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Date someone who will fight to be with you every day.
Where out of the ocean of faces, the myriad of choices, and infinite possibilities, he chooses you. When despite the instantaneous attraction, the fleeing connection, and the elusive search for love that is associated with modern dating, he knows it is you he’s looking for.
There is no hesitance, no second-guessing, and no back-up plan. It is you he is in love with. You captivate his every thought.
You are what he first thinks of when he wakes up, and the last thing that crosses his mind before falling asleep. He does not put you on the sideline but the center of his life. He does not put you on a pedestal, but sees you for who you and loves you just as much if not more. He is not with you out of boredom or loneliness or any other reason, but because he loves you.
Date someone who will fight to show you how much you mean to him. There is no confusion, mixed signals, or grey areas.
He shows up every single day and proves his conviction in his feelings for you. He establishes a strong presence in your life that you don’t have time to miss him. He hands you his whole heart and tells you firmly, how you are the only one for him.
He brings you to your favorite places not to impress you, but because he wants to see your delighted smile. He tells you everything there is to know and more. He asks about you and both of you exchange secrets of your souls.
Date someone who will fight for you during tough times. When sunshine and rainbows cease and the darkest nights persist.
He is not okay with your silence and questions you what it means. He chases after you when you storm off in the middle of the argument. He fights for you even when you don’t believe you deserve him. He tears down all your walls and shows you there’s nothing to be afraid of.
His love is boundless and without restraint. He is willing to follow you to the ends of the earth to show his sincerity. He wants to love you to the end of time and to eternity and beyond. He does not see the end of you and him no matter what troubles loom ahead.
Date someone who will fight to be your equal. Your sidekick, your partner, and your best friend.
When you want to run away, he grabs your hand, all too willing to escape this life with you. With him, the rest of the world just melts away. Life is one big adventure. The sun shines brighter. You breathe easier. And your heart is bursting with so much love and happiness.
He is your solace and is a great source of comfort from the harsh reality of life. He is your lighthouse that burns brightly and guides you to shore amidst dangerous times. He is your biggest muse for pushing you to try harder and inspires you to greater heights.
Date someone who will fight for you because you promise when you find him, you will do the same for him.
He is worth all your affection, your effort, and the wait. Until then, don’t settle for anything less.
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“Bon Iver” is an American indie folk band from Wisconsin, founded by singer-songwriter Justin Vernon in 2006. The name “Bon Iver” is taken from the French term “bon hiver” meaning “good winter”. There are five members of Bon Iver: Justin Vernon, Sean Carey, Michael Lewis, Andrew Fitzpatrick and Matthew McCaughan.
In 2006, Vernon moved to his father’s isolated cabin in Dunn County, Wisconsin. He moved there primarily to try and heal from previous events in his life like not only a breakup of a relationship, but also the breakup of a previous band he was in (DeYarmond Edison) as well as a bout of mononucleosis hepatitis. It was in this cabin that Vernon wrote Bon Iver’s first album (and arguably their best) “For Emma, Forever Ago”, and wrote, recorded and played everything himself, without the help or aid of producers. “Skinny Love” is the third track off the album and probably the most well-known and popular song of the band’s. Despite it only having two verses, the song still manages to be extremely heart wrenching and relatable.
“Come on, skinny love, just last the year
Pour a little salt, we were never here
My, my, my, my, my, my, my, my
Staring at the sink of blood and crushed veneer
I tell my love to wreck it all
Cut out all the ropes and let me fall
My, my, my, my, my, my, my, my
Right in this moment, this order’s tall”
The first verse starts with the namesake of the song: “Skinny Love”. With an interview with Pitchfork, Vernon explained the phrase “skinny love” as not having weight: “Skinny love doesn’t have a chance because it’s malnourished”. Vernon is hoping it will last a little longer, at least for the rest of the year, and hopes that by pouring salt, it’s healing properties will help heal the wound that is the relationship, as if it never happened. The “my, my, my…” line could be a reference to when an individual says “oh my” in shock. “Staring at the sink of blood and crushed veneer” could be alluding to the fragility of the relationship in the song. He wants his lover to ruin the relationship, and to just let him go and fall; to give up on him. But, he knows that in this moment this a big thing to ask of his lover (this order’s tall).
