If you want to know the basics of writing a condolence email, here are 7+ condolence email examples Write how you feel about the loss of someone you know.
Q. The mother of a relatively new client of mine just died of a heart attack. I’m a lawyer, and am thinking of sending the condolence note below to the client:
“Janet: So very sorry to hear about your mother’s passing. When the days seem dark, remember to cherish the good memories the two of you created. It will help carry you through the dark. You are in my thoughts and prayers.”
Do you think this note is appropriate?
It’s hard to write any condolence note because the subject is death. But it’s especially difficult when the bereaved is a client or customer. The challenge is to strike just the right tone and choose words carefully. The wrong ones can make a poor impression and even damage the business/professional relationship.
I would start your note, “Dear Janet,” rather than just “Janet.” Omitting the “dear” would be acceptable in an ordinary note, but it’s much too casual for a condolence message. This is a sad and very sensitive situation. I would begin the first sentence with, “I am very sorry to hear...” for the same reason. “So very sorry,” which omits the “I,” seems almost flippant.
The next sentence gives advice, which is a common mistake in condolence notes. Advice is the last thing any bereaved wants to hear – especially from someone who isn’t personally close. The words can seem presumptuous, and make the recipient feel very angry. You don’t know your client well yet, and probably have no knowledge of her relationship with her mother. The same is true of the line, “It will help carry you through the dark.” The person’s reaction very well might be, “How would you know?!”
Realize that writing a condolence note is not about being profound. It’s about acknowledging a death and expressing genuine sympathy. Period. Here is one possibility:
I’m so sorry to hear about your mother’s passing. You are in my thoughts and prayers at this time of sadness. I send my deepest condolences.
Follow with your signature. Here is another option:
I just heard about your mother’s death. I’m so sorry for your loss. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy.
And simply sign your name. Such brief notes are both powerful and appropriate, and they keep you from getting into trouble.
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Florence Isaacs is the author of several books on etiquette, including My Deepest Sympathies: Meaningful Sentiments for Condolence Notes a.... She writes two advice blogs for Legacy.com: Sincere Condolences and Widow in the World, a new blog for bereaved spouses and partners.
My/Our condolences." "I am deeply and sincerely sorry for the loss of your father." "I am deeply pained and words are of no help in expressing the sorrow I feel at.
Finding the right words of condolence to offer the bereaved is difficult. There is no perfect condolence message; there�s nothing you could say that will make the sorrow disappear. However, the following brief and simple condolences will let the grieving family know you care:
Moms are special people, and we will pray for you and your family.
(Name), you have my deepest sympathy! I am tremendously saddened for your loss. The memory of your Mother will give you comfort, and her legacy live through you all! God Bless your family.
Your Mom always had a smile and a kind word. She was a joy to know.
Heaven has added an Angel; your Mom was such a kind person. God bless you and your family and watch over you during this most difficult time.
Moms are special people, we will pray for you and your family.
Your Mom was a beautiful person inside and out, you and your family are in our mind and prayers. In loving memory of your Mother. From your Neighborhood Friends.
Your mom was a truly an extraordinary woman and was admired by everyone who knew her.
May time heal the sadness that you feel with the loss of your Mother. During these tough times, know that you are in our thoughts and prayer.
We will pray for you and the rest of your family. God Bless your Mom.
Thinking of you in the loss of your sweet dear mother. Love (Name) Family!!!!
My heartfelt Condolence for the loss of your mother, we pray your faith will give you strength.
The loss of your incredible mother has saddened us. You remain in our thoughts and prayers. We love you all SO much!!
The loss of your mother has saddened our entire family, she was such a great friend. We hope the precious memories you carry in your heart will help you through this challenging time.
Moms are special people, and we will pray for you and your family.
You are forever in our hearts and prayers. Your Mother was the very best.
We would like to express our sorrow and condolences to you and your family. Your Mother will be a part of our prayers from now on.
