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October 24, 2018 Anniversary Wishes 3 comments

Speech recitation is very good practice to get out of hesitations of talking in front of others as well as to enhance general knowledge about various topics such as .

Being asked to deliver a wedding speechshould be an honor, in theory. But in reality it can feel more like an unjust punishment for being a great friend or a beloved sibling.

Writing the speech is often a daunting task because of the importance of the occasion, the pressure to be both poignant and funny and, of course, general fears about getting up to speak in front of a large, attentive group.

“For many people, public speaking is not something they do that much,” Simon Bucknall, author ofThe Best Man Speaker: The Definitive Guide to the Best Man Speech, said. “Certainly there are plenty of people for whom it will be the biggest speech they’ve given in their lives in terms of what’s at stake.”

Gulp.

But don’t freak out just yet, because we have some simple but useful tips to help you craft a great wedding speech, whether you’re the maid of honor or best man, from people who’ve done it and lived to tell the tale.

How To Start

For a lot of us, getting started is the biggest challenge. You’re probably sitting by yourself, staring at a blank document on your computer with zero idea of where to begin. Bucknall recommends that, before you draft your speech, first think about who you’re acknowledging in your toast ― the bride and/or the groom ― and then make a list of qualities that person possesses. Maybe they’re compassionate, hilarious and extremely organized. Then start thinking about some personal stories about him or her that support those qualities.

At this stage, Bucknall suggests calling another one of this person’s close friends, family members or maybe even their intended for a quick chat. One or two of these conversations will help you gain some additional insights about the person of honor and should help get those creative juices flowing, too.

“At my own wedding, my best man interviewed my mother,” Bucknall, who came in second at the 2017 Toastmasters World Championship of Public Speaking, said. “I feel very confident that one or two stories featured in his speech could have only come from one of my parents. And it does take the loneliness out of the process a bit.”

Now that you’ve chosen your two to three qualities and stories, use those key pieces to give your speech some structure so you’re not just aimlessly rambling on (you want the speech to clock in at no more than five minutes). And it really doesn’t need to be complicated: quality one, story one, quality two, story two.

“The golden tip for public speaking generally ― it’s one of the things I learned in Toastmasters that’s absolutely invaluable ― make a point and tell a story or tell a story to make the point. So for a wedding speech, here’s the person, here’s a quality they have ― ‘they’re so loyal’ ― and then tell a story about that.”

Other Things To Include

  • Open by briefly mentioning how you know or are related to the bride or groom for any guests who may not be aware.

  • Thank guests, other members of the wedding party and the hosts of the occasion. You may also want to acknowledge people who wanted to be at the wedding but couldn’t for some reason, whether it’s someone who couldn’t attend because of a travel issue or friends or family members who have died.

  • Give some genuine, heartfelt praise, not just for the friend or family member who asked you to make a speech but also for his or her new husband or wife. After all, this speech isn’t just about your BFF or your brother ― it’s also about the couple as a whole.

  • Weddings are personal occasions and so full of emotion. Your speech should include personal touches or details that match that. “Audiences are very sensitive to whether the speech is really for them or whether it’s something that’s just been pulled off the internet or just been dashed off,” Bucknall said. “The care with which the speaker points out, hints at or references things ― whether it’s in jokes or at particular individuals ― those little nuances matter enormously.”

  • Don’t forget to end by asking guests to raise their glasses to toast to the newlyweds.

Things NOT To Include

  • Tempting as it may seem, copying another speech you found on the internet is a big no-no. “It completely torpedoes the point about them being personal occasions,” Bucknall said. “So cutting and pasting or using template scripts, I just think that’s nonsense.”

  • Steer clear of crude language. That means skip the swearing and any explicit stories, no matter how entertaining you think they are. “Crudity is still too common, particularly from male speakers,” Bucknall said. “It’s just not needed. The reason it happens, of course, is because the speaker is panicking about being funny. It’s disastrous.”

  • It might seem obvious but please don’t include any mentions of the bride’s or groom’s past boyfriends or girlfriends.