“And I told you to be patient
And I told you to be fine
And I told you to be balanced
And I told you to be kind
And in the morning I’ll be with you
But it will be a different kind
And I’ll be holding all the tickets
And you’ll be owning all the fines”
The chorus shows Vernon as an extremely bossy and demanding lover, telling his lover how to act. Perhaps this is just him telling the lover how to act with him, to his patience while he’s in a dark time of his life. He’ll still be with his lover in the morning, despite him feeling as if that they haven’t been all the things they wanted them to be, so it will feel different. And because of this, he’ll be giving the lover “tickets” that she needs to pay the fines for – which could mean that Vernon is blaming the lover for the fact that he is feeling this way or that this is why the relationship is “skinny”.
“Come on, skinny love, what happened here?
Suckle on the hope in light brassiere
My, my, my, my, my, my, my, my
Sullen, load is full, so slow on the split”
The second verse is Vernon trying to figure out why the relationship turned sour, and how he’s still holding onto the relationship hopefully via the form of physical intimacy: “in light brassiere”. “Sullen, load is full, so slow on the split”, could be referring to how Vernon felt he had a lot going on in his life and in his mind, so he was slow to split the relationship.
“And I told you to be patient
And I told you to be fine
And I told you to be balanced
And I told you to be kind
And now all your love is wasted
And then who the hell was I?
And I’m breaking at the britches
And at the end of all your lines”
The chorus repeats again, but with the last four lines different from the first. Vernon feels as if the lover’s love towards him has been wasted and was this entire time, leading him to question and think about his own identity and whether he was of any worth to her. He’s now breaking at the “britches” which is another term for trousers, so using imagery to further emphasize how him and this relationship are falling apart, but he’s still being held onto by his lover, but that is breaking too.
“Who will love you?
Who will fight?
Who will fall far behind?”
The final verse of the song is fairly ambiguous, as it’s not made clear whether these are questions Vernon is asking himself or the lover. If directed towards himself, it could be viewed as the beginning of the breakup and mourning period of the relationship; if it’s directed towards the lover (maybe now ex-lover), it could be Vernon firing back at them, asking them how they’ll ever find someone who will love and fight for them, and fall behind for them like he did.
There is no official music video for the song, despite its immense popularity.
Release Date: 8th July 2007
Songwriter/s: Justin Vernon
Album: For Emma, Forever Ago (2008)
Genre: Rock, Indie, Folk
Chart Rankings (2011- 2014): #2 in Australia, #15 in Austria, #3 in Belgium Ultratop 50 Flanders Charts, #4 in Belgium Ultratop #50 Wallonia, #2 in France, #73 in Germany, #22 in Ireland, #29 in Japan, #2 in the Netherlands Dutch Top 40, #1 in the Netherlands Single Top 100, #2 in New Zealand, #88 in Poland, #17 in Scotland on the Offical Charts Company, #19 in Switzerland, #17 in the UK Singles Charts, #37 in the US Billboard Adult Top 40, #40 in the Alternative Songs chart, and #24 in the Hot Rock Songs chart.
Certifications: 7x Platinum in Australia, Platinum in Belgium, Gold in Canada, Platinum in Denmark, Platinum in France, Platinum in Italy, Gold in Switzerland, and Platinum in the US and the UK.
I know you don’t think you deserve someone like this. I know you think you don’t deserve anything remotely good in your life. Maybe you have low self esteem. Maybe you have a broken heart. Maybe you hate your life. But trust me, you deserve it. You deserve the kind of love that will make you believe in yourself again. You deserve the kind of love that makes you realize that you are special. Because you are.
You deserve all of the love this world has to offer you. And you, who has been through hell and back, deserve the greatest love in the universe.
You of all people, are worthy of love that never stays stagnant. You are worthy of love, the kind that illuminates the world around you. You are worthy of finding someone who appreciates every cell in your being. You are worthy of being with someone who smiles just by being in your presence. Who beams with pride just from knowing that you exist.
You deserve to find somebody who treasures you. And not just your body, but your heart. You are worthy of love that is not just on the surface. You’re worthy of love that adores all of your aches and pains and pieces that have been left behind you.
You have a right to be loved so whole heartedly, and fiercely, that you won’t ever question anything. You have been through so much already. You have been through heartbreak. You have been through loss. You have been through heartache and grief that you never thought you would get over.
You of all people are deserving of someone who won’t shy away from you. Who won’t see your differences and run. You are worthy of finding someone won’t grimace at your scars. Who won’t tear away from your embrace. You deserve someone who will hug you when you think you don’t deserve to be hugged. You deserve to find a love that won’t leave, no matter how many mountains you must climb together.