I remember how much she used to love us, and take care of us, and be there for all of us. We will always consider your Mom part of our family.
Your mother was a gift to everyone who ever met her. Sorry for your family�s loss.
Your mother encouraged others to be the best they could be. That�s reflected in your life successes.
I am so thankful that I knew your mother. She was a wonderful mentor.
Your mother was always laughing and brought joy to all of us. Our condolences.
Please accept our genuine condolences in this difficult time for you and your family. Loss of a Mother is a significant loss. We share your pain and are here for you.
Your mother was a lovely woman and a dear friend, and the news of her passing saddened us all. Wishing condolences from our family to yours.
I was devastated to learn of your mother�s passing. I offer my condolences, and I will be here for you and your family.
Your Mother was an Angel to all of us. Stay strong; you are in our Prayers.
Keep the memory of your Mother alive, and may you find the comfort you need.
We are devastated to hear of your Mom�s passing. You are in our prayers, God Bless.
May your Mom rest in peace and continue to guide your way in life.
Losing a parent is never easy, may you find solace in the lovely memories you shared with your mom.
Suffering the loss of your mother pains and stings unlike anything else. Please accept my sincere condolences and send much love to your family.
May your Mom rest in peace. Please share our sympathies to your entire family.
The loss of a father is especially difficult to deal with. The following sample condolence messages for the loss of a father will help you to find comforting words to share:
May his memory be eternal. Your Dad truly loved his family.
Your dad was a kind man and a true gentleman, he always put others before himself. He will undoubtedly be missed.
My sincere condolences. Your father was a remarkable friend, and his passing was tragic. We will be praying for your family.
I am sorry for your loss. Your Dad was the pillar of our community and will be missed. Your family is in our prayers.
Your Dad was such a nice man. It saddened us when we heard he passed on. Rest in Heaven.
We are profoundly saddened for the loss of your father. You will be in our prayers.
Your Dad always boasted about what a beautiful family he had. I know that you meant so much to him. Truly sad for your loss.
I know, he will be looking out for you and your brothers always. That�s the type of guy he was.
I worked with your Dad for over 35 years, he was a kind and honest man. Please, tell your Mom that we share her sorrow.
Your Father has passed on, but his thoughts, hopes, and dreams live on.
I am genuinely sorry for your loss. No condolence message can express how much your Dad meant to me and how sad I am about your loss.
Your Dad was a fantastic man who loved everyone, we were privileged to work and golf with him.
I want you to know that all the people that worked with your Dad are saddened. He was indeed a delightful man, and we will miss him dearly.
I know how proud you were of your Father. His passing must me hard on the family. We are praying for you.
I played high school football with your Dad, many years ago. Over the years he would mention what a beautiful family he had and thanked God for that blessing. He will be missed.
Your Dad brought much joy to all his Golf buddies. As you grieve, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
I was saddened when I learned of your father�s death. (Name of Deceased) was a wonderful friend and co-worker.
Your Dad was respected by all the people that worked for him. He was a true leader, and we will miss him. Condolences from everyone at the plant.
I was shocked by the news that your Dad has passed. He was a great guy and will be missed by all of us. We are praying for your entire family.
Please accept my heartfelt condolence of your father�s death.
(Name of deceased) has found eternal rest.
God sees and knows everything. He is with you right now.
May fond memories of your (Relative) bring you comfort during this hard time in your life. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family.
Our condolences to you and your family on the passing of your aunt. May our friendship and prayers ease you through this challenging time.
The loss of your brother deeply saddens me. He will be truly missed, and I will include him in my daily prayers.
(Name of deceased) soul is now free.
I offer you my thoughts, prayers and well-wishes during this dark time in your life.
Please accept my deepest condolences and know that God loves you and can restore your spirits, give you peace, and strengthen you.
(Name of deceased) pain is gone, and it is our turn to deal with sorrow. (Name of deceased) has found eternal rest.
I cannot even begin to understand what you�re going through right now, but I would like to offer my prayers and condolences.