  • Don’t make fun of the new husband or wife. Some gentle ribbing might be appropriate if it’s directed at your friend or family member, but painting their new husband or wife in an unflattering light is not a good look. “It’s a day [for them] to be golden,” Bucknall said.

Some Final Thoughts From Viral Wedding Speech Stars

Take a page from Kelsey and Maddie Hallerman, who gave a rather epic speech at their sister Caitlin’s wedding in 2015. It ended up going viral and has since been watched more than 7 million times. The musical toast consisted of a medley of some of the bride’s favorite songs, but the co-maids of honor changed up the lyrics to include references to their childhood and the newlyweds’ love story, too.

“The first step was trying to pick the songs. Michael Jackson, Tina Turner — that was the music we grew up on and the music we knew Caitlin would love,” Hallerman told HuffPost. “Once we had our songs, we began working on the lyrics. We knew we wanted to tell a story, from Cait as a kid, to her and John meeting, to their eventual engagement and marriage. With that framework, we were eventually able to knock out each song.”

John Boswell, who was best man at his brother David’s 2016 wedding, also decided to do something less traditional and performed a toast set to the tune of “Whole New World” from “Aladdin” ― fitting because the bride’s name is Jasmine. With help from his wife and sister, he composed a speech that wowed the bride, groom and their guests.

“I like to work from an outline or big idea and then work backward,” Boswell said. “So, first, what’s the overall goal or idea? Then, how do we get there. Is there something special that comes to mind ― a story, or song, or experience? And then work from there to format the toast and fill in the details.”

Now, going the unconventional route isn’t for everyone. So you shouldn’t feel compelled to do something really out-of-the-box (like the viral toasts you see on YouTube) if it feels awkward or unnatural to you. There’s nothing wrong with doing something simple but meaningful.

“Don’t sing a song or do something extra because of a pressure to be different,” Hallerman said. “If going the heartfelt and sincere route feels more authentic, then you do you. We wrote a song because we have so much fun expressing ourselves that way, and we knew Caitlin would love it. ”

And if you are going to do something unconventional, make sure you fully commit to it, Hallerman said.

“You really have to go for it. Don’t hold back or worry that your voice doesn’t sound good,” she said. “Our voices were terrible. I mean truly horrendous — we listen back to all the cracking and screeching and our stomachs churn. But we didn’t care in the slightest! We just wanted to put our all into it and have fun.”

Now stop procrastinating and go forth and write something awesome ― whatever that means for you.

Key: Don't fall into the trap of thinking that short remarks require less preparation. In fact, giving a good short speech can be harder than giving.

Speech in English

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Oral communication is the oldest and most widely used medium of communication. It can take place in different forms and speech is one of them.

Speech is generally, the most effective medium of delivering the message in meeting, seminars, conferences, etc. Speech refers to delivering the message through words of mouth or spoken words in front of the audience gathered in a meeting, seminar or conference.

Through speech, the speaker can present his opinions and thoughts on any matter to a large number of audiences at a time.

Therefore, it is widely used in delivering an oral message in business, social, political and religious gatherings.

A speech is a highly structured form of address in which a speaker addresses an audience gathered to hear a message.

At least, we can say that speech is a kind of formal address delivered to an audience gathered in a place to hear a message.

Related: 7C’s of Business Communication

What does a Good Speech have?

Speech is an effective means of oral communication. It is delivered in front of a large gathering.

Therefore, speech serves as an important medium for presenting information in meetings, political or business gatherings.

