knows she’s not alone in this. She’ll be watching you closely for signs, just as you are her.
Touch her, smile, laugh at her jokes, and – this is very important – tell her that you like her (without it feeling awkward) <<– click this link to learn how best to do this.
No one’s willing to sign up for unrequited love, and even if she’s starting to like you, she’ll definitely need encouragement before she’ll let herself fall head over heels.
Enjoy the butterflies.
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You can't stop thinking about them, you blush every time they talk to you, you're fantasizing about your future together... what you have here is a crush. Once you've admitted to that, your next step is to tell them how you feel. Telling someone you like them can sound like a daunting experience, and TBH, it is not easy.
That's why Seventeen spoke with Maria Sullivan, dating expert and vice president of Dating.com, for advice on how to tell someone you like them in the least awkward way possible. Here are her best tips to make this confession as painless as possible. And hey, maybe the next time you'll be back here will be for first date ideas!
If you're feeling extra nervous about revealing your feelings, try hinting at your crush and see how they respond. Make eye contact, tease them playfully, or send a flirty text. "It can help diffuse any associated pressure and motivate your crush to consider a relationship with you," says Sullivan.
Hold yourself accountable, Sullivan says. And setting a deadline for yourself to talk to your crush will do just that. Sometimes, your nerves can get the best of you and you might push it off for way too long. If that's the case, don't be afraid to pick a date on your calendar and set that personal deadline. The longer you wait, the more time you give yourself to completely overthink the situation and make things even more awks!
This one is obviously easier said than done, but confidence and clarity will make a complete difference in your convo with your crush. "No one is born an expert at this," Sullivan says. "Even the most seasoned daters have to brace themselves for the potential of rejection."
Keep in mind that although you want to hope for the best, it's possible that your crush might not reciprocate your feelings. TBH, rejection sucks, but it's also a risk that comes with being vulnerable. So when you're sharing your feelings, make sure that you don't make them feel like they have to respond.
"Be mindful that the person you are telling has an obligation to their own feelings," says Sullivan. "Set up the conversation in a way where he or she knows they have the choice to do what’s right for them as well."
You're probably too busy thinking about how you don't want to make them feel weird, but it's super important that you're comfortable, too. And if texting is comfortable for you, do that! You might think texting something so personal is thoughtless or weird, but Sullivan actually thinks sending a text is totally fine.
"Declaring your feelings via text can remove any immediate shock from the situation, making it easier for the recipient to provide a meaningful response," she says. "There is no single right way to go about telling someone how you feel and nothing should be ruled out."
Sullivan refers to this tactic as testing the "do nothing" scenario to evaluate if you should even confess your crush. Consider how you'd feel if your crush moved away and never find out how you felt about them, Sullivan says. "Does the missed opportunity upset you? If so, you are likely already too invested not to find out what could be." Remember that doing nothing could lead to even more regret!
The thought of your crush admitting they don't feel the same way about you can feel AWFUL. But also remember that it is not the end of the world if you face rejection or indifference — life will go on. "Try to see the big picture and scale the problem down to actual size," Sullivan says.
You have your BFFs, family, dog, cat... so many companions to love and be loved by. On to the next!
While it's important to consider the realistic possibilities, you should also keep a positive outlook. Your crush could totally reciprocate and you could live happily ever after (OK, probably not, but it could happen!).
If you don't feel super confident, fake it! Smile, stay calm, and say everything you need to say. "Whether you make the move online or offline, smiling can trick your brain into lowering your heart rate, reducing stress, and boosting your mood," says Sullivan.
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