May the soul of the dearly departed rest in peace, may my prayers help guide her on her journey to our Creator.
We are deeply saddened by the news of (Name) passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
We/I are/am deeply saddened by the news of (Name of deceased) passing. Our/My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
(Name of deceased) soul is now at peace.
His compassion, they fail not. They are new every morning: great is Thy faithfulness. Lamentations 3:22-23
May my condolences bring you comfort, and may my prayers ease the pain of this loss.
Prayers and fond memories are what we have to remember (Departed).
We want to offer our prayers and condolences to you and your family.
He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Isaiah 40:29
May God comfort you among the other mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.
The hope of salvation is most important in our lives when death touches us.
Call unto Me, and I will answer you� Jeremiah 33:3
I�ll be praying for you and your family. God�s love and grace are always with you.
Please accept our condolences and may our prayers help comfort you.
We�re praying that the light of God�s face shines on you in the darkness of your grief.
Your loss deeply saddens us; may our prayers guide his soul to our Heavenly Father. Sincere condolences!
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1
I leave with you; my peace I give to you. John 14:27
May our Lord bless and comfort you and your family during this time of grief.
That you should know no further sorrow.
(Name of deceased) is resting with the lord.
I am sorry for your loss, and I want you to know that I will be praying for strength, peace, and comfort for you and your family.
May the soul of (Name of deceased) rest in peace.
The thought of knowing that our loved ones are in the presence of the savior can be of some comfort.
Heaven has received a new member.
May God embrace you in comfort during this difficult time.
The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him and I am helped. Psalm 28:7
We want to express our sorrow and condolences to you and your family. She will be a part of our prayers from now on.
Everyone will eventually face death; the Bible has provided us with hope for life after death.
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10
Therefore, we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea. Psalm 46:2
And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. John 14:3
Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever. Psalm 23:6
Those who walk uprightly enter into peace; they find rest as they lie in death.. Isaiah 57:2
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18
For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. Thessalonians 4:14
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Matthew 5:4
Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. Psalm 23:4
Our deepest sympathy and prayers to you and your family, (Name of deceased) will deeply be missed.
May God wrap his arms around you and the entire family and give you peace. We love you all and are so blessed to have known Snow. Love always,
With heartfelt sympathy on the passing of your daughter, (Name of deceased). May the love, prayers and support of your family and friends bring you comfort during this most difficult time - Love,
Our prayers continue for you, your mother, sister and family. May this throw give you warmth and comfort as you carry the memories of your father.
When someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure. May you treasure all your memories of your Mom. Hugs,
He was a wonderful father and grandfather to me and mom but we know he was also your friend and confidant! I hope this helps commemorate him for future generations of our family! With Love,
Lori, I so wish I could be there today with you and your family. I loved (Name of deceased) as a brother. I will continue to love him and you all until we all greet one another in the Presence of Christ!
Prayers for peace and comfort in the days ahead. Love,
Wishing you peace to bring comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your heart. Love, Our deepest sympathies.
May the good memories see you through the difficult times ahead. We are all here for you!
So sorry! We are here if you need anything! She was an amazing person!
We hope this blanket will bring you warmth and support in your time of grief and in the days to come. With our deepest condolences
Those who have shown us love, brought us joy, and made us laugh, have given us the lasting gifts of a beautiful life - and blessed our memories forever. Our Sincere Sympathy.
May this special throw give you warmth, peace and comfort. Love your cousins
(Name) and I continue to remember you in our thoughts and prayers believing that God will provide you all that you need to endure.
We are so sorry for your loss. Ed was an amazing man and we were blessed he was a part of our Family
We are so sorry to hear about your mom. We are keeping you and the family in our thoughts and prayers. We are here for you if you need anything. Love,
Our hearts are saddened by your loss and our thoughts and prayers are with you. Sincerely,
A great man has left this earth but will forever be in our hearts. Great memories will live on. All our love,
Our sympathy for the loss of your father. Sincerely, your coworkers
I know it's nowhere near the same, but maybe sometimes when you're really missing your mom, you can wrap this blanket around your shoulders and imagine it's a hug from her. I cannot express
How sorry I am that she has gone so soon. My heart is with you. Love,
We hope you know how much you and yours are loved. We are so sorry.