However, a speech becomes effective when it fulfills the following features:

  1. Clarity
    Clarity is an essential feature of a good speech. Speech should be clear and unambiguous so that the audience can understand it easily. If it is not clear enough to express its meaning to the audience, it will become ineffective.
  2. Definiteness of Message
    The message of the speech should be definite and relevant to the subject matter.
  3. Conciseness
    The audience becomes impatient with a long speech. Hence, speech should be as concise as possible. However, it should not incomplete.
  4. Interesting
    A speech should be delivered in an interesting and pleasing way so that the audience is motivated to pay attention. In order to make the speech interesting, various stories, examples, quotations, and jokes can be cited.
  5. Informal Touch
    Though speech is a formal address, it should be presented in a personal and informal way.
  6. Considering the Audience
    Speech is delivered to a specific audience. So the speaker should actively consider the expectations, interest, and nature of the audience.
  7. Speaking Slowly
    An ideal speech is one that is delivered slowly and in the usual tone. It helps the audience to hear and understand the message clearly.
  8. Free from Emotions
    Another important feature of good speech is that it should be delivered in an unbiased and unemotional way. Speaker’s emotion may drive him away from the main theme.
  9. Use of Body Language
    Good Speech goes with necessary body language. Therefore, at the time of delivering a speech, the speaker should use various nonverbal cues.
  10. Ensuring Participation of Audience
    A good speech is one that ensures the participation of the audience with the speaker. That means the audience will ensure their attention through effective listening, expressing their solidarity with the speech and so on.

If your speech fails to hit the checkboxes for these qualities, then it will lose its edge.

Despite a few limitations of a speech; if done well enough you make the audience move the earth for you.

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How to Write a Presidential Speech?

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How to give a good speech

Every speech or presentation has two main aspects:

  • WHAT you say (content)
  • HOW you say it (delivery)

You obviously have a lot of control over the content, because you can plan out exactly what you want to say. But you can also do a lot to make sure your delivery is effective too. The advice that follows will help you deliver a powerful speech:

  • Remember that a listener usually only has one chance to understand what you are saying. So you must do everything you can to make it easy for him or her to follow your ideas.
  • The best way to do this is to �signpost� your speech. At the beginning, say how your speech will be divided up. During the speech, make it clear when one part has finished and the next part has started. (For example, �Now that I have explained some of the causes of air pollution, I want to tell you what we can do to reduce the problem.�) At the end of your speech, make it clear that you are finished (e.g. by simply saying �Thank you!�).
  • The most important parts of a speech are the beginning and the end. Think about a strong first sentence that will capture the attention of the listener. Be calm and confident; give the impression that you are well-prepared and have something interesting to say. End with a strong sentence: make people laugh or give them something provocative to think about.
  • Practise your speech before the big day. In particular it is useful to think about how and where you will stand/sit, and where you will put your materials before and after you have used them. Practise using your speech cards.
  • Speak loudly and clearly. Remember that your voice (your intonation) must do the job that punctuation does in your writing. Try not to speak too fast. Never just read full sentence notes - it is boring and makes your speech very difficult to follow.
  • Make sure you can be seen as well as heard. Don�t hide behind your sheets or the overhead projector. It is important that every listener feels you are talking to him or her personally. Therefore look round the room and try to make eye contact with everyone in the audience at least once during your speech.
  • Be careful not to distract your listeners by swinging on a chair, tapping your feet etc.
  • It is useful to include visual material with your speech. For example, if you are talking about places, show a map. If you are using numbers, write them for all to see. (It�s very difficult for listeners to keep large or many numbers in their head.)
  • If you are going to have audience participation be very clear exactly what you want from them. If you ask a question, be ready for strange answers, and expect to have to answer it yourself.

Read more about how to give good presentations

View the BBC's advice on speaking well to an audience

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How to write a speech depends on many factors (type of event, time etc.). Today I' ll highlight the most important elements to consider when writing a speech.