You see, love will never be easy. It will never be perfect. But please understand, you are worthy of damn near perfect love with someone who appreciates your imperfect. And it will happen one day. Some day. And you’ll find that person that will help you fight your battles, and you’ll find that person who will fight with every ounce of might they have, just to see you smile.
Fighting in a relationship is normal—and can even be healthy. Here, relationship Do You Know Your Love Language? Once you get the gist.
Love comes in many different shades of color.
Whenever love exists between two individuals, it is -- at the very least -- slightly different than any love that existed before it, and any love that will exist after it.
Love is created between two individuals, and just as no two individuals are the same, neither can the love between them be the same, however, love is still love.
When we see it, we recognize it -- no matter how many shades lighter or darker it may be than anything we’ve previously experienced.
If I had to describe love in one sentence, I would describe it as such: Love is that which we believe worth fighting for.
How much we are willing to fight for it, how much we are willing to suffer for it and give up for it lets us know how true it really is.
The only love worth having is the one worth fighting for -- because anything short of that just isn’t love.
It doesn’t matter whether we’re talking about life goals or lovers, if you aren’t willing to fight for them, if you aren’t willing to get your hands dirty, to go out of your way and make an effort to hold on to them, then you just don’t want them enough.
And regardless of whether it’s a goal or other, if you don’t want it enough, then you don’t deserve it.
People have many wants and urges. We often want more than is good for us -- and this doesn’t change when it comes to attention or love.
We’re social gluttons of sorts. We want to be loved. We want to be taken care of. We want to feel like we’ve found our home.
Which is great, except all those things we want do little more than build us a wider comfort zone.
No one, and I mean no one, lives a happy life entirely inside his or her comfort zone. Finding someone worth fighting for drags you out of that zone and into a more eventful life.
The question is do you love this person enough to step out of your comfort zone and into the ring to fight for him or her?
One of the main reasons a love worth fighting for is the only love worth having is it’s the only sort of relationship that will keep our attention for long enough.
I know this may sound a bit exhausting, but unfortunately, it’s true.
People get bored with things and individuals who don’t require somewhat regular attention.
Of course, too much attention or too much fighting tires us and makes us feel like the relationship is too much work, but a relationship that requires no energy is a dead relationship.
It’s not just about finding a love worth fighting for; it’s about finding a love we need to fight for.
Now, here’s the part that most people overlook entirely: Every single loving relationship necessarily must be fought for. It’s the nature of relationships.
All relationships, at the very least, take work. Fighting for love doesn’t always mean fighting off other suitors or making incredible sacrifices in the name of love.
Often, it’s simply making sure to make that extra effort, week in and week out, for the rest of your lives together.
It’s not a glorious battle, but it is one fought over a lifetime. And as far as wars go, a lifetime is a long time.
Are you having trouble understanding yourself? Your life? Are you uncertain as to what you ought to do, where you ought to go, whom you ought to be? You’re not alone.
Many an individual in this world seems to be lost or confused about his or her purpose in life -- it’s natural.
Especially for those living comfortable lives in which survival isn’t on the top of the priorities list, already feeling like it’s a given.
When life is good to us from the start, it can be difficult to find our place in it. It’s not our fault; it’s the way human beings were designed.
We’re survivalists who are so intelligent, many of us no longer fear the possibility of not meeting our most basic needs.
The problem with this is because we never have to fight for anything, we never understand what is worth fighting for.
This is often why loss, losing something or someone, or fighting off that loss shows us what that thing or person means to us.
Fighting may be animalistic in nature, but we are animals after all.
Every man, woman and in between deserve someone who loves them so much that he or she would be willing to fight for them tooth and nail.
If you really think about it, having someone willing to fight for you, to protect you, to even fight your battles if need be, is exactly the reason human beings partnered up to begin with.
We seem to have this ingrained in us, literally needing a partner who -- at the very least -- we believe would fight for us if it came down to it.
Not even necessarily fight for us with fists but fight for us with the decisions they make, the way they plan our lives, the way they forgive and do all they can to keep the relationship together.
Anything else feels like abandonment. Jumping ship when the waters get rough causes the entire relationship to drown. No one deserves to be abandoned, especially not at a time of need.
If you aren’t willing to fight for the love the two of you share, then she deserves better. He deserves better.
You deserve to be better.
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