Know that our thoughts are with you and your family at this sorrowful time. May you know that your dad is now at peace and he Loved you Dearly...Our Deepest Sympathy---
For you and your sisters, from all of us in your work Family. We know your dad had to be spectacular as he raised you. You are a wonderful legacy.
Although we are apart in miles, we are together always in heart and spirit. Much much love,
May you feel warm embrace, comfort and peace in your grief journey. You and your family are close in thought and prayer. I love you
Words just can't say enough. Know that I mourn with you and pray for your strength through this painful loss. Love,
A kind voice is just a phone call away.
A loved ones passing is never easy.
A thought of comfort and condolences to the grieving family.
Allow the love of others to lift you in this time of grief.
Allow yourself time to grieve tears can heal the soul.
I am deeply saddened by (Name of deceased) death.
I am sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you and your family during these difficult times.
I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your (Name of deceased). I don�t know what to say.
This must be really tough for you.
I hurt for you.
I want to express my condolences to you.
I want to offer my deepest condolences.
I want you to know friends who love you surround you.
I was deeply saddened by the news of (Name of deceased) passing.
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
I was truly saddened by the death of (Name of deceased).
I will be thinking of you in this moment of pain.
I hope you can hold on to the good memories.
I�m always there in your hour of need. May her soul rest in peace.
I�m so sorry about your (Father, Mother; Brother; etc. or Name the deceased)
If we can provide you comfort, know our thoughts are with you.
It was a shock to hear the news of (Name of deceased) passing.
Let patience be upon you in this time of grief.
Let the memories of (Name of deceased) life comfort you in his/her death.
May the memories of (Name of deceased) help you find peace.
May the passage of time heal your grief.
May you find comfort in loving memories.
My family and I were saddened to learn of (Name of deceased) death.
My family extends to you our deepest sympathies.
My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family
No words can describe how sorry I am for your loss.
Our collective hearts are heavy with sympathy.
Our hearts are with you.
Our hearts go out to you in your time of sorrow.
Please accept our heartfelt condolences.
Please let me know of any way I can help you.
Sharing in your sorrow with love and friendship.
Someone so special can never be forgotten.
Sorry to hear about (Name of deceased). It is never easy. My prayers are with you and your family.
The news of (Name of deceased) death brings much sadness.
There were few who could compare to (Name of deceased).
Thinking of you, at this time of loss.
We are consumed with sadness to learn of the tragic loss of (Name of deceased).
We are here for you.
We are thinking of you during these difficult times.
We cannot begin to imagine what you are feeling but let us share our heart-felt condolence.
We know the day will come but death always leaves us with grief.
We offer deepest condolences to you and your family.
We pray the love for the lost is forever carried in your memory.
We stand by our uncle, in a time where his beloved wife passed away.
When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.
Words fall short of expressing my sorrow for your loss.
Words fall short of expressing my sorrow. My condolences.
You and your family are in our prayers. Sorry to hear of your loss.
You are in our hearts and prayers.
Your family is surrounded by the love of many.
Listed below are examples of simple condolence signatures to assist in selecting a closing that expresses your feelings.
Caring thoughts are with you, (Name)
God bless you and comfort you, (Name)
God bless, (Name)
In caring sympathy, (Name)
Keeping you in our prayers, (Name)
Lifting you up in prayer, (Name)
My heart goes out to you, (Name)
My sincere condolences, (Name)
Please accept our condolences, (Name)
Praying for you, (Name)
Sharing your sadness, (Name)
Thinking of you, (Name)
Wishing you healing, (Name)
Wishing you peace, (Name)
With caring, (Name)
With deepest sympathy, (Name)
With heartfelt sympathy, (Name)
With love at this sad time, (Name)
With prayers and sympathy, (Name)
With sincere sympathy, (Name)
With sympathy, (Name)
With warm thoughts and prayers, (Name)
With you in sorrow, (Name)
God rest my wonderful childhood friend and reward you for a lifetime of service to the lord.