How to give a good speech

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  • Remember: an excellent speech does not require a brilliant orator - you can do it. Winston Churchill is commonly regarded as one of the greatest speakers in the English language, yet he regretted the lack of practice in public speaking that he would have gained had he gone to university and he suffered from a slight lisp and a stammer. The key is preparation.
  • You are probably making this speech at an event which has a programme which has been published beforehand. So make sure that the title of your speech is catchy and then people will be looking forward to it even before the event.
  • Making a good speech starts weeks before with thorough preparation. You should have been thinking of themes and points, noting down ideas and sources, crafting phrases and sentences.
  • The best speeches tell your audience things they didn't know and/or give them insights they didn't have. So:
    • In respect of the first, research some salient, accurate and up-date facts and figures.
    • In respect of the second, look at the subject differently - think 'out of the box'.
  • You should have finalised the notes or text or slides at least the day before, so that you can concentrate on reading through the material, becoming very familiar and comfortable with it, and thinking about the actual delivery.
  • Remember: expectation shapes reality. This means that, to some extent you can have won or lost your audience even before you are really into your speech. If people think you're going to be good, that will help them to perceive you as good. So your biographical details in the programme material and how the chair introduces you are both important and you can influence them. Conversely, if people think you're going to be poor, that will condition them to seeing you as poor. So never begin by saying that you were unsure why you were invited to speak or what you should say and, unless it is obvious (for instance because you have a terrible cold), never admit to feeling anxious, unsure or unwell.
  • Once you are called upon to make your speech, pause for a couple of moments before actually starting your delivery. If you've had to walk up to a platform or over to a rostrum, this gives you time to steady your breath. If you are nervous as a speaker, it gives you time to take a few shallow breaths and calm those nerves. In any event, it gives the audience an opportunity to settle down and focus on you and your message. But the pause should be a few seconds only.
  • If you are not using a microphone, be aware of the need to speak sufficiently loudly that the furthest member of your audience can hear you clearly. Take the opportunity to move around a little which will help to command attention.
  • If you are using a microphone, speak at normal volume, but a little more slowly and distinctly than if you were not using amplification. Don't move around because you'll leave the microphone behind (unless it is fixed to you).
  • You should convey a sense of enthusiasm for the subject. This will effect your delivery and how your speech is received.
  • Occasionally alter the speed, volume and tone of your delivery. Speaking slower or faster and quieter or louder and being more cheerful or more serious all adds dramatic effect and keeps the attention of your audience.
  • Regularly sweep your eyes left-centre-right and back and front-middle-rear and back, so that you engage all members of your audience. The actor Tom Cruise once told an interviewer: "A lot of the time, what acting is really about is meeting someone's eye" - the same is true of public speaking.
  • It is good to use your hands expressively - but do not wave your arms around which will make you look manic.
  • Never apologise for your nervousness or your material. You and your speech are probably better than you appreciate but, in any event, if you don't advertise any weaknesses in your style or content, they probably won't be noticed.
  • Don't make a rambling opening. There is nothing worse than the speaker who starts with something like: "When I was asked to speak on this subject, I wondered what to say .."
  • Make a dramatic opening which seizes the attention with the very first words. This might be a stirring statement: "This year we are going to make a fundamental transformation of our whole organisation". It might be a challenging question: "How can we turn ourselves into an even more successful organisation?" Whatever you do, don't ask a question that invites a cynical answer from your audience: "Are we the best organisation in the country?"
  • Have a very clear structure. A good technique is to tell your audience what you are going to say, tell them, and then tell them what you have said. A good structure is for the core message to be three linked points which can be sub-divided as necessary.
  • Another possible structure which can work well, if it is appropriate is, to use a narrative or a story. Stories really engage listeners and give a speech direction and flow. For instance, you might be describing how you chose your career or enjoyed a holiday or how a company found success or came to change strategy.