Deepest condolences to all of the (Name) family. I will always remember (Deceased Name) love for his family.
After a lifetime of friendship, it is very difficult to say goodbye. Our deepest sympathy to your family.
Thinking of your family, (Deceased Name) was a great friend to my parents and our family.
Lord be with you at this time. She is safe in the arms of Jesus now. Our deepest condolences.
So sorry to hear about (Deceased Name) - she was a dear, sweet person that had a lot of love in her heart! She will be missed!! Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Had the pleasure of working with your Brother, everything seemed brighter when he was around. We share your sorrow.
Our hearts ache for you during this difficult time.
All of us from (School) High School, Class of '67 express our sincerest condolences to the family of (Deceased Name). She will surely be missed by everyone.
You are all in my thoughts and prayers. God bless
Your Sister will be missed. I am a better person because of her. God Bless your family.
The expression "Rest In Peace", RIP, is used in classical Christian services and prayers. The following collection of short RIP messages are ideal for cards, letters, flowers, texts, tweets, Facebook or emails:
Someone so special can never be forgotten, may his soul rest in peace.
My families hearts are with you and your family, may (Name of deceased) rest In peace.
Please be strong so that her soul can rest in peace.
May (Her/His) the soul rest in peace.
My prayers to the Almighty would be that may her soul rest in peace and may you stay calm.
May the soul of your (Name of deceased) rest in peace.
A good person has stopped beating, a good soul soared to heaven. We part with our beloved (Name of deceased) in pain. - RIP
Rest in peace, my friend.
Rest in peace, (Name of deceased). And thank you.
Condolences and Prayers to the Family ..RIP!
Spanish - descansa en paz
Vietnamese - An Nghỉ
Arabic - arqid fi salam
French - repose en paix
Chinese - 安息
I�m so sorry for your loss. I�m here for you.
Is there anything I can do for you right now?
If you ever want to talk, I�m here for you.
I know you must be hurting, and I'm here to listen.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, nor touched, but are felt in the heart." - Helen Keller
Now your an angel, even before you were born.
I know your in heaven, but my heart is torn.
I had only four months, to celebrate your life.
The wonder of what you may have been, How I never got to hold you tight.
When they told me your heart had stopped, I wanted to go with you.
But I knew I had to be strong, and hold on.
For god has taken my angel to a place far beyond.
Johanna M. Bailey
Simply an expression of sympathy in which someone is made aware that their pain is shared. Latin word condole, meaning �To Suffer Together.�
Many times we we think the grieving individual wants space, but that is usually not the case. Condolences bring comfort to the bereaved and let them know that you are thinking of them. This is particularly meaningful if you are far away and unable to attend the funeral or remembrance service.
Expressing condolences can be difficult, heart-breaking, awkward, distressing and sometimes even embarrassing. It is not something one does everyday and very few people can claim to be skilled at this.
Very often, people simply feel that it is better to ignore the event and carry on with your life, leaving the bereaved to sort themselves out and come to terms with the death.
Here are a few points to re-consider if you are in two minds about sending condolences.
Not expressing condolences can have long lasting subconscious negative effects that will worry you - ignoring the event is not good for your well-being. It can leave you with a sense of unfinished business that will niggle for years to come.
Meeting up with the bereaved friends or family at a later stage may raise feelings of embarrassment and tension, knowing that you did not send condolences.
Sending condolences gives you a sense of calmness and clarity. It allows you to take time and evaluate your relationship with the deceased. It lets you ponder and express your thoughts in meaningful words. You don't have to write screeds, a few simple lines will do. Find words that will bring joy to the mourners. Highlight a special quality, an event, a warm anecdote or a community deed that the person did.
Condolences bring comfort to the bereaved and let them know that you are thinking of them. This is particularly meaningful if you are far away and unable to attend the funeral or remembrance service.
Once the trauma is over, friends and family will sit down and read the condolence notes. Your words will bring comfort, guidance and support and help them deal with the passing.
Very often the family are in a traumatic state and are not able to talk to you. Sending condolences is a way to reach out, make contact and let them know that you are thinking of them.
If you are able to offer help, your condolence message can include that as a suggestion. Family may help to do errands and tasks that they are unable to deal with. Your message will make it easier for them to ask for help.
Take the time and do the right thing. If you are not good with words and are struggling to decide what to say, take a look at our selection of condolence cards and messages. They will give you ideas and help you choose the correct thoughts and words to convey your feelings.
When you learn about the death of a person, you are filled with a variety of emotions. These will vary depending on how close you were to that person or under what circumstances your lives touched one another. Letting the bereaved know that you care will mean a lot. Reaching out and offering your condolences is always a good choice.
You could be a very close family member or a life-time friend, in which case this event will be both traumatic and devastating. Perhaps you are a distant relative who didn�t have much contact but are still saddened.
People you interact with daily in the work place could be friends, respected colleagues, admired mentors or even not-well-liked. But, their passing will leave you with mixed feelings on how to deal with this.
Neighbors, members of the community, your local Church, book clubs, gyms and other recreational venues have been part of your life and their passing should be acknowledged in a dignified and thoughtful manner.
Many people are not good with words and struggle to find the appropriate thing to say. Our selection of condolence cards and messages will give you ideas and help you to choose the correct words to convey your feelings.
Here are some helping hints
A loved one is probably the most difficult. Try to include some personal mention of happy moments that will bring comfort to the bereaved when they read it.
A close friend can be remembered by special times spent together and memories shared.
Acknowledge co-workers by telling the bereaved how they impacted on your life on a daily basis or inspired you, as you spent many hours together in the work place.
Neighbors can be remembered with thanks for their support and friendship.
Community members can be acknowledged for their work and dedication to the neighborhood and local initiatives.
Always be true to yourself. Don�t write words that you don�t feel are true. If the person was not close to you, simply express condolences and good wishes. If the person was close, a personal note will bring much needed comfort to those reading the condolence messages.
Writing an effective and meaningful condolence can help the grieving individual get through a difficult period. It�s important to correctly express your sorrow and offer appropriate support.
Foremost, Take into consideration the relationship between the the person grieving and the deceased. The condolence message would be different for an immediate family member such as husband, father, or child rather than a cousin or family friend.
Another consideration would the circumstances of the passing. Was the deceased older and passed from natural causes or a younger person that died in an accident. Occasionally the death may have been the result of drug overdose or suicide.
Religious beliefs can influence the message. �May his soul rest in peace� or a favorite Bible Verse would be comforting for a deeply religious person. A Sympathy Quote such as �Unable are the loved to die, for love is immortality - Emily Dickinson� would provide solace to a non-believer.
After you�ve thought about the consideration above, look at the the list of suggested Condolence Message and select one or combine several.
Texting has become a part of modern day life. Very few people will claim not to have sent a text message to someone about something. In fact, today, SMS texting is fast becoming the substitute for actually talking, especially when it comes to the younger generation.
Note: With an SMS Text, you can send a message of up to 160 characters to another device. Longer messages are commonly divided into multiple messages.
Like many people, you may be at a loss for words. Very few people encounter death on a regular basis and often are not sure what to say. Reading through our list of suggested text messages will give you some ideas. You can even use them as is, if you feel that they adequately express your thoughts.
Without a second thought, when learning about a happy event, we are more than ready to text messages of congratulations. Happy Birthdays, Thank You�s, Anniversaries, Engagements, great achievements, winning awards and all types of celebratory occasions get us tapping away on our mobile devices. We can choose frivolous and colorful emojis to enhance our message and have loads of fun.