  • If you use a narrative structure, you don't necessarily have to begin at the chronological start. When I gave a speech on the life and wartime exploits of my father-in-law - a night fighter pilot in World War Two - I did not begin with his birth and upbringing but with the night that he scored his first victory. Having begun with a dramatic entry point, you can then jump back to the chronological beginning of the story and work forwards. Many novels and films use this structure and it can work for speeches too.
  • If you use a narrative structure, you don't necessarily have to finish at the chronological end. You might want to conclude your speech at a dramatic high point - such as when you or the company achieved a particular success - and leave the aftermath to come out in the question and answer session which usually follows a speech. It can be very effective to leave an audience wanting more (rather than the frequent experience of wanting the speaker to hurry up and finish!).
  • If it is appropriate, use PowerPoint. It ensures that you stick to your structure and that the structure is clear to your audience. It looks professional and you can use images as well text. On the other hand, use of PowerPoint will probably increase the time it takes you to prepare your speech and it will make it harder to vary the speech on the day if that is what you find you want to do. Finally, many people feel that they've seen far too many PowerPoint presentations and quite like a less formal approach.
  • If you do decide to use PowerPoint, slides should not consist of simply a few words or conversely a mass of text. Three to five bullet points of five or six words each is ideal. For further advice on the use of slides, click here.
  • Put the main verb early in the sentence, especially if it is a long sentence. So, not: "When we have all the facts and we have considered all the options, we shall make our decision". But instead: "We shall make our decision, when we have all the facts and we have considered all the options" .
  • Consider the use of short sentences or even short phrases for dramatic effect. Examples of short sentences: "Failure is not an option" or"The place is here. The time is now. The prize is great". Examples of short phrases: "Never again", "No excuses".
  • Use striking adjectives and adverbs. Not simply: "We face many challenges" but "We face many exciting challenges". Not simply: "We will work on our problems" but "We will work energetically on our problems".
  • Consider the use of striking images in the form of metaphors or similes. For example: "an iron curtain" (Winston Churchill, 1946), "a paper tiger" (Mao Zedong, 1946),"the axis of evil" (George Bush, 2002).
  • Make moderate use of alliteration in phrases or sentences. For example, some phrases: "broadband Britain", "the digital divide", "silver surfers". For example, some sentences: "The ballot is stronger than the bullet" (Abraham Lincoln, 1856) or "Now let us fulfil our mandate and our mission" (Gordon Brown, Labour Party Conference 2002) or "At our best when at our boldest" (Tony Blair, Labour Party Conference 2002).
  • Consider the use of rhyme. For example: "We will fight to show that we are right".
  • Use contrasts. For example: "Politics is war without bloodshed, while war is politics with bloodshed" (Mao Zedong, lecture, 1938) or "Never in the field of human conflict was so much owed by so many to so few" (Winston Churchill, House of Commons, 1940) or "Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country" (John F Kennedy, inaugural address, 1961) or "Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere" (Martin Luther King, letter from jail, 1963).
  • Make temporal comparisons. For example: "When the company was first founded .." or "When we first moved to this office .." and "Many challenges are still the same" or "The situation now is so different".
  • Make geographical comparisons. Compare and contrast your situation with other companies or other organisations or with other regions or other countries. What does this tell us?
  • Use three-part lists. For example: "Government of the people, by the people, and for the people" (Abraham Lincoln, 1863) or "I see one-third of a nation ill-housed, ill-clad, ill-nourished" (Franklin D Roosevelt, second inaugural address, 1937) or "The ultimate case for the third way is that it works - good values, good vision, good policies" (Bill Clinton, Labour Party Conference 2002). Technically this figure of speech is called a tricolon. Tony Blair was particularly fond of it.
  • Very occasionally, consider a longer list. For example, a list of four: "We shall fight on the beaches; we shall fight on the landing grounds; we shall fight in the fields and in the streets; we shall fight in the hills" (Winston Churchill, House of Commons, 1940). Another example, this time of five parts: "Let every nation know, whether it wishes us well or ill, that we shall pay any price, bear any burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose any foe to assure the survival and the success of liberty" (John F Kennedy, inaugral address, 20 January 1961).
  • Repetition can be very effective. Martin Luther King was the absolute master of judicious repetition. For example: in his Washington speech of 28 August 1963, he used the phrases "I have a dream .." and "Let freedom ring ..." again and again (seven times and eight times respectively). The same technique was used by Barack Obama in his speech following the 2008 New Hampshire primary when he repeatedly used the phrase "Yes we can".