But, when it comes to offering condolences, many people may hesitate after they have received the news. Apart from the expected emotions of shock, grief, sadness and loss, we are faced with a dilemma. Does one send a text message or email? Is it appropriate? How will it be received? What does one say? Dealing with news of a death is not something that one does every day and there is sure to be an amount of stress as to how to communicate with the bereaved.
Trying to contact a bereaved person soon after a loss may be difficult. You may often find that the person is not answering their phone or has handed it over to a family spokesperson to field the calls. They could be grieving, comforting others, trying to cope or simply do want to talk to anyone at this early stage. In this case, sending a text message to let them know that you have heard the news and are grieving with them is a start. Say that you have tried to call and understand that they are not available. Text some suitable words from the heart that express your feelings. End by saying that you will follow up with another phone call in a day or so.
Today, many people will text out the message of a death. It works well if the person is not close to you or is part of a large network, or well known in the community. Personally calling dozens of people may not be a viable option. Group texting is quick and efficient. If you belong to a WhatsApp or similar type of social media group, you may very well receive the sad news via a text. In this case, you can feel comfortable responding in a similar fashion.
In the business world, you are probably often texting colleagues, suppliers and other people in your organization that you have possibly never met face to face or have not spoken to one on one. Sending a text message will be an acceptable means of communicating. You can express condolences from yourself, other colleagues, your department or section of the company.
Many people feel that they cannot easily deal with death and bad news. They may feel awkward, tongue-tied or at a loss for words. You may feel embarrassed that your emotions will get the better of you on a personal call. In this case, send a text message and say that you are so upset that you cannot deal with a one on one call. Text a thoughtful message and end by saying that you will follow up soon when you can deal with the death and speak calmly.
Don�t take it personally if the person you are texting does not respond. They are probably dealing with all sorts of pressures, both emotional and logistically. Comforting other family members, coming to terms with their own grief and making funeral arrangements will be their first priority. Send your message and leave it at that. They will eventually get to sit down and follow up. Remember that they are probably receiving many messages and working through them all will take time.
If you are available or live nearby, you can offer to help via sending a text message. People often need food, lifts, baby sitters or someone to run errands. If you can do this, say so in your message and be ready to respond if asked.
Everyone has their personal heroes in life. They may be movie stars, music icons, artists, authors, royalty, politicians or other people in the spotlight. Prior to Social Media, learning about a death would probably be via a printed newspaper, radio or TV news broadcast. This was impersonal and simply transmitted information. Today, you are able to take a much more personal approach to a death of your icon. Posting your message on Social Media gives people a feeling of being involved and able to express your unique thoughts.
You can choose to create your own post or you can add your message to existing posts. A word of caution - if you are planning on creating a new post or posting on a Facebook Wall, make sure that the family is aware of this and have given you a go ahead. They may still be informing close family or key people, and won�t want the news to be made public at that moment in time. Be as thoughtful and respectful as possible and if in doubt, rather do not post public messages.
If you find that a public or friends-only Social Media page has been created, then feel free to add your message. You can write your own words or choose from our suggested list of expressions depending on your relationship with the deceased.
Adding emoticons to text messages has become an accepted part of the mobile messaging culture. They are fun and trendy and add character to your message. When it comes to text messages of condolences, it is probably preferable not to add emoticons, unless you are really close to the bereaved and they understand you. If in doubt, type a simple and meaningful message and leave out the emojis.
Depending on how close you are to the bereaved, you should consider some sort of formal communication as a follow up to your text message. If the person is a remote colleague or someone you don�t know very well, a text message will suffice. If you have a closer relationship, then there are several options you can consider.
Making a one-on-one phone call is the way it has been done for generations. Call the person up, have a chat and express your condolences. Don�t ask leading questions if the cause of death was in any way tragic or unexpected. Rather allow the grieving person to talk when they are ready.