  • Use short, pithy quotes. Clever people over the years have created witty aphorisms, so you should borrow them when it is appropriate. For many examples, click here.
  • Make appropriate use of anecdotes. A very short story or case study or personal experience will act as an effective illustration of a point, add 'colour' to your speech, and be remembered by listeners.
  • Try humour - not by telling a story or a joke as such, but by using a short, witticism. For example: "I don't mind how much my ministers talk, as long as they do what I say" (Margaret Thatcher, 1980). A little humour in the opening sentences of a speech relaxes the audience and positions them onside with the speaker. Humour in the last sentence or two of a speech leaves the audience with a warm feeling towards the speaker.
  • Self-deprecating humour - that is, humour at the expense of the speaker - often works well. Consider these example: President Ronald Reagan reassuring an audience: "I know you fellows think I'm lazy, but this week I've really been burning the midday oil" or former Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher telling a Conservative Party Conference that, on the way to the event, she had seen a cinema advertising "The Mummy Returns".
  • Try puns. For example: "Vodafone is now the largest telephone company in the UK which makes its Chief Executive the Lord of the Rings". Another example: TUC General Secretary Tony Monks, when asking for the President of the European Commission Jacques Santer to include a particular provision in a measure, said it would be known as "the Santer clause".
  • Sometimes you can use the same word but in a different context. For example: "There can be no whitewash at the White House" (Richard Nixon, Watergate broadcast, 1973).
  • One way of commanding attention is to use a redundant, but attention-seeking, short sentence. Tony Blair is very fond of "I say this to you" or "Let me be clear".
  • KISS (Keep it simple, stupid). Don't try to impress with over-complicated terminology. For example: when he was Labour's Shadow Chancellor, Gordon Brown famously praised "neoclassical endogenous growth theory and a symbiotic relationship between investment in people and infrastructure" (1996). In the introduction to his compilation "Speeches That Changed The World", Simon Sebag Montefiore states: "As a rule, simplicity of language marks superb speeechmaking".
  • Remember that 50% of statistics are meaningless (see what I mean?). So, if you are intending to use statistics - and some well-chosen figures can add credibility and authority to your arguments - be sure that you understand them, that they are meaningful, and that they are both reliable and up-to-date. Be ready in the question and answer session, or if approached later, to be able to source your statistics and supply the full context.
  • Make clever use of the pause. If you expect laughter or applause or you would like to create a sense of drama, pause for a couple of seconds, before continuing your speech.
  • Finish with a strong, affirmative statement, possibly referring back to the opening sentence or question (note how many film scripts end with a variation of a line from the beginning of the movie).
  • Only use the techniques appropriate to the occasion. A speech in the mode of "We will fight them on the beaches" is not ideal for opening a church bazaar. An after-dinner speech needs lots of jokes, whereas an academic lecture needs lots of facts. In many respects, the most difficult speeches are family occasions like weddings and funerals - there are many sensitivities here, so think carefully about what you're going to say.
  • If you are speaking to an international audience (especially if your words are being translated into other languages), don't use any of the language-specific tips such as alliteration, rhyme or puns and be careful not to use culturally-specific allusions or organisational jargon. I once gave a lecture on British industrial relations to a group of Russian trade union officials and they were baffled by my apparent reference to a department store which never opened. I had mentioned the "closed shop"!
  • Beware of speaking for too long. The British aristocrat Lord Brabazon once said: "If you cannot say what you have to say in twenty minutes, you should go away and write a book about it". Abraham Lincoln's address at Gettysburg in 1863 lasted a mere two minutes, but it is one of the most memorable speeches ever delivered. Nobody ever complains that a speech is too short - and there's usually a question and answer session to use up the rest of the time and to make further points.
  • When it's all over, consider creating an on-line version of the speech. If you put the text on a web site, you can add hyperlinks to more detailed information and provide up-dates to keep the material topical and relevant. In this way, you have a 'live' document and you reach a much wider audience. Also you can blog or tweet about the speech to give it more publicity.

FURTHER READING

"Speeches That Changed The World" with introduction by Simon Sebag Montefiore (Quercus, 2005)

ROGER DARLINGTON

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