Sending a letter or sympathy card is an acceptable way of communicating. There is a great selection of sympathy cards that you buy and post. If you don�t have time to get out and shop, you can even arrange Online to have one sent to the home via special Websites.
Paying a visit to the bereaved family is a wonderful gesture. Try to establish from the family spokesperson when the best time will be and take along a small gift or plate of food.
Attending the funeral or memorial service is the ultimate means of expressing your condolences. If you are able to attend the funeral, then do so. It shows your commitment and makes you part of the grieving process. It also allows you to speak directly to the bereaved and the family.
by Liz Walter
It can often be difficult to know what to say to someone we know who has experienced loss, illness or another painful event, and even harder if we have to do it in another language. Today’s post looks at phrases we use to express sympathy in a sincere and empathetic way.
Choosing appropriate words will of course depend on how well we know the person concerned, and also the type of event and how upset we think that person is likely to be.
Let’s start with death. The following are common phrases, but are very formal, so may be more suitable for someone who is not a close friend:
I am writing to express my sincere condolences on the death of your (wife/son/grandmother, etc.).
Please accept our deepest sympathies.
People often try to avoid the words ‘death’ or ‘die’, and a very common way of doing that is to speak about someone’s loss or sad news:
I was so sorry to hear about your loss/the sad news about your sister.
When someone has died, it is usual to say something nice about the person if you knew them. We often talk about our memories of them:
Your dad/brother was such a lovely person/was always kind to me, etc.
I have so many wonderful memories of your dad.
If you didn’t know the person who has died, you might say something about the feelings of the person you are writing to:
I know how much Peter meant to you.
It’s never easy to lose a parent.
I can’t imagine how you must feel.
We might also talk about things that may comfort them:
I hope you can find solace in the fact that … (formal)
I’m sure you will take comfort from …
A more general way to express sympathy, for example if someone tells you they are ill or that they’ve lost their job, is simply:
I’m really sorry to hear that.
If you know the person very well, you might say something much more informal, such as:
That really sucks.
For less serious events, you might say something such as:
That’s a shame.
What a pity!
Better luck next time.
And finally, when we write to someone or speak to them to offer sympathy, we often offer support of some kind:
I want you to know that we’re here to support you.
We are thinking of you at this difficult time.
I’m here for you if you need anything. (rather informal)
Do let me know if there’s anything I can do to help.(rather informal)
“Accept my condolences on the loss of your “I am so sorry for you had to put down your dog.
Knowing that a coworker has lost a friend or loved one can make it difficult for you to know what words to share. The following sympathy messages for coworkers have been used by others and intended to help inspire you with the right condolences to share.
[name] will always be in our hearts and memories.
I am so sorry for you loss, please let me know if there is anything I can do to help during this difficult period.
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
I am so sorry to hear about the passing of (name/relationship to coworker).
I was deeply saddened to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you.
May the peace which comes from the memories of love shared comfort you now and in the days ahead.
May you find peace and love in the memories you cherish.
My deepest sympathies during your time of loss, my thoughts/prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
My hearts go out to you in your time of grieving.
Our deepest sympathies during your time of loss. Please know that we are here for you.
Our deepest sympathy to you and your family.
Our hearts go out to you in your time of sorrow.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. We are sorry for your loss.
Please accept my condolences on the loss of your sister. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Please accept my warmest condolences, I’m sending thoughts of peace and courage your way.
Please accept our condolences on the loss of your [relation].
Thinking of you in these difficult times.
Thinking of you, wishing you hope in the midst of sorrow, comfort in the midst of pain.
We are truly sorry to hear of the loss of your father. Please accept our condolences and May Lord blesses and comforts you and your family in this time of grief.
With deepest sympathy for your loss.
With deepest sympathy. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
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'Sorry to hear of your loss.' ” April Masini, who writes about relationships and etiquette for her website Ask April, said in an email that offering.